Shao Chengzhi smiled slightly: "Low-grade scum is not on the list. Ling Ran, I'm telling you this to make you think about it, if Li Zhao didn't have 7 brothers and sisters in the countryside, more than a dozen nephews and nephews of various ages, even if he was still from the countryside, he was still poor and white, would he give up that girl?"

"Of course not, I like it, and the conditions are good. If you have love and can struggle for 10 years less, why give up. Ling Ran said without hesitation.

Shao Chengzhi nodded: "Yes, if Li Zhao's family conditions are slightly better, even if he is still from the countryside, as long as there are not so many large packages pressing on him, I believe he will never give up." Now let's assume that if Li Zhao talks about a like-minded girlfriend in college, for example, it is his current wife, Wen Shuqin. Then, Li Zhao worked, and his director introduced him to such a marriage partner, do you think he would dump his girlfriend and become a famous son-in-law?"

"Of course, that goes without saying. If it were me, I would have done the same. Ling Ran said, "Who doesn't want to take a shortcut, my father-in-law's tree is deep and the shade is good for the back." ”

Shao Chengzhi sighed: "So, Ling Ran, don't talk about how Ye Ling sells herself for glory and how she eats soft rice." How is he a brute, that is an insult to a brute. And Li Zhao is sensible and resolute. Do you think Li Zhao doesn't want to sell himself for glory and doesn't want to eat soft rice? He almost even married the daughter of the county party secretary who is not good-looking. ”

Ling Ran couldn't help but laugh.

"Li Zhao didn't do it because he didn't have the conditions to do it, not because he didn't want to do it. And Ye Ling can do this because he has the conditions to do so. Climbing to the powerful is what everyone wants, and abandoning his beloved girlfriend in order to soar is understandable for a man who is capable and ambitious. Shao Chengzhi said.

Ling Ran smiled bitterly: "Okay, it's because he has the ability to do this, I understand, in fact, I've always understood." But Ye Ling cheated on him after marriage and was kicked out of the door by his wife"

"It seems that he does not have a good relationship with his wife. This is not surprising either. Li Zhao is a girl, the girl's father, and the girl's dowry are all taken care of, because he lacks everything. Ye Ling probably only likes the girl's father, because he doesn't need anything else. If the relationship after marriage is not good, and he already has this habit, such an ending is not surprising, expected, and inevitable. Shao Chengzhi said lightly.

Ling Ran sighed and was speechless: Should I be happy and proud of this? Why am I panicked?

Shao Chengzhi thought for a while: "Come, let's continue to talk about what happened to Li Zhao and his wife Wen Shuqin." ”

"Wen Shuqin and Li Zhao used to be in the same class in high school, and later Li Zhao studied liberal arts, and Wen Shuqin studied science and was in the same class as me. I think that when I was in middle school, Wen Shuqin probably liked Li Zhao a little, Li Zhao has always been an idol, but it is estimated that Li Zhao has no impression of Wen Shuqin. ”

"Although we are a county No. 1 middle school, but the quality of teaching is still not good, Wen Shuqin is the only one of all the girls in the science class who was admitted to the undergraduate, although the school is average, but think about our time, the country recruited more than 200,000 college students, and we are a remote and poor rural middle school, it is really not easy. Wen Shuqin's family conditions are not good, her parents are also farmers, and there are 5 brothers and sisters in the family, such a family is willing to let her daughter go to high school, which is very rare, it is really because Wen Shuqin's grades have been too good since she was a child. Wen Shuqin is very hard-working, so after graduating from the bachelor's degree, he was guaranteed to study, and later to Baobo. ”

In her last year, Dr. Wen Shuqin came to Beijing to complete her graduation thesis and lived in a Beijing university for half a year. Li Zhao is the contact person of his classmates, and after Wen Shuqin arrived in Beijing, he naturally had frequent contact with Li Zhao. At that time, Li Zhao encountered an incident, one of his nieces came to Beijing to work, and it was easy to find a part-time job, but the high-income jobs were not arranged for accommodation, and the living money for board and lodging was not much. Li Zhao lives in a collective dormitory by himself, and he can't accommodate his niece, so he is in a dilemma. Wen Shuqin lived in a college dormitory at the time, so she said that she should let your niece come and squeeze a bed with me, although it was harder, but when I went home for the Spring Festival, I could bring more money back. In this way, the niece and Wen Shuqin slept back to back for half a year. ”

When Wen Shuqin left Beijing, Li Zhao was very grateful, and at that time Li Zhao had already become a secretary and was about to be promoted to the deputy department. Li Zhao asked Wen Shuqin if he could help. Wen Shuqin asked Li Zhao if she could help her find a job in Beijing, the kind that could settle down. ”

"Wow. Ling Ran exclaimed, "If I knew that there were such benefits, I would be willing to pay for Li Zhao's niece to live in a star-rated hotel for half a year." ”

