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"Auntie, in fact, I really don't mean to take it seriously. It's just that I really can't interfere in the arrangement of family affairs. In fact, if it weren't for the fact that Shen Jingyuan and I were in a bit of a special situation, I'm afraid my father and mother wouldn't have allowed me to know these things in advance. ”

Now that she can know everything about what is going on, she is already the enlightened of Yan Shengguo and his wife. You must know that the average girl's family follows the words of the matchmaker on the orders of their parents, and many of them have been set for life without knowing it.

Yun Xuanshi shook his head, a little helpless.

"It's because your marriage with the prince is not ordinary, so I want you to be very attentive. Even if there are Yan family lineages standing behind you, including a few side lines that still have some strength, plus the Yun family where your uncle and I are located, it will not be able to completely compete with the Dingguo Mansion.

If you are arrogant in everything, if you are not careful, it is easy for people to catch the flaws, and it is only harmless to make a small trip, if you really deal with you, I am afraid you will have to worry about your life.

The offense and defense between the families are not simply a contest between men, as a woman who consolidates the rear, it is also a constant sword and sword, but more of it is just the back and forth of the upper table.

It's good that you're too open-minded to show that you're a good-natured child. But this is your strength, and it can also be your weakness. The same upright person will like you more because of this, and the person who is not the same person as you is, because of the relationship of interests, he may step on you at any time or simply stab you in the back.

Even if you don't want to learn those selfish methods, at least you have to use snacks and take all precautions. ”

Seeing that Xuan Xuan's brows became more and more wrinkled the more she spoke, obviously really worried about her, Yan Shunhua couldn't help but hold her forehead.

How bad is her performance, or how absent-minded she is, so why she makes the other party so chatter and worried?

"Auntie, compared to Yarong, I really feel that my mind is already wilted and rotten, and I am afraid that Shen Jingyuan will dislike me for not being kind enough. ”

The heart of harming people is indispensable, and the heart of preventing people is indispensable, she feels that she has always done a good job.

It's just that how could Xuan Xuan let her be persuaded so easily?

"How can your cousin's situation be compared to yours? Although she is simple, especially in the relatively clean environment of the Yun family, it is rare to see family members falling into each other's affairs, but that is only because she was lucky to be born in the Yun family.

What's more important is that the person she wants to marry, Shao Jun, is reliable, his mother is also a close friend of his aunt, the Shao family's family background as a whole is more than a cut worse than the Yun family, even if Nan Nan does not do it right, as long as it is not too out of line, she can live a stable life for the rest of her life.

What about you? You have not lived in the family for a long time, even if the prince of the world gives you common sense, but that is also from the perspective of him as a man to teach you, even if he invited the grandmother to help you prepare, but because of the difference in status, no matter how experienced the grandmother, after all, it is a subordinate, it is impossible to teach you some things that you should know or even not understand as the head mother of the family.

This is one of them.

Second, the prince is reliable and has good skills, but his biological mother died early and was not compatible with his biological father, as the stepmother of his aunt, he also has his own biological children, and he will definitely have his own abacus. If you marry in the past, there are no elders to rely on, not to mention, there is a chance that you will be rejected or suppressed by them.

Something like this that is not a matter of life or reputation cannot be interfered with by outsiders. If they really want to teach you a lesson, unless you are attentive enough, you will only be able to bear it, knock out your teeth and swallow blood.

The courtyard of the Dingguo Mansion is too high, but no matter how high it is, the housekeeping is also a woman's business. Generally speaking, men will not interfere, which means that you will be facing the stepfamily and concubine of the current Dingguo Gong, of course, it is unlikely that the prince will intervene to help you, it is possible to sit in charge occasionally, it depends on how long the relationship between the two of you can last.

Third, a big family and a big business also means that not only is the water deep inside, but there are also countless people who are staring at it openly and secretly, and the only people who need to be guarded against are those who you can't think of and can't appear.

