Etiquette

A type of ancient Jiali. It is a coming-of-age ceremony for Han women. It is commonly known as "going up" and "going up the head". 笄, that is, hairpins. Since the Zhou Dynasty, it was stipulated that aristocratic women should perform the ritual before marrying after the engagement (marriage). It is generally held at the age of fifteen, and if one has not been allowed to marry, it is also performed until twenty. The shou fu is to change the hairstyle of the young during the ceremony, tie the hair into a bun, then wrap the hair in a black cloth, and then insert the hairpin into the bun. The person who officiates the ceremony is the head of the female household, and the female guest invited is the maiden's crown, indicating that the girl can marry when she reaches adulthood. After receiving the edict, aristocratic women generally have to receive adult education in the palace or clan, and are awarded "women's virtues, women's appearance, women's merits, women's words", etc., as a daughter-in-law must have the skills of dealing with people and serving her aunt and serving her aunt and the skills of female red work. In later generations, it was changed to the mother of the girl to declare the precepts and teach them to be courteous, which was called "teaching tea". If a girl is 15 years old, she is called "and Xuan". "Etiquette. Taxi Wedding": "Women are allowed to marry, and they are courteous, and they are called words." The Book of Rites. "Women's ...... Five years out of ten. ”

1. The age of the salute

The "Zhou Li" and the ancient custom are to perform the ritual around the age of fifteen, and at the latest at the age of twenty.

2. Date of prostration

The third day of the third month of the lunar calendar - Daughter's Day (Shangsi Festival).

3. Pay attention to the problem

1) Female attendees such as guests, priests, and praisers are women. The place of worship should be in the hall.

2) Jialu: The ancient rite women's ceremony is the same as the men's crown ceremony, and there are also three plus, two plus, etc. The crown is served on a plate, and the top is covered with a handkerchief, and it is held by a priest. The men's three plus are scarves, hats, and heads, and women also have a variety of hairpin crowns.

Fourth, the concise operation of the etiquette

【Preparation for the event】

1 Zheng day: that is, the date is determined.

2. Guests, precepts: that is, to determine the participants and invite them by invitation or various communication methods. For guests, parents are invited three days in advance (at the latest).

Participants:

The Ruler;

The owner is usually the parents of the detainer;

Zhengbin - a virtuous and talented female elder;

There is 1 person in the division - the person who is the person who trays for the retainer;

1 person of praise - to assist the guest in the salute, generally for the friend and sister of the person;

A number of spectators.

3. Utensils and furnishings: venues, costumes, rituals, music, etc.

Venue: In ancient times, the ceremony was carried out in the "family temple", and facilities were also built to the east of the main hall, called the "East Room".

【Uniform】

1) Picking clothes: Picking clothes is the children's clothes worn before the salute. According to the information of the crown ceremony, the style is a short gown and trousers, a cloth of silk (black) cloth, and a vermilion brocade edge.

2) Initial addition: hairflute and ropa, plain skirt, like a middle coat. There is no ornamentation on the edge of the garment, and the belt is made of ordinary muslin belt.

3) Plus: hairpins, curly deep clothes.

4) Three plus: hairpin crown. Formal long-sleeved dresses with tops and bottoms. Ornaments such as ribbons. Placement of clothes: folded in order, with the collar facing east, placed on the seat from north to south, and placed on the east side of the venue; The hair ornaments to be added, held in the plate by the division, standing in the west of the venue, facing south, lined up from east to west, in order: hairpin, hairpin, hairpin.

Description: The costumes of the three additions have different meanings, symbolizing the process of the girl's growth - the color of the clothes is pure, symbolizing the innocence of the girl; The light and elegant skirt symbolizes the innocence of the cardamom girl; The dignified deep clothes (especially the curved ones) are recognized as the most beautiful clothes of the Han women, symbolizing the brightness of the flower girl; Finally, the grand large-sleeved dress reflects the aesthetic orientation of Han women - graceful and elegant.

【Ritual】

(1) 1 glass of liquor

(2) 1 serving of rice

(3) A few smaller ones

(4) 3 mats: 1 mat is placed on the east side of the venue to place the three sets of clothes to be worn. The other two are placed side by side on the west-side side of the center of the field, with seat cushions (for kneeling).

(5) 1 cup

(6) Incense burner, incense

(7) 1 wall chart

(8) A number of seat cushions for spectators.

【Music】The celebrant, the order of heaven and earth; The musician is the sum of heaven and earth. The Chinese civilization of ritual music is a whole, and ritual music is inseparable.

【Etiquette Course】

1) Welcome: The host stands on the east steps and waits for the guests; There is a tray standing under the west steps; Guests stand outside the venue and wait; After bathing, change into clothes and shoes, and sit in the east room (dressing room) and wait; The music begins.

2) In place: There is a strict order. When the guests arrived, the parents stepped forward to greet them, and after bowing to each other, the guest of honor sat in the seat of the guest of honor; Guests are seated in the viewing seats; The host takes his seat only after the guests are seated.

3) Opening ceremony: The host (father) gets up and gives a brief speech.

4) The one who is in place: The one who praises comes out first, washes his hands, and takes his place on the west steps; The person came out of the hall and went to the venue, facing south, to bow to the guests. Then sit facing west (i.e., kneel) on the seat of the ruler. The praiser combs his hair and places the comb on the south side of the mat.

