The love between Liu Bei and Sun Shangxiang has always been praised, but in real history, are they really like that?

The marriage between Uncle Liu Huang and Sun Quan's sister is reliable, and there are records in black and white in the authoritative history book "Three Kingdoms" in the "Biography of the First Lord" and "The True Biography of Pang Tongfa", which cannot be escaped; However, what about love? I'm sorry, but history books don't specifically record love. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 infoTherefore, the love between Uncle Liu and Sun Xiaomei is the same as Uncle Liu's "Uncle Huang" hat, if there is nothing, between reliable and unreliable.

Regarding the love between Uncle Liu Huang and Sun Xiaomei, all that has been recorded are folklore and romance.

For example, Sun Xiaomei's name is Shang Xiang; For example, Sun Shangxiang foiled her mother's plot to detain Liu Bei and recapture Jingzhou, and accompanied her husband to break through many obstacles and return to Jingzhou. After Liu Bei died of illness, Sun Xiaomei jumped into the river and was martyred.

These versions are very touching, but I have to endure great psychological pain to tell you that these are from folklore and "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", and to understand the truth of the Three Kingdoms, folklore and "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" are unreliable, "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" is a literary masterpiece, not a historiographical work, don't look at this book so authoritative, if it is written now, it would have been scolded to death by historians, because it is also ridiculous.

In short, the story of Mrs. Sun's deep understanding of righteousness and protecting her husband is not recorded in the official history, not even the name, Shangxiang is just a legend.

Regarding the record of the uncoordinated married life of the two sons, without a magnifying glass and microscope, two obvious records can be found in the history books.

The "True Biography of Pang Tongfa" in "Chronicles of the Three Kingdoms" includes a letter from Zhuge Liang, explaining why our Uncle Liu was so happy when he arrived in Sichuan, the reason is: I think that when our Uncle Liu Huang was in the Hubei Public Security, he was afraid of Cao Cao when he went far away, he was afraid of his uncle Sun Quan when he walked around, and he was afraid of his wife when he returned home. Now that he has Sichuan, his wife has returned to his parents' home, just like the bird that has left the cage and can soar freely in the vast sky, why is he not allowed to be happy?

This clearly means that Sun Xiaomei's departure is a thing that makes Liu Bei very happy, do you say this marriage is happy or not? If you don't believe me, I can turn out part of the original text: "In the north, I am afraid of the strength of Cao Gong, in the east, I am afraid of Sun Quan's compulsion, and in the near world, I am afraid that Mrs. Sun will be born under her elbows......... Now it soars and cannot be copied. ("Three Kingdoms Shu Shu Pang Tongfa Zhengbiography Seventh"), now spread his wings and fly freely, no one can suppress him, you look at our Uncle Liu, Sun Xiaomei left him, how happy he is.

Next, the history books recorded the hard married life of Uncle Liu and Sun Xiaomei: after a day of work, Uncle Liu dragged his tired body back home, which should have been greeted by his wife gently, but the reality is that the room is full of female bodyguards, with more than 100 people, equivalent to a garrison company, and all of them are loaded with guns and live ammunition, "more than 100 maids, all of whom are standing with knives and swords". There is a version that Sun Xiaomei was afraid of scaring Liu Lang and withdrew all the weapons, hey, this is what "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" said, which represents the good wishes of our readers, not historical facts. Uncle Liu's feelings at this moment, the history books say: "Heartfelt and always dignified", not majestic, but the kind of awe-inspiring that chills in his heart.

Uncle Liu's aura couldn't suppress Sun Xiaomei, so he had to use valuable entrepreneurial resources: the battlefield tiger general. This tiger will be Zhao Yun, General Zilong is an all-round employee, who can deter competitors externally and the boss's wife internally, there are not many such all-round employees, so Uncle Liu Huang specially appointed Zhao Yun as "in charge of internal affairs" to form a constraint on Sun Xiaomei. This is recorded in the "Biography of Zhao Yun" quoted in the "Chronicles of the Three Kingdoms". Having said that, here the author wants to complain, does it sound more and more like the boss's incompetence, the ulterior secret between the strong boss lady and the competent employee?

The age of both spouses is an important factor to consider in the context of the family's marital life. Uncle Liu is a post-60s generation, specifically born in 161; Sun Xiaomei's birth date is unknown, but it can be speculated that Sun Xiaomei has five brothers with the same father and mother, the third brother Sun Yi was born in 184 AD, and the fourth brother and fifth brother were born in an unknown year, but if it is calculated according to the logic of one birth a year, Sun Xiaomei was born in 187 AD at the earliest, and her father Sun Jian died in 191 AD, and Sun Xiaomei was born in 191 at the latest. Based on this calculation, in 209 AD, when Sun Xiaomei married 48-year-old Uncle Liu, her age should be between 18 and 22 years old, and there is a generation gap.

However, if you just break up because of the generation gap, then today's article is meaningless, and in that feudal patriarchal society, old husbands and young wives are not considered non-mainstream, I personally think that her final breakup with Liu Bei is related to her "masculinity".

