Last Thursday, Friday and Saturday, the author had the honor to follow the college to participate in the "Warm Children's Heart" activity issued by the Provincial Youth League Committee.

The Provincial Youth League Committee issued it to our school, and the school issued it to our college.

The number of places is limited, and the author is favored by the leaders of the hospital because of a little foundation in psychology and hypnosis, which is an insignificant little advantage.

The main purpose of this activity is to go down to individual small towns in the province to visit those left-behind children whose parents leave home to work and make money, leaving only their children to follow their grandparents, grandparents, or even left-behind children with only one grandpa or only one grandma.

I hope to send them some insignificant care, and I am responsible for one of the links: psychological quality development training.

The Faculty of Humanities, where the author works, spontaneously participated in donations from top to bottom and completely voluntarily, buying schoolbags, rulers, watercolor pens and so on for the left-behind children we are going to visit. A total of seven large bags were packed, each weighing about 30 catties and almost 40 catties, and we boys carried it all the way to the destination. To be honest, my hands have been trembling since I came back.

When we arrived at the target school, we learned a helpless reality from their school leaders.

The original words of the school leader: "To be honest, I really didn't expect you to come, we all thought it was the same as usual, the above asked to report, and then there was a call for some concern, but really, for so long." You are the first batch, and we are really happy from the bottom of our hearts!"

From the mouth of this school leader, I learned several pieces of information:

1. The situation has been reported more than once.

2. The above did have the idea of wanting to help.

3. They have been consulted by more than one organization.

4. We are the first to really come.

At that time, I was very touched that the state did not want to take care of all aspects, but had no choice but to send it down because there were too many situations.

And then if you don't go, the top should no longer pay attention to the back......

On the day of departure, the road was closed by heavy snow, and the bus scheduled for the morning could not get out, so we had to change to the evening train. (My update was very uncomfortable from that day on, but I gritted my teeth and persevered.) ）

We were in the car at five o'clock in the evening, arrived in the town at one o'clock in the morning, and got up immediately at six o'clock, to be honest, it was actually a night of freezing and not sleeping well, and when the bed was not warm, no one would choose to lie in bed.

When we arrived at the target primary school, we first watched their flag-raising ceremony, which was orderly and very standardized.

When we arrived at the "conference room" provided by them, we began to distribute schoolbags and stationery one by one, and when the children took the schoolbags and stationery one by one, they showed a smile that they had not put down for a long time.

Afterwards, you can see the children chattering through the various new stationery that have been assembled in the new school bags, and can't wait to play.

Then the links are carried out one by one. Finally, it was time for the psychological quality development training that I was responsible for.

We divided the people into two waves, and the other wave was led by a young instructor from the college.

I brought this wave with a younger average age.

I found that many children never broke their smiles in the process of playing.

Laughter spread throughout the floor, and some children were reluctant to participate in group activities from the bottom of their hearts, and as soon as the game was finished, some children came to me and said, "Teacher, I don't want to play, I want to go back." ”

At this time, I was very sad in my heart, but looking at the smiles of the children around me, I knew in my heart that I couldn't take care of one or the other. Let the child go back to his seat and rest.

I divided grades 1 to 6 into groups, and each group tried to divide the children into one grade, and the older children and the younger children participated in one competition.

Sure enough, the effect I expected was achieved, they were very harmonious and united, even when facing junior or senior classmates whom I had never met. Because the game drove them to communicate with each other very naturally, the group they formed temporarily also broke out with a high level of collective honor. But in the process of playing, I always observe those children who have given up on happiness, and I always feel uncomfortable.

Finally all the outward bound training was over, and I quietly organized a few children who had given up and gave them a short hypnosis of happiness resources, because the time was really limited, and the results achieved did not meet my expectations.

And at this time, another wave of activities has also been completed, and a news has spread.

There is a child who has been carrying his new schoolbag on his back since he got it, and he is still reluctant to take it off even when he is playing games.

When I heard this, the sourness in my heart became even stronger. I like the new schoolbag so much that I am reluctant to take it off, what was this child like before......

In the evening, our group was invited to a meal by the school leaders of this elementary school, and I drank a lot with them, five glasses of three taels of liquor, and two bottles of beer.

I thought about it a lot that night, and I couldn't help but call home, and I was already an adult, crying like a child, talking to my parents.

Then I sat on the train in the middle of the night overnight, and I was about to return, on the rickety train, I endured waves of dizziness and sleepiness in my brain, desperately concentrated, and my trembling hands coded words on the mobile phone screen. Another time, because there was no signal to the wilderness, the content written was not successfully saved, and the whole chapter was gone, so I had to open WPS to finish writing and wait for the train to stop and then paste it for publication. I finally finished the day's task before 12 a.m., and then fell asleep......

