I took two days off tonight with my girlfriend.

I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

From childhood to adulthood, there are different troubles at different stages.

In elementary school, parents manage too much and have no freedom.

In junior high school, there was a lot of pressure to study and unsatisfactory grades.

In high school, love has just begun, but the lover has not yet come.

University is heaven, but it turns out that it is only delusional.

After graduation, I am confused and do not know where the future lies.

No matter what age or stage. Dealing with people is what we have been struggling with, learning, and worrying about.

Unconsciously, because he didn't care about small things, he lost a friend.

Straightforward and fast-hearted, because his nerves are big and open-mouthed, he offended a classmate.

hesitated, because he was entangled after thinking about it, and he put on the stall "see death and don't save it".

Is it difficult to deal with people? We can't help but start asking ourselves.

Slowly dealing with people has become a kind of knowledge, derived from countless branches, making people hazy and confusing in doing things, plus all living beings have different personalities, so that we don't know what it means to deal with people, and we don't understand how to deal with people.

Ten thousand swords return to the origin, through the branch to trace the origin of doing things for people, in fact, it is not difficult to find that many times it is difficult to deal with people and things in how to choose, the difficulty is that we are always measuring and struggling.

Therefore, when we are faced with the tangled behavior of dealing with people, we might as well talk about things.

On June 21, 1870, in Tianjin, a group of people set fire to a French church called "Wanghailou", and killed 20 foreign missionaries and expatriates, mainly French, after the incident, the foreign forces led by France pressed the border, the Qing government hurriedly sent Zeng Guofan to investigate the case, the case finally ended with the Qing government executing 16 Chinese prisoners and ending the case - this incident is the famous "Tianjin Teaching Case" in modern history, also known as the "Burning Wanghailou Incident"

The beginning and end of the incident are roughly as follows:

After the Sino-French Treaty of Whampoa in 1844, many foreign missionaries came to China to preach, and at the same time they also did some charitable work, such as taking in some homeless children. As a result, many ruffians heard that foreigners were taking in children, so they abducted them everywhere and sold them to churches as a wealthy business.

At that time, there was a general xenophobic sentiment among the Chinese people, and many people did not understand the methods of the missionaries, and dozens of babies died (due to disease, plague, etc.).

The priest and the nun arranged for the funeral workers to bury them, and the workers buried them at will in order to cut corners, but the priest did not supervise, because the burial was too shallow, and the wild dogs smelled the smell and dug up the dead babies and ate them, and at dawn, the dead baby stumps that the wild dogs did not eat were exposed to broad daylight, and the people did not know the cause and effect of the incident, so they began to guess: the church killed the child.

At that time, the church also had a function, which was to treat people. As a result, some people began to rumor that Westerners were going to use children's eyes and brains as medicine primers, and they spread the word to hundreds, which immediately caused huge public indignation, and they went to the church to ask for an explanation.

At that time, the French consul in Tianjin was called Feng Daye, and this man had a particularly short temper. When he heard about this, he went to settle accounts with the magistrate of Tianjin, and then when he disagreed, he took out a gun and wounded one of the magistrate's entourage (some say that he was the son of the magistrate).

This is what happened in front of the public, and the common people stopped doing it, and beat Feng Daye to death on the spot, and then rushed to the church and killed people when they saw them. The incident also spread to other countries, and in the chaos, the crowd killed foreign officials, clergy and nuns, and a total of 20 people, including Feng Daye and Simon. Among them were 13 French, 2 Belgians, 3 Russians, 1 Italian and 1 British. In the end, the common people set fire to the church and the French consulate.

From the perspective of international diplomacy, this is the wrong of the Chinese. But public opinion at that time believed that the people of the Qing Dynasty were still very good, and foreigners had bullied us for so many years, and they could finally export their evil anger.

Therefore, how to deal with this Tianjin teaching case has become a big problem. At that time, the imperial court transferred Zeng Guofan to the governor of Zhili and asked him to deal with the Tianjin teaching case.