Shao Chengzhi was angry and funny, and knocked on Ling Ran's forehead: "You person, hey, so utilitarian." When Wen Shuqin offered to help, she didn't expect to get any benefits from Li Zhaona. Moreover, the so-called work account is just a casual mention, how could Wen Shuqin know that Li Zhao had this energy, Li Zhao didn't even know about himself before he did it. ”

Wen Shuqin left, and Li Zhao began to give Wen Shuqin a job and household registration. To be honest, it was really very difficult to do, because Li Zhao was still unstable at that time. At that time, Li Zhao did his best to finish up, ran for half a year, and gave the university two additional places to stay in Beijing before stuffing Wen Shuqin into that school. But Li Zhao was very hesitant to run for Wen Shuqin on the one hand. Although everyone has never said anything, Li Zhao helping Wen Shuqin do such a big thing is a promise to each other. If it is done, Wen Shuqin will come to Beijing, and the two will definitely get married. But Li Zhao and Wen Shuqin actually don't have much contact, so did they get married?"

"The thing was done, and Wen Shuqin also graduated. The day of leaving Wen Shuqin to come to Beijing is getting closer and closer, and Li Zhao's pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and he often doesn't sleep in the middle of the night, and chats with me on the Internet. He was very troubled at that time, and he didn't know if he should have chosen this way. ”

After Wen Shuqin went to Beijing to work, as soon as the household registration and files were finalized in Beijing, the two went to get a marriage certificate. Shao Chengzhi looked at Ling Ran: "Ling Ran, sometimes I think that marriage is such a wonderful thing." You have sailed a thousand times, this one doesn't like it, that one is not satisfied, and then you are cautious, this one can't, that one has a problem, but the person you choose in the end is not necessarily out of love, or interests, and it doesn't necessarily have much purpose. It's just that you are just looking for a wife to marry at your age and state, and she happened to appear at that time and place, and she still has a little affection for you, and there is a little hint, so you take a look, this person is good, there is nothing inappropriate, then you don't have to pick it up, just her. So they got married. ”

Ling Ran couldn't help but smile, "If you say that, don't those beautiful sisters who have chased Li Zhao be angry." ”

Shao Chengzhi smiled: "That's just what I said, no man in the world marries a wife casually." Li Zhao's marriage seems to be very random, but in fact, for those who follow the career path, the marriage is lifelong, and there is no possibility of correcting mistakes. If you have a strong background, of course, it doesn't matter. But Li Zhao has nothing, and without capital, he is not qualified to make mistakes. Ye Ling can be arrested and released by the Public Security Bureau because of prostitution, although he loses his marriage, but it will not ruin his future. Li Zhao can't do it, if something like this happens to him, his life will be over. ”

Therefore, Li Zhao married Wen Shuqin, although he did not experience any love process, it was a deliberate choice and would never go wrong. In fact, Wen Shuqin is the most suitable one for him in all aspects within the range of his options. The two are from the same county, both are poor and white, and both have heavy family burdens. Wen Shuqin has 5 brothers and sisters in the family, and there are also a lot of nephews and nephews. Originally, Wen Shuqin herself was not able to help her family, so she would give some money at most, but she was a college teacher, and she received less than 5,000 yuan a month, and she still had food and clothing, and how much she could help, now, these are Li Zhao's things. Therefore, only Wen Shuqin can tolerate the endless flow of people in the family, whether it is relatives or friends, and only Wen Shuqin can live such a poor life with him, without complaint or regret, and admire and be grateful to her husband. ”

Also, Li Zhao's living habits are actually very bad, he doesn't help when the oil bottle is poured at home, he dusts off cigarette ashes wherever he goes, often socializes until late at night, gets drunk and goes home to vomit, earns more than 5,000 yuan a month, and often has to help his hometown and entertain friends. Putting aside the future of power, those who are willing to live like him are not necessarily willing to be so honest unless they are a working girl, even after they get married, they may not be willing to be so honest after a long time. But Wen Shuqin is not a working girl, Wen Shuqin graduated with a doctorate and is a lecturer in a dignified university. Therefore, Wen Shuqin is not only the best choice for Li Zhao, but also the only choice. ”

Shao Chengzhi turned his face to look at Ling Ran, and smiled slightly: "Now let's assume that if Li Zhao didn't marry Wen Shuqin, but married the girl he might have been the only one he had ever touched, what would happen to them after marriage?"