I got off the bus at six o'clock in the morning, and everyone was about to fall apart, and I returned to school in a flutter.

The day after I came back, one of my sisters called me to have a chat with me.

She came with her child, this child is very aggressive, has strong language organization skills to communicate with strangers, and speaks very decently, I couldn't help but make a comparison with the left-behind children at that time.

Parents are the source and role model of children's self-confidence, and children who grow up with their parents can suffer a lot less.

However, this child also has the trouble of being accompanied by his parents.

When he saw me talking to his mother, he had the courage to say a lot of what his parents were not.

I immediately responded to him: "You did the right thing!"

My sister, who was sitting across from me, was embarrassed to defend her child: "How can mom be so bad." ”

I point out mercilessly, children have been controlled since childhood, and it seems that your education has been successful, but adults don't know it.

It's just that they are still young and don't have the ability and wisdom to do anything effective with their well-informed parents, so they can only let the sense of grievance accumulate in their hearts.

I have to hold back again and again, and I live in fear day by day, and I will slowly reject my parents.

Of course, he doesn't want to share a little secret with his parents, and he doesn't dare to share the joy with his parents when he succeeds, because he knows that his parents don't agree that he has such interests and hobbies.

So, excuse me, you have become the child's first-level defense object, but you don't want to solve this problem, but still use your absolute control over the child to suppress the child's desire to communicate more with the parents what is in their hearts, don't you feel ashamed?

The fuse of the rebellious period has been planted since the birth of the child!

The child saw that his mother was moved by my words, and then shook out that his parents often talked and didn't count.

I know that the best way I can help this child go home without being beaten and scolded is to correct the long-term thinking of my sister in front of me on the spot! Otherwise, the child will finally have the courage to express his thoughts today, and he will be ruthlessly crushed to death in his heart when he arrives at home!

He gave an example, he wanted to learn hip-hop dance, but his father never let him, once his father was drunk and inadvertently agreed to this matter, the child was very happy, and contacted the dance class with his mother the next day, everyone had already stepped into the door of the dance class, and the child's father made a phone call.

That's right, as you guessed, he ruthlessly repented.

Before the hip-hop incident, the child was promised that as long as he had a good grade, the family would buy a balance bike, and the child achieved it. But the parents also regretted it because of the price and safety issues, and the children seemed to be persuaded by the parents' hard work, but the parents' own image was also ruined.

Parents always regret it, even if there are 10,000 reasons to comfort themselves, I am for the good of the child, I am afraid that he will be hurt, afraid that he will delay his studies, and afraid of how he will be. Children practice their own bodies for the vanity of adults, which is the conventional vanity of adults.

Now that Chinese society is deformed, parents meet with each other, and they can't say on the surface that they are distressed: "My child studied until ten o'clock last night, and he couldn't persuade him." "Oh yes! Your child is so studious? My son studied until twelve o'clock last night? Really, I must let him go to bed early tonight!"

But the dignity of these children has also been trampled on again and again! They will no longer choose to believe in their parents' promises!

It's been a long time, this child has been remembering, this is the child's silent accusation to his parents: I have always remembered!

No matter how afraid adults are that their children will delay their studies due to various interests and hobbies, they cannot forcibly stifle their children's ideals.

If the child does not even have the right to do what he is interested in, will he still have ideals in the future? Will he still have the spirit of innovation? It is impossible to have it, because they have become accustomed to their own life, and they have been designed step by step, and they don't need to think about the next road.

Some children's interest is to learn, so their academic performance is very good. Some of the children's hobby is singing! So he sings very loudly. Some children's hobby is dancing, so his dancing posture is very beautiful.

Parents blindly use their own values: my child must learn well, my child must be how he is.

As everyone knows, parents always compare the areas that others are good at with the areas that their children are not good at.

The child's self-confidence has long been shattered!

Why don't you be interested in an area that is more interesting than your own child?

This passage is written about Zhang Yuefan, the protagonist of this work, who left home alone and felt it.

Finally, I would like to thank my parents for always allowing me to do what I am interested in, such as studying psychology after I went to university, learning hypnosis from my teachers, and for example, this work, they always support me unconditionally, and as my most loyal readers, they are always the first to read my updates.

Their reassuring voices came over the phone, and my heart was infinitely satisfied......

Parents who read this chapter, whether you have feelings in your hearts or not, I would like to say to young readers who are sons and daughters: "Talk to your parents more and express your thoughts bravely! I believe that the person they love the most has always been you, as long as you express your thoughts." They will definitely understand and support it!"