The days flew by.

Although there was no progress on Du Zhenzhen's side, Luo Nan chatted with her every day, all in generalities, which failed to make her make up her mind to do a hypnosis.

The consultation with Liang Jiayi is gradually getting better.

From the third session, Lonan used cognitive-behavioral therapy to counsel her misconceptions to help her recognize and change them.

For example, Liang Jiayi's misconception that "I can't do anything well, I'm really a failure", Luo Nan asked her to reconstruct it linguistically, and no longer absolutize the concept.

That is, to change the thought process to "I can't do such and such a thing, but it doesn't mean that I'm a failure, it just means that I'm a failure in this matter." ”

For example, Liang Jiayi said "No one will really love me", and Luo Nan asked her to reconstruct this sentence and change it to "I don't feel that anyone really loves me". Not feeling that others are loving you is a completely different concept than no one else is loving you.

If you don't feel that others are loving you, it means that there is a communication problem, and after changing the way you communicate, you may find that someone actually loves you, but you don't realize it.

For another example, Liang Jiayi said that she was very good to her boyfriend, but her boyfriend couldn't treat her as she expected, which made her feel that her efforts were not rewarded and she felt very lost.

Lonan tells her that the golden rule of interpersonal communication is that if you want someone to do to you, do to him. And not the other way around.

The idea that "because I would do unto others will be treated as I would have them do unto me" is wrong.

There is also the problem of Liang Jiayi getting along with her parents, Luo Nan made her understand a truth: there are no perfect people in the world, and her parents cannot be perfect. Many of her expectations of her parents are actually unreasonable.

Admittedly, many of her parents' practices may have been problematic and fell short of her expectations. But because of this, she completely denied her parents, thinking that her parents did not love her enough, which is biased.

In the fourth consultation, after hypnotizing her, Lonan found another faint thought in her and reinforced it: "I have many shortcomings, but that doesn't mean I can't live happily. ”

Liang Jiayi has learned to tolerate and accept her own imperfections, to accept and embrace her own flaws, and to look at every mistake she has made and every unsatisfactory experience with an appreciative eye.

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"So, in fact, in the process of treating her, I also found a lot of problems with myself. Ronan said as he gobbled up the barbecue.

Tian Jingmei's eating appearance is much more gentle. She dipped a piece of grilled pork belly in the sauce, wrapped it in lettuce leaves, took a small bite, and chewed slowly. Hearing this, she smiled and said, "So our teachers often say that the process of the counselor doing the case is not only to watch the client's growth, but also to the counselor's own personal growth. ”

"Your teacher has a point," Ronan lamented, "and if I do a few more cases, I guess I will become a philosopher." ”

"Psychological counseling and philosophy are inextricably linked, and therapies such as humanism, focused short-term therapy, etc., are born out of philosophical thought. Speaking of humanism, I remember our teacher saying that if you want to become a humanistic counselor, the personal growth of the counselor is very important. Only by becoming a consistent and complete person can we serve as a mirror for the client to grow and achieve self-realization. It seems that Satya's therapy also pays more attention to this," Tian Jingmei swallowed a mouthful of barbecue and asked with a smile, "Luo Nan, have you figured out which school of therapy you want to focus on in the future?"

"Not yet," Luo Nan's face fell, "Now I'm taking it, and I'll use whatever is useful." I haven't been able to form my own consulting ideas. But I'm sure I'll find my way soon. ”

"Well, I believe in you too. Tian Jingmei said with a smile.

Luo Nan suddenly smiled, and he was in a good mood. How long has it been since his parents died, how long has he not laughed so happily?

The whole world became dark, as if a heavy curtain had been drawn. He is separated from the world by plastic wrap, and he can look at each other but cannot be approached by other people, even if there are many people around him—no, it should be said, the more people around him, the more lonely he feels, as if he does not belong in this world.

But by Tian Jingmei's side, he was able to calm down and reconnect with the world. She was like an anchor point for him, so that he would not be swept into the whirlpool and go far away from this world.

Does she like me?, Ronan thought, apprehensively. By Tian Jingmei's side, he had never used god-level hypnotism to sense her thoughts.

Perhaps, it's the fear of disappointing you with something you sense.

Perhaps, he hopes that this relationship will be simpler and free of impurities.

In the past few weeks, he and Tian Jingmei have met a few times, and it is not very romantic to say that it is a date. If it's not dating, it seems that there is a trace of heart-to-heart between the two.

Just like the relationship between him and Tian Jingmei, it is not a boyfriend and girlfriend, nor does it seem to be a simple friend, which is difficult to define.

What he can be sure of is that Tian Jingmei doesn't have a boyfriend now, but there are many people chasing him, including some men who are desperately good.

And Tian Jingmei's own conditions are enough to deter most people. She herself can be said to be a typical white rich beauty. Her parents are the owners of a furniture city and have a net worth of hundreds of millions. She herself has a smart mind, good academic performance, and a beautiful appearance, and it is strange that such a girl does not have many suitors.

Regarding her suitors, Tian Jingmei almost didn't talk about them, and Luo Nan also added her roommate's WeChat to ask a little bit.

But no matter how strong the opponent is, Ronan is full of confidence. I'm a man with god-level hypnotism in my hands. As long as you give yourself a little time to develop, you will soar!

"By the way," Tian Jingmei asked, "How are you doing in the psychological office?

"It's not interesting, but there are quite a lot of people here, and it's full every night," Luo Nan couldn't discuss the details of the case with her in detail, but it was okay to say two words in general, "I told you before, there is a child who is addicted to the Internet, his problem is basically solved, he now goes to class on time every day, and he doesn't play games anymore." There is a relationship problem with her boyfriend, and now she has almost adjusted. There are also adjustment problems, emotional problems, insomnia problems, all of which are now being addressed. I feel much more proficient in counseling now. ”

"Of course, once raw and twice ripe. Come on," Tian Jingmei smiled, "I believe you will become an excellent consultant." ”