5) Binbin: It is to prepare for the guests to wash their hands. Zhengbin got up first, and the host then got up to accompany him. Zhengbin washed his hands and dried them at the bottom of the east steps. After giving way to each other, the guest of honor and the host return to their respective seats.

6) Initial Addition: The one who is on the Horn turns to sit in the East; Yousi presented Luopa and the hairpipe, and Zhengbin walked in front of the leader; Loud chanting of the congratulatory message: "On the auspicious day of the month, the beginning of the Canadian Yuan service." Abandon your young ambitions, and become virtuous. Shou Kao Weiqi, Jieer Jingfu. Then he sat down on his knees (with his knees on the seat) and combed his hair and reined in, then got up and returned to his place. The praiser is the one who is the one who is symbolically right. The person who is on the guard gets up, and the guest congratulates the person who is on the line. When the ruler returned to the east room, the praiser took the clothes from Ariji's hand and went to the room to change into a plain shirt skirt that matched the top of his head.

7) Worship: After leaving the room in a skirt, the person will show it to the guests. Then face the parents and make a formal prostration. This is the first worship. This time, I am grateful to my parents for their nurturing kindness.

8) Two plus: the one who is facing the east sits upright; Zhengbin washes his hands again and resets; There is a priest who offers hairpins, and Zhengbin takes it and walks in front of the hairpin; Loud chanting of congratulations: "The auspicious moon is the first day." Respect for the majesty, the grace of the soot. Eyebrows live for 10,000 years, and will always be blessed by Hu. "Praise the one who is the flute and send the flute. Zhengbin knelt down, put a hairpin on the hairpin for the hairpin, and then got up to reset his position. The praiser is symbolically hairpinning. The guest bowed to the one who made the flute. The person who returned to the east room took the clothes to assist, and went to the room to change the deep clothes that matched the hairpin on the head.

9) Second prostration: The person wearing a deep coat comes out to show the guests. Then face the guests and make a formal prostration. This is the second prayer. This time, it is to show respect for the teacher and seniors.

10) Three-plus: The one who is facing the east sits upright; Zhengbin washes his hands again and resets; Yousi presented the hairpin crown, and Zhengbin took it and walked in front of the leader; Loudly chanted the congratulatory message: "With the righteousness of the year, with the order of the month, the salty gar is served." Brothers are there, in order to become a virtue. The astragalus is boundless, and it is celebrated by the sky. "Those who praise are hairpins for those who are reeling. Zhengbin knelt down, crowned the hairpin, and then got up to reset his position. The praiser is the one who helps the one who is crowned. The guest bowed to the one who made the flute. The person returned to the east room, and the praiser took the clothes to assist and went to the room to change the large-sleeved long-skirt dress that matched the head cover.

11) Three prostrations: After leaving the room in a large-sleeved dress and a hairpin crown, the speaker will show it to the guests. Then face the wall chart and perform a formal prayer, which is the third prayer. This time it is to express the determination to inherit civilization and serve the motherland.

12) Li: Youji removed the furnishings of the ceremony and set up the liquor banquet at the west step. The guests of honor are invited to sit at the table. Then he stood on the west side of the table, facing south.

13) Jiaozi: Zhengbin faces the west, the praiser offers wine, the speaker turns to the north, Zhengbin takes the liquor, walks to the front of the leader's seat, faces the person, and recites the greeting: "Sweet and rich, recommend Lingfang." Worship and accept sacrifices, in order to determine the auspiciousness. The rest of the heavens, the longevity test will not be forgotten. "The one who prostrated and took the wine. The guests bowed back. And the one who was on the table went into the table, and knelt down and sprinkled some of the wine on the ground for sacrificial wine. Then the wine is symbolically touched to the lips, and then the wine is placed on the table, and the priest serves the rice, and the person who takes it takes it, and symbolically eats a little. Those who are on the bow bow to the guests. The man got up and left his seat, and stood on the east side of the west steps, facing south.

14) The character of the flute: that is, to give the person the "word". Zhengbin got up and came down and faced east. The master got up and came down and faced west. The guest took the word for the person who took the word, and read the greetings and said: "The etiquette is prepared, the moon is auspicious, and the word is announced." The word Kong Jia, the fashionable person is suitable. It is advisable to be fake, and it will always be guaranteed, and it is said to be ××. The man replied: "Although a certain person is not sensitive, he dares not to come all night." The person who bows to the guest and returns the salute. The positive guest is reset.

15) Listening: The person kneels in front of his parents, and the parents teach him. The specific content is determined by the parents. The speaker listened attentively, and after the parents finished speaking, they replied: "Although the son is not sensitive, dare not only accept it!" Bow to your parents.

16) Thanksgiving: That is, the participants bow to all the participants present to show their gratitude. The flute stood in the center of the venue, and successively saluted the guests, guests, musicians, priests, praisers, bystanders, and parents. The recipient can nod slightly.

17) Licheng: The person who is in charge of the ceremony is placed side by side with the parents, and all of them stand up. The father announced to all the participants: The little girl has completed the ceremony, thank you for your generous participation! and thanked the audience again...... Praisers, friends and others can stay and tidy up the venue first. At this point, the ceremony is over.