"Masculine traits" is not a new term invented by Lao Liu, but a patent of psychologist Carl Jung. That is to say, a woman's heart is hidden in the spirit of a man, which is positively manifested as bravery, decisiveness, fearlessness, and masculinity, and negative as absolute, destructive, rude, and destructive.

Our little sister grandma, if in terms of temperament, can be called grandpa. Every time I see my husband, I have to have a military parade; In her husband's sphere of influence, she is "arrogant" and "lawless". The history books summarize her character as: "Talented and fierce", agile, strong and brave, I thought it was Zhang Fei.

Sun Xiaomei had no expectations for Liu Bei.

If Sun Xiaomei's "masculinity" is used in a positive way, it can certainly help her husband start a career, such as Mr. Murdoch's volleyball lady's wife, a slap can make the enemy look for teeth all over the ground at a critical time, however, Sun Xiaomei's "masculinity" is more reflected in the negative aspect for Uncle Liu.

For example, when Liu Bei left Jingzhou and went west to Sichuan, at this moment, Sun Xiaomei's mother's family came to pick up Sun Xiaomei. In "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", there is a warm explanation: the Sun family made up a lie, saying that the old lady of the Sun family was seriously ill and wanted to see her daughter. Friends, don't be deceived by the big fool of "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", the truth of history is: Sun Xiaomei didn't want to stay anymore and left resolutely.

This shows the negative aspects of Sun Xiaomei's "masculine traits": resoluteness, destruction. She may be out of a kind of Bai Fumei marrying a poor uncle, because the Sun family is a Jiangdong family, and Uncle Liu is born as a straw mat seller, so she has no intention of staying in the Liu family for a long time, she is not necessarily persistent in love, but she must be very persistent in not love.

One of the negative effects of "masculinity" is that it does not believe in expectations. In other words, Sun Xiaomei has no expectations for Uncle Liu, not because she doesn't expect his career, but because she doesn't expect to fall in love with him.

Sun Xiaomei knew that she would not come back, but she wanted to take away her husband's only flesh and blood, not out of family affection, but out of wanting to deal a heavy blow to this man. Maybe Liu Bei is not good enough for Sun Xiaomei, a man who only cares about running away by himself and throwing his two wives in the hands of the enemy, he is not much better for his wife.

Sun Xiaomei may have tried to take Adou away out of a destructive attempt. For example, some extreme mothers, out of disappointment and resentment towards their husbands, poison their own children, which is the negative "masculinity" in women's hearts at work.

Sun Xiaomei's "masculine trait" plays a major role in the formation of her father and brother. The Sun family is not a fuel-efficient lamp, his father Sun Jian is a hero, his brother Sun Ce and Sun Quan are heroes, with these gentlemen, can Sun Xiaomei not be grandpa? Therefore, "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" commented that Sun Xiaomei "has the style of brothers" and has the style of a brother in doing things for others.

After Sun Xiaomei left Liu Bei, what kind of psychology was Uncle Liu? Let's find Liu Bei's psychology from the clues recorded in the history books. First of all, Sun Xiaomei was able to leave smoothly, not because Liu Bei was not present, but because Liu Bei intended to release her.

In the "Chronicles of the Three Kingdoms", there are records in the "Biography of the Second Concubine of Shu Shu" and "The Biography of Zhao Yun", Sun Xiaomei took Adou to the east by boat, which alarmed the two fleet commanders of the Jingzhou Navy: Zhang Fei and Zhao Yun, they intercepted the river to rescue Adou, but let Sun Xiaomei go. At that time, it was Zhuge Liang who instructed to release people. Zhuge Liang can make such a decision on the boss's family affairs, and he must have the boss's instructions. Uncle Liu is tired and disappointed with this gentlemanly wife, if she can take the initiative to go, of course she can't ask for it, even if she sticks a ferry ticket. Otherwise, with Zhang Fei and Zhao Yun, it would not be a problem to intercept Mrs. Sun. A woman's "masculinity" will anger her spouse, and the uncle of the post-60s generation let go of the post-80s beauty because he was angered by her "masculinity".

Liu and Sun's marriage was not very harmonious, especially the unhappy ending, which seemed to affect Liu Bei's later marriage. After Liu Bei entered Sichuan, he married another wife: Wu. Wu's ex-husband Liu Mao was a member of the Han family, and Liu Mao was dead at that time. Liu Bei is the emperor's uncle, marrying the wife of the Han clan is equivalent to marrying a sister-in-law, as long as it is the spouse of a person of the same clan and surname, it is not suitable to marry, this is not Lao Liu's point of view, it is Zhao Yun's point of view, so the minister at that time strongly opposed it. But Liu Bei still insisted on marrying Wu and was canonized as the queen.

Is Liu Bei's move an inertial behavior of an unhappy marriage? Perhaps, he suffered a lot in his previous marriage, and felt that marrying a young girl was really unreliable, so it was better to marry a teacher who had lost her support and had read the world for a long time?

The waves swept away the heroes and love, Liu Bei's psychology is unknown, but the previous relationship history has an impact on the subsequent relationship and marriage, whether it is a negative or positive impact.