Chapter 12 Tackling Tough Problems
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Bang Bang Bang Bang ......
Lin Jiajia put down the microphone, and the scene suddenly burst into warm applause. After the applause stopped, Ye Zhenguo picked up the microphone again.
He coughed dryly, "I agree with Teacher Jiajia's point of view, but I still need to add a few words to her point of view."
The relationship between the husband and wife is not deep and strong, in fact, it can be seen from some trivial things in life.
The first thing I affirm is that there is love between the male and female guests.
But because you are too anxious, you have only known each other for five months, and you have the strongest love, and you chose to get married when you were willing to die for each other, so in some living habits and acting styles, you have not yet run in.
You must know that once you choose to get married, you will no longer be the same you and me as you used to be. The real life of eating and sleeping together with firewood, rice, oil, and salt is the real problem you have to face.
The taste of eating, the aesthetics of dressing, the way of treating others, and the use of expenses are all things that require you to have something in common, otherwise there will be endless conflicts and quarrels.
I think by now, you should see it too.
There is no good run-in in love, it is only a slow run-in after marriage. But what neither of you expected was that the run-in after marriage would cause such a big disagreement between you.
So my opinion is that if you still want to live together, let go of all your preconceptions for the time being, and try to get to know each other again, tolerate each other, and groom yourself as if you were still lovers. Try to find the same point as the other person. If you can't do that, I'm not optimistic about you.
That's all I have to say, thank you!"
Bang Bang Bang Bang ......
The applause rang out again, and the audience at the scene was all thoughtful and happy. Come to participate in this show to earn money, not to mention, you can also learn so many philosophies in the life of couples.
It's a good deal, it's really a good deal......
Ye Zhenguo finished speaking, and when the applause fell, it was finally Huo An's turn.
Just now, as soon as Ah Zhe and Miao Miao came on the field, Huo An had already activated the emotion index telemetry, but when he saw the emotional index of the two on the stage, Huo An wanted to stomp his feet.
Because the number on Ah Zhe's head is 70% and Miao Miao is 65%, it is obvious that both of them have feelings for each other. The reason why the trouble is here, in fact, the key to the problem lies in the parents of both sides.
The husband and wife, Lin Jiajia and Ye Zhenguo, have already given a plan to ease. As for the parents of both sides, they can only let Huo An make up for the knife.
As long as there is a breakthrough, Huo An feels that things will not be so difficult.
He pondered for a moment, then picked up the microphone, "Actually, in my opinion, there is nothing wrong with this couple.
Although the man's personality is a little cowardly, the woman values him. The woman also said just now that she is looking for him to be honest and will not make mistakes on issues of principle.
Of course, the reason why she said this, I guess is that she was embarrassed to say the kind of embarrassing things that love men in front of so many people.
Girls, after all, they are relatively thin-skinned.
In my opinion, the husband and wife quarreled and quarreled, and then the man said a few soft words, and the woman followed the man home.
The most fundamental reason for the current situation is that I think it is the parents of the two families. ”
Huo An's tone gradually became heavier, "First of all, let's talk about the man's parents, your son is thirty years old, how long do you want to manage him?"
I didn't believe it when my daughter-in-law said that you were strong at first, but judging from the way you snatched the microphone from your wife's hand after you came on stage, what your daughter-in-law said may be true.
Auntie, let me ask you a question?"
was accused in public, Ah Zhe's mother didn't look very happy, and said with a cold face, "What's the problem?"
Huo An sneered, "Do you think that your son will be like your wife in the future, he will have no say in the family, whether it is right or wrong, and even the words he says are as weightless as air?"
Ah Zhe's mother frowned, "I definitely don't want to, who doesn't want their son to have a chance?"
Huo An nodded, "But you have buried all his abilities that can express himself, can you make your son have a chance to do so?"
All I said was that it was time to let go, for better or worse, let him take it upon himself, and stop making decisions for him.
If you insist on meddling in his affairs, it will cause invisible harm to you, to him, to your daughter-in-law, and to your in-laws.
Take this incident as an example, to give the child a 100-year-old appearance, have you asked your son or daughter-in-law for their opinion?
I'm afraid not!
In your opinion, you are the head of the family, and of course the family will listen to you.
Why did the daughter-in-law and in-laws react so much in this matter, to sum it up, you are too disrespectful, and you have imposed your thoughts on them.
Your son can endure it because he has been living in your way for thirty years and has long been accustomed to it.
But someone else is not your son, why should people listen to you in everything, regardless of right or wrong?
On the other hand, why do you reject other people's opinions and just think you're right?"
Ah Zhe's mother was silent, and seemed to be digesting Huo An's words, and only after a while did she pick up the microphone, sighed and said, "I didn't feel it before, but now that you say this, I feel that I am really too strong sometimes." I also thought about it, if I hadn't been so persistent, maybe I wouldn't have these things now.
Seeing my child in a dilemma, I actually felt uncomfortable.
The reason why I am here today is actually that I want you to help my son come up with ideas and teach him how to redeem his daughter-in-law!"
"Looks like you've recognized your shortcomings!"
Huo An made a straight face, "After talking about this aunt, it's time to talk about the woman's mother next."
Although you are just as strong, you are more domineering and unreasonable than the man's mother.
Son-in-law comes to the door to punch out?
You've done it.
Jiang Lin is right, fortunately, your son-in-law is honest and does not hold grudges, otherwise you would have met in court by now.
If so, would you really like to see your daughter divorced and left alone with the children?
There is always a time when things will be resolved, have you ever thought about what you want the man's family to do with your daughter if one day your daughter returns to the man's home?
You should be glad that the man's mother, although strong, did not have any bad intentions, otherwise things would have been much more complicated than they are now.
Actually, I can understand your thoughts, because I also have an older sister who is already married, and my parents are often worried about whether my sister will be treated unfairly in my brother-in-law's house.
But what I want to say is that any normal family hopes that the family will live in harmony as much as possible, and which mother-in-law is born to abuse her daughter-in-law?
In the final analysis, there is still a lack of running-in, understanding, tolerance and mutual respect for each other.
What is the essence of life is actually a compromise between each other. You give a step, I give a step, so that life can go on.
If you want to be like you, who is about to quarrel with your in-laws at the slightest breeze, you can simply take your daughter home, because no family would want to be in-laws with someone like you.
Who can afford that risk?
Who can guarantee that your daughter will not be wronged in the slightest?"
seemed to be thinking about it, Miao Miao's mother frowned, and she couldn't speak for a long time!