Zhou Xuanying paused, and then continued to say affectionately: "...... I don't think I like you, it's not that you're better than anyone else. In life, we will meet all kinds of people, but only you are the most special one. Meeting is the beginning of everything, only after meeting you, I suddenly discovered that our hobbies, opinions, and even aesthetics ...... It's all consistent one after another, one fit after another. I like you because your hug is just right to fit my little temper, I like you because your arms are just the length of your arms to wrap around me, I like you, it's my shortcomings that sparkle in your eyes.

Having said all that, I just want to tell you that I find that I really like you so much, to the point where I can't live without you......

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As she spoke, Xuan Ying's tears burst out of her eyes again, so frightened that Tang Chen hurriedly held her slightly powdered face with both hands again and wiped away the tears for her. "Why bother, you are a lady of the sky, and I am just an ordinary person, and I even have to rely on feng shui to eat. You and I are not originally from the same world, and if you are barely together, you have to sacrifice a lot, which is not fair to you!"

Tang Chen's persuasion was useless, Zhou Xuanying's temperament was soft on the outside and rigid on the inside, and no one could get back what was decided. Just like when she applied for university, her parents wanted her to stay in Fujian Province, but she had to go to other provinces, and no one could persuade her. In the end, both sides took a step back and compromised with each other, and Zhou Xuanying was able to go to Guangdong Province to study at university.

Fate is so magical, if Zhou Xuanying hadn't gone to Guangdong Province to study at university, he wouldn't have met Tang Chen;

"I'm willing!" Zhou Xuanying stared at Tang Chen stubbornly, and Tang Chen felt weak in his heart.

"But I'm ...... Can't I watch you suffer?" Tang Chen persuaded bitterly, "The gap between me and your family is too big, even if we get married, there are many ...... disputes."

This is also what Tang Chen cares about the most, he doesn't want Zhou Xuanying to suffer, let alone the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future, he is too difficult to be a man in the middle. If Tang's mother knew that Zhou Xuanying was a rich girl, wouldn't her status in the family be automatically shorter? With Tang's mother's temperament, how could she stand this! It is conceivable that if they live together after marriage, they will definitely have a constant cold war, and there will be many disputes, chickens and dogs, and there will be no peace.

Men are sometimes so miserable, one side is an old mother, and on the other hand, there is a person who may accompany him through the whole life, and no matter how he handles it, after all, the palms of his hands and the backs of his hands are full of meat! In China for thousands of years, because of such problems as marriage customs, raising children, and eating tastes, there have been few situations in which mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have disputed and even started to do so, causing both sides to cry? In essence, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still a problem of interaction between people, and as long as such interpersonal relations exist, contradictions are inevitable, but they are more or less, implicit or apparent.

In fact, Tang Chen is too worried, and there must be a conflict between the concepts of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The problem is that the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are piled up of small things, and they are solidified and erupted in details, and they are based on the "invasion" of married children by parents. If young people lack financial ability and are not independent in the four major events of wedding, buying a house, decoration, and parenting, it is easy to stimulate the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Let's talk about buying a house first, young people who have just graduated or have not been graduating long ago, and most people can't do it by relying on their own savings to complete the down payment for their first home. So relying on parents to sponsor it has become a matter of course. Why do young Chinese people like to buy a house at an early age? In addition to real estate being one of the few investment channels, the main reason is that "a house is a necessity for marriage". The number one factor for young Chinese people to buy a house too early is the "need to get married".

The need for marriage is obviously more directed at the woman. "Mother-in-law pushes up housing prices" is not a joke, it is not okay not to buy a house, the current mother-in-law is too fine, and if she does not buy a house, she will not let her daughter marry it. Some people joked, "Why is it difficult for a girl to deceive her mother-in-law?" because her mother-in-law has been a fool once." After all, it is not easy for the mother-in-law to pull the eldest daughter, and she definitely doesn't want her to marry and suffer.

Many parents often say to their children, "I don't want anything in return from you", and when this sentence is said, it must be true feelings. However, in the specific implementation, it is inevitable that it will be out of shape, and "taking people short and eating people softly" will also occur between parents and children. Because the parents have made sufficient contributions to the purchase of the house of the young couple, they may ask to live together, and even if the husband and wife are not willing to live together, they will lose the confidence to refuse. It seems that the problems caused by parents and children living together are just a problem caused by lifestyle habits that can be resolved and alleviated. But behind this kind of economic investment, there is actually a more powerful logic: because the most important asset of a small family is obtained by parents, parents have a major say or even the right to decide when faced with major family decisions. For example, if you think that the house price will continue to rise, and you want to borrow money to buy another house, but if the down payment for this house is given by your parents, and your parents do not agree with you to buy another house, what if you don't dare to say anything, because if you want to buy it, they will think that it is a waste of money, and they have a set to live in. If you want to buy another set, you might as well give them back the money from the down payment......

If you don't have a house, you won't get married, which is one of the biggest sources of conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that women find for themselves. It is impossible for a person to take all the good things, and it is difficult to do it because he wants the man's parents to pay for a house and wants to live without interference after marriage. If you want to be completely free from the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the only possible solution is complete economic freedom.

Let's talk about parenting, there are also many parents who still live in old houses after supporting their children to buy houses, and are reluctant to live with young couples. However, once they have a baby, this level will definitely not be avoided. After the child is born, in addition to the parents themselves taking responsibility for the upbringing, it is often necessary to be assisted by the elderly. It is more likely that the man's parents will be involved in this assistance work. Since then, there have been countless conflicts due to differences in parenting concepts. What's more important is that the son can't get used to the way his parents take care of the child, and he can say it directly, and even a few words of quarrel don't hurt, the daughter-in-law can only endure it, and the small contradiction finally becomes a big dispute.

Tang Chen is actually afraid of these points, after all, he knows Zhou Xuanying's temperament, and he also knows the temperament of the old mother, one is soft on the outside and rigid on the inside, and the other is at home. If you don't get it right, the family will definitely be full of chickens and dogs, and there will be no peace.

(End of chapter)