Ling Ran smiled: "I'm married, what else can I do." The man's relatives kept coming to Beijing to find them, and then slowly, the girl began to be dissatisfied, Li Zhao felt depressed, and then the two began to quarrel for two days, and a big quarrel for three days. In the end, Li Zhaofei Huang Tengda, although he can't get a divorce, he won't do anything better than Ye Ling, which is also predictable and inevitable. ”

"Yes. Shao Chengzhi nodded, "Li Zhao doesn't matter which girl he marries." He has to take care of his family, and this is an unavoidable problem. If he marries the girl he likes, and the girl's family conditions are so good, he will inevitably use some of his wife's resources. The simplest, the house, Li Zhao's family is here, can Li Zhao not arrange for people to eat and live, arrange it outside, don't you have to pay for it, how much does he earn? If he arranges to live at home, like the niece he is now living in, for a year, will the girl be able to stand it? Even if she is reluctant to live for a month or two, she will definitely not be happy, in that case, Li Zhao will be very faceless, but he will have to swallow his anger, so Li Zhao will have resentment in his heart, feeling that he is inferior at home and a short wife. After a long time and a lot of things, can a wife still respect her husband? Can a husband still respect his wife?"

"But it's no problem to change Wen Shuqin, Wen Shuqin has a lot of things in her own family. For example, the second brother of Wen Shuqin, whom we met last time, asked Li Zhao to find a job for a child who graduated from this university and get a Beijing hukou. So what should Li Zhao do, of course, he could only refuse. What about Wen Shuqin, would she complain that Li Zhao refused to help? Of course not, because she knew that Li Zhao couldn't do this kind of thing, and couldn't do it. So what is Li Zhao's feeling? That is, my wife can really understand me. ”

Ling Ran was surprised, and couldn't help muttering: "This is still my wife, I really understand me, it's his brother who has a lot of trouble." If I was replaced, I didn't need my husband to come forward, so I directly refused. ”

Shao Chengzhi looked at Ling Ran with a little surprise: "Oh, you think so." Well, this is also a way of thinking, but I'm afraid there are not many people who think like this Ling Ran thought: Because there is not much hair, brother is a fart, will I embarrass my own husband for a brother, who will live with whom for a lifetime. Being able to do Wen Shuqin like this is good enough for her husband, and many women can't do it, for example, Wang Xia"

"Wang Xia, oh, haha. Ling Ran first glanced at Shao Chengzhi in surprise, and then smiled dumbly, although she didn't know much about Wang Xia, but after all, after 4 years in the same bedroom, Shao Chengzhi, this kid is really accurate, "Then Li Zhao also sold her to you as a wife." ”

"That's because Li Zhao knows that I can suppress her. Shao Chengzhi rushed out, but immediately felt very embarrassed, "Let's not talk about Wang Xia, I won't marry her, even if I marry Wen Shuqin, I won't marry Wang Xia In fact, I won't marry both, why do I have to marry a wife, a person is free to do whatever he wants, how comfortable he is, which man would be willing to be chewed on the horse for no reason"

Shao Chengzhi got back to business: "You see, if Li Zhao marries that girl, in marriage, in fact, he is the profiteer, and he gets the benefits, but is he grateful, no, he will only resent, because he was humiliated." And here in Wen Shuqin, he is obviously the giver, but he is moved, because his wife did not embarrass him. Therefore, whether a wife can make her husband respect her and love her is not necessarily related to whether she gives or takes. It's unfair, but that's the reality. ”

Shao Chengzhi looked at Ling Ran gently: "Ling Ran, I said this just to hope that you could understand what Ye Ling was doing. Although we don't know why he has a bad relationship with the wife he wants to marry so bent on, a capable man is always arrogant, and even if he is deliberately clinging, it is difficult to really bow his head. So what he did, although it was embarrassing, should still be understandable. ”

"Why should you understand him, because all these years, he has been a knot in your heart that you can't untie. He refuses to marry you, marries someone else, you can't be angry, he marries someone else and is so disgracefully swept away, you feel that you are humiliated and ridiculed, because you have loved it, it means that you have a poor vision, in fact, how he and his wife are in relationship is the question of whether the two of them are suitable or not, it has nothing to do with anyone else, you think about it from his point of view, what he does has his reasons, his reasons, his mental journey. We don't necessarily have to emulate him, but can you try to understand him? Only if you understand his behavior, can you forgive him, and only if you forgive him, can you really let go. People should have high standards for themselves, but they must be tolerant of others, so that they can improve themselves to another height. ”

Ling Ran scolded secretly in her heart: What do you mean, strict with discipline, lenient with others, high-sounding to say, in fact, in the bottom of my heart, I feel superior to others, and I don't treat each other equally, but, then again, Ye Ling and I are indeed a little bit weak in willpower, willpower is actually a kind of ability and intelligence, so it is despised by others, and it can only be said that it is self-inflicted

Shao Chengzhi sighed: "Ranran, only when people understand can they choose to forgive, but only when they are strong can they really let go, and only when they really let go can they mature." I want to see you really let go, really mature, and really love me. ”

Ling Ran almost jumped up: I've let go, I love you not him.

But in the end, when he opened his mouth, he had no face to speak, and he couldn't help hating in his heart: Shao Chengzhi, you are going to die