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How a person goes from mediocre to excellent to Zhuo

There is only one difference between mediocre people and excellent people, and that is whether they have the ability to commit to doing a good job. Pen % fun % Pavilion www.biquge.info

The criterion for judging a person's excellence is whether he is outstanding in a field and whether he has reached a level that is difficult for ordinary people to match.

How to achieve a level of excellence?

Many people will say that you need to have a precise goal, make a reasonable plan, put in the effort, do more exercise, be persistent, etc.

But these, useless.

For a person who has already succeeded, you summarize his experience, analyze his journey, and conclude that this person's success is because he has a long-term vision/has a good wife/insists on lifting a bear 32 times a day to change his fortune, etc., but that is based on the fact that he has been successful and has been outstanding, and to find the conditions to support this result.

How complicated are the things that everyone will encounter in their lives, even if you study Jack Ma's personal experience thoroughly and put you in the environment when Jack Ma was a teenager, you may not be able to make Jack Ma's great career today.

I am not saying that it is useless to summarize the experience of previous people, but it depends on "whom" has absorbed this experience.

Just as there are many useful experiences on the Internet, excellent methods of living, studying, and working, many people have praised it and thought it was very good.

Some people can benefit from chicken soup and some people can't, the most fundamental reason is not the quality of chicken soup, but whether you have the ability to absorb nutrients from chicken soup.

You went to prostitution, and the person who picked up the customer was a forty-six-year-old aunt who couldn't change it, and you were very frustrated, so you endured the nausea and hurriedly came and left. You think this kiln is really bad, and you will never come back again.

But if it's a frenzied salesperson, even though the aunt is forty-six years old, he will still happily play with the aunt, he will open the aunt's heart, and let her buy his Amway, soothe her heart, and then let her buy his Amway, tell her bedtime stories, and let her buy his Amway......

Whether a person is excellent or not, whether he has a future, and whether he will be great in the future fundamentally depends on "who he is", not on what he does on the surface.

Some people tell you that if you want to be excellent, you have to persevere, but you find that some people who don't work so hard succeed, some people tell you that if you want to be excellent, you have to have a great dream, but you find that many people who don't have dreams and do it casually succeed again, some people tell you that if you want to be excellent, you have to insist that you don't care about other people's opinions, but you find that many people who insist on their beliefs are poor in life.

You can only see the surface of what others tell you, you always want to find a pattern to follow for everything, and you think that you can avoid failure if you learn a lot of experience.

Silly child, life is full of accidents and uncertainties, and there is never a truth and law in the world that as long as you follow it, you will be guaranteed to succeed, and you will be guaranteed to become excellent.

In the human logical system, there will always be a dualistic existence, you will always find that many things can be explained correctly, and the reverse interpretation can also be done, as the saying goes, rabbits don't eat the grass by the nest, as the saying goes, you have to learn to recognize your own true inner thoughts, honest face yourself, rather than relying on other people's experience, others tell you the truth to live "your own" life.

That's why I've said several times that not deceiving yourself is the first step to maturity. You have to learn to face yourself honestly first, so that you can look at problems rationally, you will not be confused by those words that seem to make sense, you can distinguish what is really useful to you, and you can learn to be responsible for yourself, face your own problems, and find ways to solve them yourself.

I don't know if you have noticed, but we always like to add a truth to many things, and add a rule to explain.

For example, if the business fails, you will meditate hard and sum up a few experiences to tell yourself that the preliminary preparation is not sufficient, the personnel ability is not good, and the operation idea is problematic.

But in fact, these experiences and summaries do have a certain reference significance, but for some people, this kind of summarization and experience is to a large extent a kind of "psychological comfort" that we give ourselves.

Because we are subconsciously afraid of the unknown, we subconsciously fear chance, because chance means uncontrollable, it means that we are powerless against reality.

No one dares to admit that he doesn't actually know why he failed, he doesn't dare to admit that there are many factors in his failure that come from chance, and he doesn't dare to admit that there are many things in his life that are beyond his control no matter how hard he tries and how hard he pays.

So we like to hear truths, we like to hear summaries of things, because those truths and summaries will make you feel "as if" you know everything, you feel that you have traces to follow, so these truths and summaries will give you a sense of security.

Please be aware of and accept the existence of contingencies and uncontrollable elements in life before you look at this issue.

Now think about the saying: "Your success, your excellence, depends first and foremost on "who you are," not on what you do. ”

Do you understand?

Now let's analyze the nature of excellence.

To put it bluntly, excellence is that a person can do a thing very well, so good that most people cannot surpass it. So at the very root of it, excellence depends on whether you can do something well.

