This kid, in fact, is disappointed in himself deep down, but he uses coldness and rebellion to cover up this disappointment.

At this age, children usually do not have enough self-control, and when his mother is gone and there is no one to supervise him, he quickly relaxes his requirements for himself, his grades decline, and his glory is no longer great.

Tao Jiahao was very disappointed in this, but he didn't have enough self-control to cheer up and face the difficulties, so he simply showed disdain for the results and broke the can.

In fact, he cares about his grades, what others think of him, and what teachers and classmates say about him. The more he cared, the more he had to pretend not to care, so as not to get hurt.

In fact, in this disguise, although he is immune to the harm that others have done to him, he himself has been hurting himself.

It is precisely because he knows that what he has done is wrong and that it is difficult to correct it, so when his grandmother Mr. Li nagged him, he would be so angry - if he could change it, he would have changed it a long time ago, what is the use of nagging!

So although he misses his mother very much, he never shows it, but acts very close to his father, because his father never criticizes or accuses him, does not nag him, but just dotes on him unconditionally and indulges him.

Luo Nan quickly understood and summarized Tao Jiahao's psychology. At this time, Tao Jiahao was still crying, Luo Nan took a tissue and handed it to him, Tao Jiahao took it, wiped his tears, blew his nose, and then gradually closed down.

When he stopped crying completely, he looked a little confused and explained stiffly: "I don't know what's wrong, I suddenly miss my mother." ”

Luo Nan smiled and nodded, "Actually, you are not satisfied with the way you are now, right, but you feel powerless to change." You hate yourself for being like this, and you have to make compromises with yourself. ”

Tao Jiahao said with a straight face: "No, I am very satisfied with myself. ”

Luo Nan said softly: "Each of us may not be able to be what we want to be. It is the right attitude to be able to accept yourself, to accept yourself happily no matter what, and to have the courage to make changes at the same time. ”

"I don't understand, why do you have to accept and change, isn't it a contradiction?" Tao Jiahao couldn't help but ask.

"To accept yourself is to understand and admit that you are the way you are for a reason, because of a combination of your own reasons and environmental factors, and there is an inevitability," Lonan explains. All these conditions combine to make you who you are. Like it or not, satisfied or dissatisfied, you are already like this, you can only accept it, and accept it happily and completely. This is who you are, maybe not perfect enough to fit your ideal image, but this is who you really are. ”

Tao Jiahao nodded again and again as if he didn't understand: "So, since you have completely accepted yourself, why do you want to change?"

Luo Nan smiled slightly: "Just because it's like this now doesn't mean it will have to be like this in the future." The initiative is in your own hands, and you can always take the initiative to change. Maybe you will be afraid, afraid that you will not be able to become what you want to be even if you put in the effort, so you simply don't work hard. Isn't that so?"

Tao Jiahao's thin lips moved, and he said in a weak voice, "A little." ”

Luo Nan smiled: "The ideal may never be realized, but at least, you will be better than you are now, that's what hard work is all about, isn't it?"

Tao Jiahao tilted his head and thought about it, and nodded.

Luo Nan didn't say much, just looked at Tao Jiahao quietly.

Tao Jiahao didn't speak, he could see that he was thinking seriously, and Luo Nan didn't want to interrupt his thinking process.

After a long time, Tao Jiahao asked, "Then how am I going to change?"

Luo Nan looked at the time and said with a smile: "This is something that should be discussed next time you consult." This is almost the end of this consultation. Tao Jiahao, I have homework for you to complete. ”

"What homework?" All the students were most afraid of hearing the word "homework", and Tao Jiahao also flinched obviously.

"You go back and think about it, what you still can't accept about yourself, and what you think needs to be changed, record them and discuss them next time. ”

"Okay. Tao Jiahao stood up and put his schoolbag on his back. At this time, he looked no different from other elementary school students, "Teacher Luo, goodbye." ”

Luo Nan looked at him with a smile: "Goodbye." ”

After doing this consultation, Luo Nan felt that the "qi" in his body was about to bottom out. After returning home, he had to use up the last low-grade spirit stone, so that he could replenish his qi back to the passing line. At this time, he only had 4 Qi Pills left on his body.

Friday, Case Workshop.

Luo Nan recounted the process of counseling Tao Jiahao, but omitted the part that reinforced his thoughts.

Teacher Huang Yaokun, who presided over the seminar, nodded incessantly, and said with a smile at the end: "The most important thing for counseling children of this age is to find something that can make him 'stand up'. Luo Nan you did a great job, first found his dream of becoming a police officer, which gave him a little motivation to change and was willing to continue to do consulting. Then you see his disappointment and reluctance in yourself, and stimulate him to make changes. Good, you're on the right track. ”

Luo Nan smiled happily: "Thank you, Mr. Huang." I'm going to spend another session with him to make him more accepting of himself and what he wants to change. The next step is to discuss specific changes and monitor him to make changes. ”

"You're more of a behaviorist approach. I think it's doable. Huang Yaokun said.

Teacher Zhou Yuewen added: "Children's problems are always a continuation of parents' problems. If his father's state does not change, it will be difficult for the child to last, even if there is a change in behavior. I suggest that you ask your father to come with him at the end of the consultation. ”

Luo Nan nodded in response, but he didn't think so. If you also consider that the effect is long-lasting and consolidated, it will take a long time to consult Tao Jiahao, so that you won't lose in the competition.

Next, Cheng Guangli spoke about his consulting case with pride.

His case is really very simple, and there is not much he needs to do, just listen attentively, give positive attention and appropriate encouragement, and it is difficult to make mistakes. After this consultation, his client has seen a significant improvement, and Mr. Huang Yaokun and Mr. Zhou Yuewen commented on him and praised him.

Cheng Guangli threw a smug smile at Luo Nan, but Luo Nan ignored him. Although it seems that Cheng Guangli is now half a step ahead, Luo Nan does not feel that he will lose. With god-level hypnosis in hand, there is no reason to lose at all.