On the one hand, there is the pressure of domestic public opinion, if anyone favors foreigners, he is a traitor, and he will definitely leave a stench for 10,000 years. On the other hand, the foreigners were not vegetarians, and the French had already driven their warships to Dagukou at that time.

As a responsible minister, if he does not compromise with foreigners and does not deal with it appropriately, it is a kind of irresponsibility to the country, and this problem is placed in front of Zeng Guofan.

How did Zeng Guofan deal with it? If we look at it again today, we will find that he actually handled it very simply, in three steps.

The first step is to kill the person? Whoever kills someone is the one who breaks the law, and if he is caught, he must be killed. Later, when an investigation was conducted, more than a dozen people stormed into the church and killed people, all of whom were arrested and cut down, and 20 people were sentenced to death.

Ambassadors, consuls, and diplomats of other countries should not make trouble around me, and we will pay as much as you say we will lose, and in the end we will pay a total of 450,000 taels of silver.

In the third step, it was the turn of the French, who suffered the most and hated the most. Didn't the Chinese kill their consul Fengdaye?

You said that killing a diplomat was degrading to the country, so we apologize. Who connived at these killings of diplomats? The Minister of International Trade in Tianjin at that time was respectful. Since Chonghou has not handled this matter well, he will go to France to apologize on behalf of the Chinese government. At that time, he was also in power in France by a well-known political figure named Thiers. Thiers received Chonghou, and Thiers also said: "What France wants is not the head [of the Chinese], but the maintenance of order and the observance of treaties." ”

In fact, the process of handling this incident embodies four words: Treat things as they are. Don't think that this matter is very simple, if it was to comply with the bewildered people at that time, it would be ushered in by the ships and cannons of foreign powers.

Discuss things on the facts, that is, discuss and analyze the rights and losses of the people and things that are said, and often do not need to "how to do before contacting this person", that is, to comment on one thing, one problem, or to comment on several things and several problems. Of course, thinking and arguing on the basis of facts need to be based on reality and guided by facts. In life, we generally do not handle interpersonal relationships well, often because we lack the ability to talk about things.

From childhood to adulthood, there are different troubles at different stages.

In elementary school, parents manage too much and have no freedom.

In junior high school, there was a lot of pressure to study and unsatisfactory grades.

In high school, love has just begun, but the lover has not yet come.

University is heaven, but it turns out that it is only delusional.

After graduation, I am confused and do not know where the future lies.

No matter what age or stage. Dealing with people is what we have been struggling with, learning, and worrying about.

Unconsciously, because he didn't care about small things, he lost a friend.

Straightforward and fast-hearted, because his nerves are big and open-mouthed, he offended a classmate.

hesitated, because he was entangled after thinking about it, and he put on the stall "see death and don't save it".

Is it difficult to deal with people? We can't help but start asking ourselves.

Slowly dealing with people has become a kind of knowledge, derived from countless branches, making people hazy and confusing in doing things, plus all living beings have different personalities, so that we don't know what it means to deal with people, and we don't understand how to deal with people.

Ten thousand swords return to the origin, through the branch to trace the origin of doing things for people, in fact, it is not difficult to find that many times it is difficult to deal with people and things in how to choose, the difficulty is that we are always measuring and struggling.

Therefore, when we are faced with the tangled behavior of dealing with people, we might as well talk about things.

On June 21, 1870, in Tianjin, a group of people set fire to a French church called "Wanghailou", and killed 20 foreign missionaries and expatriates, mainly French, after the incident, the foreign forces led by France pressed the border, the Qing government hurriedly sent Zeng Guofan to investigate the case, the case finally ended with the Qing government executing 16 Chinese prisoners and ending the case - this incident is the famous "Tianjin Teaching Case" in modern history, also known as the "Burning Wanghailou Incident"

The beginning and end of the incident are roughly as follows:

After the Sino-French Treaty of Whampoa in 1844, many foreign missionaries came to China to preach, and at the same time they also did some charitable work, such as taking in some homeless children. As a result, many ruffians heard that foreigners were taking in children, so they abducted them everywhere and sold them to churches as a wealthy business.