The measure of how well you do something is not how much time, how much practice, how much effort, and what sacrifices you make, but only the quality of your output.

The measure is the quality of the results you produce, you want to be a great writer and you want to talk about what you write, you want to be a great product manager and you want to talk about the product you make, you want to be a great bus pervert and you want to talk about the dirty things you do.

Before your excellent work comes out, everything you do before that is in the service of achieving this result, whether you choose to work hard, whether you choose to go the wrong way, in essence, it is just that you choose to take a different path to the end.

So you have to understand, don't be confused by the difference between those means, don't be confused by the judging standards of society and your own emotions, and don't move yourself with your own efforts.

You want to get the first place in the class in the next exam, before that you go to bed at 1 a.m. every night, take crazy notes no matter what class, head hanging, cone thorn strands, eat three eggs at a meal to supplement protein to enhance memory, but you only get to the tenth in the class.

At this time, please remember not to be frustrated because you feel embarrassed in front of others, do not hate yourself for not working hard because of temporary failures, and do not work hard to make others think that you are a self-motivated person.

All in all, don't deceive yourself in the first place.

Frustration, sadness, remorse, etc., are not natural reactions to failure, I tell you, negative emotions are essentially an escape from reality, you are immersing yourself in negative emotions to avoid facing your real problems.

Some people will feel that this failure is just because their "hard work" is not enough, so they have to work harder. This "words" are true, but most people's perception of the word effort only stays at "the behavior that seems to be working hard, the amount and duration of effort".

But a real effort is when you get to the root of the problem and take actions that are really meaningful and can really make a difference.

One problem that many people don't want to admit is that the reason why they are so mediocre in their bones is because they are lazy and unwilling to face the real problem.

They are reluctant to change themselves, they don't dare to think that the reason why they didn't do well in the exam this time is because they didn't really memorize the key points of the exam, they didn't have the idea of figuring out the exam questions, although they studied by themselves every day in the early hours of the morning, but the efficiency of self-study was not good, but because of the time they took up the break, the quality of the lectures in the class was not high, although they memorized the text a hundred times, but they didn't really memorize it in their hearts every time they memorized it.

In fact, many people can subconsciously realize that what they do will not solve the real problem, and they also know that the things they do will not solve the real problem, but it is because they will use the truth of "hard work will be rewarded" and "there will always be a reward for paying" to comfort and fool themselves, naively fantasizing that the problem will be solved by itself, naively thinking that although what they do is not really something that can produce value, they will get things done after a while.

They are reluctant to change themselves, preferring to know that what they are doing is wrong, knowing that what they are doing will not have an effect, or they will close their eyes and fool around as if God will help them solve everything.

So what many people call effort is nothing more than an escape from the real problem.

There are many times in life when the more you try to force yourself to change, the more you want to make yourself "become" steady, "become" purposeful, "become" hardworking, the more you can't do it.

When you can really be down-to-earth and steady, and when you have a goal and can stick to it, it will not be because you read an article somewhere that tells you to work hard, how you determine your ideal, you will work hard, and you will have a goal.

People need to change more opportunities, although seeing a really thoughtful article may also be an opportunity, but this probability is very small, because the most essential thing is your personal past knowledge, cognitive ability, way of thinking accumulation, this miracle as a breakthrough point, connect some of your past knowledge points and then you suddenly realized, really figured out, and then naturally changed.

So don't deliberately pursue, but pay more attention to "accumulation".

Theoretically, "as long as a person invests enough energy and time in a field to research, he can achieve a degree of excellence", but in reality, he is often unable to devote himself to research in a field because of the conflict between personal will and survival problems, and people will always deceive themselves, dare not face the real problem, and do not pay to be truly "effective" efforts, which leads to many people being mediocre for a lifetime.

But for most people, even if they know the reasons for their mediocrity after reading this article and know how to achieve excellence, they will still scroll through Weibo tomorrow, do jobs they don't like, immerse themselves in ineffective social interactions, they will not take actual actions, and they are too lazy to devote themselves to doing a good job.

This is not just because they are lazy, because they are accustomed to mediocrity, but people's lives are unpredictable, and human nature is difficult to change.

Whether you want to become excellent, want to become a rich person, or want to learn to pick up girls, but when it comes to changes in people's own lives, all truths and teachings are nonsense, take that step, get out of your psychological comfort zone, and try new things, and then those truths that you just "know" but don't "understand" can really be accepted in your mind, your behavior, and your nature can be changed.

Maybe you haven't reached the day of change yet, maybe you haven't met the opportunity that made you have an epiphany, but now you can at least try to stop deceiving yourself, stop comforting yourself with reason and experience, no matter what you want to do, don't hesitate, it.

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