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Chapter 178 -----------: You don't have to please the whole world, as long as you feel at ease

----- don't need to please the whole world, just let yourself live cleanly and comfortably. Pen ~ fun ~ pavilion www.biquge.info

I forget who said, "The most comfortable and reassuring feeling of a person is that he feels like a good person." ”

In reality, this is often not the case. When the people around us start to resent us, even if we know that we are not "bad", and even have a stomach full of grievances, it is difficult to be justified.

M is a housewife, a good cook, and a good temper. Every time her husband brings friends and colleagues to the house for dinner, she always greets them with a smile, makes tea and water, prepares a sumptuous meal, and after the meal, she plays mahjong and chats while she cleans up the mess in the kitchen. Only one day, she was not feeling well, and a group of people came to the house, she did not prepare meals for everyone, and she lost her old smile. As a result, everyone went home disappointed, muttering: "How did she become like this? Isn't we welcome to come? I don't think she cooks deliciously so I let her cook it, and I don't know if I have such a little ability." ”

l is a well-known "warm-hearted" among relatives and friends, looking for him when there are difficulties in life, looking for him when he can't finish his work, looking for him when he can't move goods, looking for him when he can't pay for it, and looking for him when he doesn't have time to take care of flowers and pets. In addition to his own life, he has also borne the various lives of various people. However, one day, he refused to help his neighbor take care of his pet because he had urgent things to do. A few days later, the word spread among the neighbors: "People are always changing! In the past, it was always said that distant relatives were not as good as close neighbors, but now this society is really becoming more and more indifferent." ”

R is deeply appreciated by the leaders in the company and feels that he can take on great responsibilities. When the company arranged collective activities for employees, the leader was worried that no one would deal with any emergencies in the company, so he talked to him earnestly, hoping that he could stay behind, and advertised that only he had the ability to handle important tasks independently. Many times, he answered. Only one day, when he didn't finish his own work, he hurried to catch up with the task and didn't take on other work, and the manager was dissatisfied and said to the assistant in private: "He is too conceited." I often assign work to him, that is to look up to him, let him help his colleagues share a little, what can I do?"

Y is a product promotion manager for a company that has helped the company successfully promote several new products and has made a lot of money. For this reason, when the new product was launched again, the boss pressurized him and said: "Whether the product can be effectively recognized by the market this time depends on you!" Unfortunately, the market is unpredictable, and a series of promotional activities arranged by Y have not caused the expected effect. The boss was sullen, saying that he was a little flustered, irresponsible for his work, knowing that the company spent a lot of money to build the product, but did not try his best to promote, and it was clear that he was using the company's money to waste.

H has always been empathetic, no matter who has any worries, she is the best listener. A friend has fallen out of love and calls her, a friend has a quarrel and comes to her to meet her to complain, and a colleague has lost something and complains in front of her. Every time, she would stop what she was doing, listen to them quietly, and find out her heart to comfort her wounded heart. But that day, her child was sick and hospitalized, and her husband was not around, so she was so fragile that she couldn't take care of anything else. At this time, a friend called and talked about the cliché marriage trivialities, but she was in a bad mood and refused to listen to her friend's grievances. After hanging up the phone, her friend's anger suddenly transferred to her, saying: "You are not the only one in the world, and I told you because I took you as a friend, what kind of fight with me!"

Have you ever encountered such things? Have you always been a good person in the eyes and mouths of others, spending a lot of time and energy, but few people really think about you? When one day, you also encounter difficulties, and you have to change some habits in the past, and you are crowned with the title of "you have changed", and it seems that everything you have sincerely paid in the past has also become a kind of hypocrisy. Even though you know in your heart that you are a good person and that you have not changed, you cannot be happy no matter what.

A few years ago, there was a hit TV series "Who Calls the Shots in My Youth", in which the handsome male doctor Gao Qi said such a classic line: "Good people are all shelved, and once they are shelved, they can't get down, so they can only be good people all the time." ”

It's not easy to be a good person. When you are tired and want to rest, you may change from a good person to a bad person; when you have been strong for a long time, and when you are injured and need comfort, others think that you can carry it; you tolerate all the people around you and greet you with a smile, but the scale of others joking with you is getting bigger and bigger, and you don't forget your feelings at all.

In fact, why do we have to force ourselves to be a "good person" at all times? In the silhouette of the years, as long as we strive to be a clean and pure person, it is a kind of purification of the soul and a kind of respect for life.

There is really no need to bind yourself with the label of "good person", the title of "good person" can only ensure temporary peace, but you can't seek long-term peace. As long as you do your best and have a clear conscience in many things, you don't have to care what others think or say. Moreover, in some cases, saying "no" can be both a pleasure and a respectful experience.

Learn to filter your thoughts, filter your soul, filter unnecessary constraints and prejudices. There is only one life, and you don't need to spend all your efforts to please the world, live in harmony with others, and live a clean and comfortable life in the world

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