If we do a survey, we will find that at least 90% of the first phone call (or more) between a guy and a girl starts with "what are you doing" or "where are you", which may seem like a fine question, but unless the person really likes you, it doesn't seem like a problem...... It's really a sentence of life and death, and you kneel when you open your mouth.

Why? Because you don't have enough emotional intelligence! Because you have unconsciously exposed the three most serious problems!

First, you are a low-value or worthless man.

Second, you are a man who has no plan and is not attentive.

Thirdly, you are a nuisance/horror man.

Some people may think, wouldn't it ......? Just ask "what are you doing" or "where...... Is it such an exaggerated effect? was blacklisted by a girl? Are the girls so neurotic or perverted?

Don't say it, there really is.

As for why, let's break it down.

First of all, first, why do boys become low-value or worthless men when they ask like this? It's very simple, if a boy asks a girl these two sentences as soon as he comes up, then in the girl's opinion, the subtext of the boy is - [You are my concern, you are much more important than me, so I have to ask about your situation first].

Oh, of course it's okay for couples to ask this question, and they have to ask like this, and they must let each other know the subtext, but ...... This is between lovers, before chasing each other, asking such a question will only make you lose the price in each other's hearts.

So to put it another time (knocking on the blackboard), girls want to pursue their own princes who are better than ordinary people in every way, or even better than themselves (although they are often not very good themselves), rather than stinky dicks who grovel all the time.

Damn, even if it's not pursuing herself, girls want to be active around them and all the princes you understand!

Second, why do you ask...... What about boys being defined as "unplanned" and "unfocused"? In the same way, these two ways of greeting are actually very aggressive behaviors, in short, they are "topic requesting".

In fact, many boys don't think about what to say when they call at all, and they don't have the skills to improvise, so they come up and say, "What are you doing, where are you", it's clear that it's you who call, but you force the other party to create a topic to open the topic, which is really very annoying.

And as for the last point, why does it feel terrifying? Please, you and your sister have just met, and you don't even know each other, how can your sister understand your handsome heart? Isn't it just a preliminary understanding from the phone? That's all you need when you come...... What do you mean? Meaning is – I ask for your information.

But why do you ask for information about the other party? Because you are not confident, because you can't control the other party, so ask the other party to provide information to judge the other party's situation, to see if the other party is with the opposite sex or something.

But if you think about it, if the other party really has something else in mind (and it's about your), what can you ask in these two sentences? Again, this is a sign of low value.

And then, and then there was no then! The girl hates the boy who doesn't know each other well, and the boy who asks this usually waits for the girl to open the topic behind, or immediately throws a lot of related questions, I rely on it...... Do you want people to live?

What can a girl say? Out of politeness, ask something like aren't you busy? Are you resting now? Did you eat at noon? Something like that? Neurotic,The girl was still a little looking forward to you looking for something to do with her.,Or have some new topics to share.,But you don't have anything to fuck with.,That's all you can say casually.,And you're still doing this routine again and again.,It's made the girl very irritable (you fuck me off)!

Of course, boys may not think about it so much, the subtext of "what are you doing" seems to them to be nothing more than I like you very much, I want to talk to you, but I really don't know what to say, so I have to ask "what are you doing" and "where are you", because I don't have a topic, so please give me a topic or you open a topic, otherwise we won't have to talk......

Lo no Lo? Lo exploded, okay!

Calling the other party but not knowing what to say, forcing the other party to open the topic is the lowest value performance.

Tell me, my sister has nothing to do at home during the New Year's holiday, and when you ask "what are you doing", she said in her heart What can I do if I stay at home? Isn't this nonsense? It's not just nonsense, out of politeness, the girl has to smile and find a way to answer your questions, do you say you're annoying?

Many people (especially girls) live in a small circle, and there is nowhere to go out on weekends, and when you ask this, the other party says that I am at home all day, I am bored, I know what you mean by mentioning this...... Tell me, does she have a good impression of you?

Therefore, it is best to get straight to the point, most girls are very reserved, but it is limited to behavior, when faced with interesting topics, curiosity and desire to delve deeper will make it easier for them to let go of themselves and accept you more easily.

"Hey, have you watched a XX movie recently?" "A new café has opened in the south of the city, I look at the atmosphere is good, eh~ Have you been there?" "XX location: Yesterday, a man proposed to another man, have you heard? "The last time I saw you, I also had a dress for my seven aunts and eight aunts, I didn't expect it to be so precious, you are much more beautiful than my seven aunts and eight aunts......

Create a topic! Create suspense! A compliment without a trace! How hard is it? How hard it is!

It's good to talk like this when you talk to a girl on the phone, what to say, such as the skirt, it's hard for the other party not to respond positively to you at the beginning! Or change all kinds of funny names at the beginning to amplify your emotions, which also has a good effect.

Again, "At home?" Come out and I'll invite you to dinner, I know there's a new place to open a XXX delicacy, super good", call the girl, so the beginning is crisp and neat, not dragging the mud at all, so the effect is much better than the topic.

Of course, there may be boys who really want to check their household registration before dating each other, and they really want to ask the girls what they are doing......

Dude, it's not me saying you, if the other party really has a ghost (it's not your girlfriend before, this is still about you), believe me, even if you ask in a different way, you really can't judge it (if the buddy with this naïve idea was born in the ancient deep palace compound, he basically won't survive for three episodes, thank you).

"That's my answer and analysis."

After chattering for a long time, Brother Hao finally ended Sagar's question and added, and the entire Double Palace Temple can now be said to be a pin drop, and Saga is not satisfied with this answer...... Brother Hao didn't know, but Konstantin on the side ...... But when I heard it, my eyes were about to fall.

"Hahahaha~Not bad~ Sure enough, you still have two children~" After a while, Saga clapped his hands and couldn't stop giggling, this thing laughed and said, "The pickle girl is so skilled~ The program team pulled you in as a single dog on a blind date, it's really eye-catching~Hahahaha~"

…… What can Brother Hao say? Brother Hao is also desperate.

"Ah~Anyway~ I'm still very satisfied with your answer~ Congratulations to everyone~ Successfully passed the double uterus~"

After laughing for a moment, Saga was able to return to his senses, waved his hand, and said to Jian Hao and the others.