You may think that your aunt is worrying about the sky and deliberately exaggerating the truth. But unfortunately, the competition between the girls and the families has always been so cruel. There is a possibility that a man and a man can seal their throats with a sword, and a woman and a woman may be killed with a single move.

If you don't care, or if you are still in this leisurely and uncaring appearance, you will definitely suffer in the future. If you really can't make up for this defect in your temperament, I advise you to think twice about this family matter, and then consider it with the elders of the Yan family.

Shi Ziye is a fair and honest person, if he really loves you more than you, presumably if you really don't want to, he won't force you. ”

After Xuan Xuan finished speaking, he picked up the teacup and drank water, letting Yan Shunhua digest the large paragraph just now.

Yan Shunhua really didn't expect that Yun Xuan's family, who was optimistic about them before, also had a lot of doubts in her heart, and the reason why she said this was that in addition to the identity of her aunt, I am afraid that she had also exchanged opinions with Yun Ting.

"Uncle thinks so too?"

"Yes. This does not mean that women must be like this to be able to marry well, but in fact, throughout history, the famous people or people we are familiar with, only those with similar backgrounds, can live a more satisfactory married life.

The relationship between husband and wife is good, even if it is not sweet all day, but it is also safe, less disputes, less discord, whether it is for children or the whole family, this is the most favorable situation, after all, the family and talent are prosperous.

The reason why your uncle and I are not completely opposed, part of the reason is that the Dingguo Mansion will still want the prince to inherit the inheritance in the future, according to the current situation of the Dingguo Gong, presumably the old Dingguo Duke has made arrangements before he died, plus the emperor's attention now, as long as there are no major accidents, at least the prince is still in the decades, and the Dingguo Mansion is safe and sound.

Standing at the pinnacle of power, although it affects the whole body, many times it will be constrained by all aspects, but it has to be said that it will also enjoy great convenience, for example, as long as the relationship between the two of you is still the same, then the Yan family will make great progress because of you, and there will be a strong help in the cultivation and development of children. This can even be called the best opportunity for your Yan family in a hundred years.

Of course, with opportunity comes often danger. Moreover, I am afraid that most of the danger will have to be borne by you, after all, you are the link between the two families.

The prince is good, the Dingguo Mansion is good, the Dingguo Mansion is good, you are good, you are good, the two or three generations of the Yan family will definitely be better than now.

As for the other part of the reason, it is because I believe that although you are not as good as those ladies in the capital, but in terms of mental knowledge, you are far beyond the vast majority of them, even if the means are still slightly insufficient, but in the future, it is not impossible to quickly make up for it through training, after all, your comprehension is excellent, and your action is also very strong, so that many men sigh to themselves. ”

Yan Shunhua smiled bitterly when she heard this, "I thought that my aunt really had a lot of confidence in the relationship between me and Shen Jingyuan, but now I know that in fact, you are starting from the overall situation, thinking that if I marry in the past, I can barely cope with it as long as I am cautious, plus Shen Jingyuan is not wrong, and the Dingguo Mansion will not have major problems in my lifetime, so I approve of this family business?"

Xuan Xuan saw that her expression was a little bitter, and she couldn't help but put down the teacup.

"Girl, no matter how affectionate you and the prince are, the relationship will always change, aunt is not saying that you will definitely become bad in the future, but no one can say what will happen if you change. But one thing is for sure, the relationship between men and women cannot be as blazing as fire forever, you are now sweet and sweet, do you think this state can last for a lifetime?

If the fire burns too strongly, it is possible to burn everything, and if the honey is too sweet, it will no longer be a delicious taste that the tip of the tongue can bear.

It is true that husband and wife can live a better life only when they have an emotional foundation, but it is better to be sweet and long, which is beneficial to the body and mind than the lingering and strong wine that makes people drunk as soon as they drink it.

Between people, the most inescapable thing is the word profit, you don't feel impatient or even disgusted at the mention of these two words. It is better to have good use value for others than nothing, and even become a burden to the other party, or a bad role.

