The gap between people can be very small, as small as two people who grow up in completely different environments, there is almost no difference in words and deeds, but it can also be very different, so big that the background of life is very similar, but the words and deeds of two people are very different, and there is a world of difference.

In other words, when she was young, Yan Shunhua was also the type who would not look back when she hit the south wall, and she would not shed tears when she saw the coffin, but after torturing herself and even fate teasing her for more than ten years, she has become much more relaxed in her view of personnel, less sharp, less meaningless, more tranquil, and more mellow.

She has been able to distinguish between priorities and priorities, core and non-core, what must be kept and what can be given up, she can see clearly and clearly, so she seems to be calm and unhurried in action.

And Yan Zhang's family, although she has been living a life that is not rich since she got married, but as Yan Yucheng said, she already knew about these situations before getting married, and she was mentally prepared early on, so even if she married to endure hardships, she was willing to stay poor, because she chose this person, so she was willing to live a hard life with Yan Yucheng. In the final analysis, no matter how hard the days are, they are not enough to eat bran vegetables.

Yan Qiyue was injured, from a normal person to a fool, and his IQ stayed at the level of an ignorant child, which was the only time that Yan Zhang's family suffered a catastrophic blow in his previous married life.

But even so, as Yan Yucheng said, because no one in the family had accused Yan Zhang, and later they successfully gave birth to Yan Qipan, the eldest son, and then Yan Qiyue was mainly taken care of by Yan Yucheng's father and took her around to see a doctor, so she was actually far less ordeal than Yan Yucheng.

With the advent of Yan Shunhua, the crisis of the eldest daughter was lifted, especially after marrying into the high gate, the Yan Zhang family, who had never been hit by the storm, swelled rapidly. In Yan Liu's view, her daughter's high marriage is something that makes her anxious and sleepless, but for Yan Zhang's family, it is a complete happy event after figuring it out, and it is a credit that can make her straighten her waist and show her pride for the rest of her life.

Yan Zhang's is not that she doesn't love her daughter, and it's not that she doesn't worry about whether her daughter can control this family matter, but she saw that her daughter gave birth to four men in a row, and there were no in-laws to serve, and no concubines and siblings to take care of.

She put her heart back in her stomach, and all that was superficial was pride, only the nobility that she could boast of, the wealth that everyone would envy, and the happiness that deserved to be celebrated by the whole world.

Just like showing affection, as a mother, she also wants to show off everything about her daughter now, and tell the world confidently that such an excellent and happy daughter crawled out of her belly.

There is actually nothing wrong with doing this, but what embarrassed her was that her daughter also openly called another woman's mother, and the flesh and blood she was pregnant with in October was simply smashed with a "mother", and all her glory was shattered.

It was as if one second she was still floating in heaven, and the next moment she had fallen into the dark abyss of hell, and the sudden feeling of weightlessness made her at a loss, and after realizing what had happened, a huge sense of anger followed, mixed with grievances and sadness as if betrayed.

Yan Liushi will only worry that even if she witnesses her daughter's happiness with her own eyes, she can't safely put her heart back in her stomach, of course she is happy and relieved about Yan Shunhua's harmonious family life now, but the experience of losing her daughter several times makes her have no way to believe that the happiness in front of her will last forever, so until the day she closes her eyes and grows old, she has no way to show off her daughter's happiness and show off her success as a mother.

They are both mothers who have the same love for their daughters, but also have very different ways of expressing their love.

Although Yan Shunhua gets along with the two fathers more and talks more, it does not mean that she does not observe the two mothers enough. In order to integrate into the strange family faster, whether she is a newcomer or a returner, she silently began to observe the environment and personnel at the first moment, collect information, adjust her role as soon as possible, and slowly began to take the initiative to join the changes after becoming familiar, subtly letting the people around her get used to having a new look of herself.

And as the two mothers who are most familiar with their daughters, they are the most important thing for her to observe.

Because she knows that women, especially mothers, will be particularly sensitive to the affairs of their children, so after she successfully penetrated into the family, she slowly began to increase the time she spent with the two fathers, correspondingly reduced the opportunities for contact with the two mothers, and finally unconsciously transformed into her original image.

Regarding Yan Zhang's current troubles, Yan Shunhua can also analyze them. At first, Yan Yucheng didn't care, but after her many emphasizes, even Shen Jingyuan secretly reminded a few words, Yan Yucheng also followed, and it wasn't until the beginning of the persuasion that he knew that his daughter's worries were not unreasonable.

"I really don't know what to say about her, to say something unpleasant, it's like a stone in a pit, smelly and hard. ”

Yan Yucheng thought that after the conversation in the afternoon, his wife would wake up immediately, but she didn't expect that she still looked bad at dinner, although she didn't say anything rude, but the behavior of leaving after eating was a rude thing in itself, and on the way back, she casually mentioned it and asked her to pay attention next time, and then she broke up again.

"Dad, give my mother a little time, and it will be fine slowly, really.

When a woman is emotional, if she does something wrong, she will actually know in her heart that it is inappropriate, but she is emotional, and she needs a loyal audience. As long as you can patiently listen to her pour out her heart, follow her, show that you care about her feelings, don't emphasize those who disagree, and don't judge whether she is doing right or wrong, even if she is a fried cat, she will soon be smoothed out by you. ”

Yan Yucheng shook his head, "It's difficult." You're also a woman, you're so young, and your mother has been through a lot more than you, but look at it, how many years has she been embarrassed because of this? It's good to have you half understanding. ”

Yan Shunhua was amused when she heard this, the angle of looking at her daughter is different from the perspective of looking at a woman, how can you mix it up?