At that time, there was a general xenophobic sentiment among the Chinese people, and many people did not understand the methods of the missionaries, and dozens of babies died (due to disease, plague, etc.).

The priest and the nun arranged for the funeral workers to bury them, and the workers buried them at will in order to cut corners, but the priest did not supervise, because the burial was too shallow, and the wild dogs smelled the smell and dug up the dead babies and ate them, and at dawn, the dead baby stumps that the wild dogs did not eat were exposed to broad daylight, and the people did not know the cause and effect of the incident, so they began to guess: the church killed the child.

At that time, the church also had a function, which was to treat people. As a result, some people began to rumor that Westerners were going to use children's eyes and brains as medicine primers, and they spread the word to hundreds, which immediately caused huge public indignation, and they went to the church to ask for an explanation.

At that time, the French consul in Tianjin was called Feng Daye, and this man had a particularly short temper. When he heard about this, he went to settle accounts with the magistrate of Tianjin, and then when he disagreed, he took out a gun and wounded one of the magistrate's entourage (some say that he was the son of the magistrate).

This is what happened in front of the public, and the common people stopped doing it, and beat Feng Daye to death on the spot, and then rushed to the church and killed people when they saw them. The incident also spread to other countries, and in the chaos, the crowd killed foreign officials, clergy and nuns, and a total of 20 people, including Feng Daye and Simon. Among them were 13 French, 2 Belgians, 3 Russians, 1 Italian and 1 British. In the end, the common people set fire to the church and the French consulate.

From the perspective of international diplomacy, this is the wrong of the Chinese. But public opinion at that time believed that the people of the Qing Dynasty were still very good, and foreigners had bullied us for so many years, and they could finally export their evil anger.

Therefore, how to deal with this Tianjin teaching case has become a big problem. At that time, the imperial court transferred Zeng Guofan to the governor of Zhili and asked him to deal with the Tianjin teaching case.

On the one hand, there is the pressure of domestic public opinion, if anyone favors foreigners, he is a traitor, and he will definitely leave a stench for 10,000 years. On the other hand, the foreigners were not vegetarians, and the French had already driven their warships to Dagukou at that time.

As a responsible minister, if he does not compromise with foreigners and does not deal with it appropriately, it is a kind of irresponsibility to the country, and this problem is placed in front of Zeng Guofan.

How did Zeng Guofan deal with it? If we look at it again today, we will find that he actually handled it very simply, in three steps.

The first step is to kill the person? Whoever kills someone is the one who breaks the law, and if he is caught, he must be killed. Later, when an investigation was conducted, more than a dozen people stormed into the church and killed people, all of whom were arrested and cut down, and 20 people were sentenced to death.

Ambassadors, consuls, and diplomats of other countries should not make trouble around me, and we will pay as much as you say we will lose, and in the end we will pay a total of 450,000 taels of silver.

In the third step, it was the turn of the French, who suffered the most and hated the most. Didn't the Chinese kill their consul Fengdaye?

You said that killing a diplomat was degrading to the country, so we apologize. Who connived at these killings of diplomats? The Minister of International Trade in Tianjin at that time was respectful. Since Chonghou has not handled this matter well, he will go to France to apologize on behalf of the Chinese government. At that time, he was also in power in France by a well-known political figure named Thiers. Thiers received Chonghou, and Thiers also said: "What France wants is not the head [of the Chinese], but the maintenance of order and the observance of treaties." ”

In fact, the process of handling this incident embodies four words: Treat things as they are. Don't think that this matter is very simple, if it was to comply with the bewildered people at that time, it would be ushered in by the ships and cannons of foreign powers.

Discuss things on the facts, that is, discuss and analyze the rights and losses of the people and things that are said, and often do not need to "how to do before contacting this person", that is, to comment on one thing, one problem, or to comment on several things and several problems. Of course, thinking and arguing on the basis of facts need to be based on reality and guided by facts. In life, we generally do not handle interpersonal relationships well, often because we lack the ability to talk about things.