We are not opposed to this family business, from your point of view, it is because we think that you can do it, and the Dingguo Mansion can also ensure that you have no worries for a lifetime, and even promote the rapid development of the Yan family.

From the perspective of the prince, that is, compared to others, your family background is innocent, your personal knowledge is extraordinary, compared to other ladies, you don't have so many complicated relationships, and you also have the means to protect yourself. Even if the family can't help you, at least it won't be a drag.

Of course, aside from everything, the premise is that you have indeed developed a relationship, and it must be the first time for each other, so it is very cherished.

This is what is beneficial to you, and it is also a place that is suitable for each other, and the foundation and guarantee for your continued development.

But as my aunt said before, there are many things that you have been neglected because of your affection and only seeing the good side of both parties, which will definitely become problems that you must face and solve in the future. Among them, there may be principled things that neither of you can easily compromise and retreat, which means hidden dangers.

If the door is not the right household, it will be completely different in terms of living habits, and it will be very different in terms of views on people and things. There will be no problem in a short period of time, but if you get along for a long time, the novelty will be gone, the dissatisfaction with each other will grow, the tolerance will gradually decrease with the trivialities of life, and finally both parties will feel that it is getting harder and harder together. ”

Yan Shunhua scratched her head, she was about to be dizzy by Xuan Xuan.

"Auntie, how can I hear it, or do you think that you actually don't approve of this family affair between me and Shen Jingyuan?"

Dare Shen Jingyuan invite her to come to dismantle the stage, not to promote this family affair?

Xuan Xuan was amused by her puzzled appearance.

"Your uncle and I don't object, it doesn't mean that we are in favor. Just like the doubts in your mother's heart, although if you marry the prince, it will bring a thousand benefits, but the danger will also be great, so big that the power of the clan will not be able to compete with it. If you yourself don't want to or are just not so sure, there is no need to wade into this troubled water, it is better to marry anyone than to marry into a high gate. ”

If she hadn't been taken away from her biological parents, Xuan Xuan felt that she would grow up carefree in the countryside like her sister, and then marry someone who was almost the same to live a quiet rural life, and die of old age peacefully.

At the very least, you don't have to face so many people's suspicions, you don't have to tense your heartstrings all the time, and you have to beware of being caught by someone if you don't pay attention, being silently humiliated, being coldly corporal punishment, and even losing your life in a daze.

Yan Shunhua sighed when she saw her, and couldn't help but ask curiously, "Auntie, does your uncle also have a bad time for you, making you doubt love so much?"

Xuan Xuan was stunned, unable to cry or laugh.

"You girl, I'm just summarizing most marriages, not specifically referring to anyone. Of course, your uncle has been kind to me, but over the years, even if he has been as good as ever, there have been times when he can't take care of him, and because of mistakes, both of us are frustrated and even sad. ”

Yan Shunhua naturally didn't know all the experiences between her and Yun Ting, but Xuan Xuan once had a miscarriage because of her mother-in-law's lesson and punishment, and later almost made the twin daughters unable to keep because of the same experience.

This was probably not the saddest event she had ever spoken. The family's selfish methods have always seen the light.

However, Yan Shunhua is not a real little girl, she is also a rich girl in modern times, although it is not the kind of real rich and noble family, but it is more than enough than the top, in her province and city, the Yan family can also be called one of the richest.

Although there are no members of her family who are fighting, and there is no incident of fighting for property or even poisoning, as an only child, even if her parents are as pure and simple as possible when they raise her, and hope that she will grow up in the sunshine without being affected by her parents' feelings, she can't bear that the circle she is in is not the kind of ordinary citizen who is completely simple, so she still knows what she should know.

What's more, in an information-exploding society, even ordinary people who are struggling to make a living can know the fickleness of the sinister hearts of society through the news.

Even if she didn't have a blood on her hands and harvested human lives, she was definitely not the kind of person who was soft-hearted to the level of a virgin.

She cherishes her life very much, because this time, she has more people she wants to cherish, and for this, she will not only protect herself with her heart, but also do her best to protect those who also cherish her. (To be continued.) )