"You think someone gave me hush money?" Driver Wang asked rhetorically: "What you think is too simple, it's not people, it's not people who give me hush money, it's them." ”

"Who are they talking about?" Guan Zheng asked carefully.

"Yes, it's them, the earth is moving a little bit, they're moving a little bit, and then it's going to stop." Driver Wang said some strange words, which made Guan Zheng feel incredible, what the hell was he going to tell us.

Xu Jiuyan is still dealing with the child here, the child is like a hairy hedgehog, no one is allowed to approach, Xu Jiuyan is standing at the door, her mouth is about to wear out, how many good things she says, people just ignore her.

Xu Jiuyan still said patiently: "You have to learn to take care of yourself, take a deep breath, forget about the people you shouldn't remember, no one will bully you anymore, do you understand?" ”

Wei Chunyu didn't listen, still covered himself in the quilt and shrank in the corner of the ward. Xu Jiuyan tirelessly said: "From a psychological point of view, the 'emotional overkill' reaction that makes a person particularly angry or overly hurt is usually related to the original family when he was a child.

People need to learn to look at what happened in the past from a present, more mature, and more objective standpoint. If your father has been very ruthless to you, try to use a new perspective, and you may understand that your father was also a last resort, or that he just accidentally said a word, but the hurt to you is so real and so deep. It's hard to break out of it unless you can re-explore. Even if your father's hurt is intentional, spiritual exploration and healing can help you mitigate the hurt and help you accept the shortcomings of others, learn to put yourself in your father's shoes, see why you did that, and forgive him. Children do not have the ability to bear enough, and when something happens, it can sometimes cause deep damage, but if we can trace the situation from an adult perspective, the wound will not be so big, which is why it is important to review the psychological process. ”

Wei Chunyu stared at Xu Jiuyan directly, Xu Jiuyan continued: "Why don't we read more books and listen to more speeches about interpersonal and psychological relationships?" ”

Xu Jiuyan's patience is inexplicable: "Or you can use emotional diary and lifeline analysis to have a deeper understanding of your own emotions and psychological interactions with others." Try to keep an "emotional diary" and think carefully about what things in your life will make you have an emotional overreaction, and record these kinds of things is very helpful for your growth and psychological recovery.

If we don't have the courage to face some painful experiences in the past and blindly suppress our hurt emotions, we will become slaves to these emotions and be controlled by them. Trying to suppress and deny these emotions will often erupt with greater intensity at unexpected times and occasions. Therefore, we should always introspect ourselves, learn to understand and deal with emotions. When we enter a crisis state of emotional excess, it is the best opportunity for us to re-learn, and this process of immediate reflection can help us to better understand the various mental processes in the subconscious. So don't give up easily, but take the opportunity to try to record it bit by bit, and through an emotional diary, it can help us to examine and think. What do you think? ”

Xu Jiuyan and Wei Chunyu have been going around for a long time, but Wei Chunyu still doesn't appreciate it. The psychiatrist next to him said: "Officer Xu, Wei Chunyu's illness is very serious, and it is not easy to solve. ”

Xu Jiuyan asked anxiously, "What's going on with her?" ”

"Psychiatric trauma is generally defined as 'an event beyond the experience of an ordinary person)," the psychiatrist said. Trauma often leaves people feeling powerless or helpless and paralyzed. Trauma happens suddenly and irresistibly. When we think of psychological trauma, we think of wars, floods, earthquakes, fires, air crashes, etc., but psychological trauma is much more than just these powerful events. In addition, neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse or violence that we may experience for a long time in our daily lives will promote the formation of psychological trauma, especially now that people's impetuous psychology is more likely to cause psychological trauma. ”

Xu Jiuyan was also very anxious and said, "Then do you have any good solutions?" ”

The psychiatrist said, "There are solutions, but they are not good for everyone." First and foremost, let the traumatized person feel external support, even if all the people have left you, there is still the "earth" to support you, and anything around you, such as chairs, tables, floors, even trees, air will give you support, when you feel like this, the body will feel relaxed, feel the changes in the body, focus on the good feelings, and gradually a new emotion will come: "I am not alone, I am safe." ”

The second pendulum effect is to bring the injured person back to consciousness in shock, and let the body being treated shuttle back and forth between "good feelings" and "bad feelings", paying attention to uncomfortable negative feelings such as tension and stiffness, as well as positive and neutral bodily feelings. This can help us learn to feel the various sensations of the body, and more recently learn to distinguish between the different states of imbalance and balance of the nervous system.

When the mind is traumatized, our body also changes and goes into a defensive state. Just like Wei Chunyu, synchronous tracking is to let the injured person recall a traumatized scene, and at the same time notice the changes in the body, they can consciously change the body's inertial response, and the trauma will be slowly repaired.

However, people who have experienced traumatic experiences, although the great defensive energy in the body is aroused, cannot be released for various reasons, but instead freezes and accumulates, and in similar situations in the future, they feel powerless and numb. Defensive reflexes are exercises that activate the body's natural energy to complete a natural defensive response process and restore the nervous system.

At the same time, actively adjusting body movements and postures can also act on our minds. Usually many people think that the relationship between our mind and body is a one-way decision-making and execution relationship, the mind thinks and commands, and the body is just a tool to carry out the will; But more and more psychologists, brain scientists and neuroscientists believe that the relationship between our body and mind is not so simple, they are an organic system that influences and interacts with each other, and not only our mental world affects the physical response, actively debugging the body's movements and postures, but also acting on our mind. ”