You can't talk about things in the world, it's a long story. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 Info office can do something with a watermelon. Kong Ling, as a mind cultivator and one of the "melon-eating masses" in the "melon-eating turmoil", saw the whole process of the incident, and also saw her own shadow from the two parties who communicated with her afterwards.

The weather is hot, and the office has a few watermelons, and Yeon takes care of the watermelons like a baby, lest someone eat them while she is away.

Ying had just come back from class, she was hot and thirsty, and when she saw the watermelon, she instinctively wanted to eat something to quench her thirst. Anyway, the body still has to be taken care of, she naturally chose a watermelon to invite her colleagues to share, but she didn't expect Yan to stop her, "I can't eat it anymore, everyone has eaten it just now, you can't cut another watermelon just because you didn't eat it alone!" ”

Ying was a little stunned, what is going on, is it not allowed to eat the public watermelon issued by the office. Ignoring Yeon's inducements, she still cuts the watermelon and shares it with her colleagues. Yeon's daughter also came over to eat, and Ying also called Yeon to come over and eat, but she pretended not to hear.

Even if it's a stranger, it won't happen! Ying was a little surprised by Yu Yan's "truthfulness and frankness", in the reason why Ying was not allowed to cut the watermelon, it was because Ying herself didn't eat it alone, so she couldn't eat it, because everyone else had eaten it, isn't everyone's selfishness not selfishness, and one person's selfishness is selfishness? Besides, it is impossible for Yingche watermelon to be enjoyed by herself, she shares it with everyone, and she eats very little.

After this incident, Yeon stopped paying attention. Ying gained some enlightenment from her communication with Kong Ling, and no matter what kind of attitude Yan had towards her, she felt that it was no big deal. Yeon's ignorance of herself is her problem, and Ying thinks it has nothing to do with her. There are nearly 20 colleagues in the office, and the other colleagues have no reaction to Ying cutting watermelon, only Yan has a strong reaction, that is Yeon's problem, it has nothing to do with Ying, and it is her own business that Yan can't think about it, and Ying once again confirms that it has nothing to do with herself.

A comfortable life is what everyone is pursuing, but it is inevitable that you will encounter unpleasant and heart-wrenching things in life, and every time you encounter this kind of unpleasant thing, you should not blame others for making you unhappy, but to explore your own heart, see if there are similar events in your past experience, and see and clean up one by one.

For example, in this melon cutting incident, Ying felt that she was not respected and accepted in this incident, and what she had to do was to review how many events similar to this situation there were in her life, recall them one by one, redefine those events, and reset the reaction mode.

Ying handled Yeon's emotional problems very well this time, she accepted Yeon's grievances, and thought that she must have her reasons for doing such a thing, and she would not be responsible for Yeon's anger, it was Yeon's own emotions, and she should be responsible for herself.

After this incident, Ying felt that she had indeed grown a lot, and she no longer felt guilty for other people's bad moods, which was a stupid thing she used to do. When others are unhappy because of her, she will think that she is not good enough, which causes the emotional reaction of others, and she will blame herself, feel guilty, feel that she is not accepted by others, and then make herself more inferior, but the fact is that it is never others who do not accept herself, but herself.

Kong Ling guided Ying to explore her own growth experience, Ying found that there are many similar behaviors, she has been living a life of looking at people's faces and pleasing others, saying things against her will, doing things against her will, just to seek the approval or recognition of others, only when she sees others happy, she can be happy, as long as the people around her have bad emotions, she will be "arrogant" to think that she is not good and causes others to be unhappy, she will blame herself and feel guilty, which is inevitably too serious about herself.

After this incident, Ying came to the conclusion that everyone's world is indeed self-created, and everyone is responsible for the reality they have created. No one will pay for your emotions, everyone is responsible for their words and actions and their emotions.

There are three things in the world, one's own business, the business of others, and the business of God. Just take care of your own business. Other people's business is your, and God's business is your; In a word: don't take yourself too seriously.

It's a bit ugly, but it's extremely useful for some people.