Gu Tiancheng said: "Some people may think that your actions just now are very brave, after all, there are not a few people out of 10,000 who can make such a sacrifice for love." But this just shows a fundamental problem, since there are only a few out of 10,000 people, it means that the vast majority of people do not approve of this practice. We don't live in the world to be different, but to fit into the group and win a sense of belonging, right? In the case of you, would you rather belong to the vast majority, or would you like to find resonance among the limited number of people?"

"I hate it," Tang Wanyan said, "There is no genius in cultivation, why can they become human beings, and I bravely pursue love, and you say that they are extreme, and they are aliens?"

Gu Tiancheng said: "In fact, strictly speaking, those cultivation geniuses are also extreme and outliers. It's just that their extremes and outliers do not manifest themselves in interpersonal relationships, but in their careers. Their extremes have contributed to the success of their careers. That's why people worship them like heroes.

But the extreme and outlier you just now is in relationships. And in interpersonal relationships, it is precisely the most intolerant of extremes and heterogeneity. In other business areas, being different can lead to success, while in relationships, it is likely that you will only gain isolation. ”

"Then you mean that those heroes who are worshiped can actually be classified as extreme and alien?" Tang Wanyan asked unrelentingly.

Gu Tiancheng said: "If you have to say that, I can only tell you that there are indeed people who rely on extreme talent to win success. But the honor of winning by extremes is not reliable. Because extreme people are extreme people after all, even if they are exaggerated and successful because of certain talents because of extreme personalities, but if a person wants to succeed for a long time, he must deal with other successful people, and eat and mix in the circle of success. Again, this involves relationships.

And interpersonal relationships are precisely the biggest shortcoming of extremist people, and only people with sound personalities can handle interpersonal relationships well. Therefore, even if you can achieve temporary success by relying on extremes, it will not last long. Talent is only one aspect of real success, and a large part of it still depends on acquired efforts. ”

Tang Wanyan smiled, "It's really interesting to hear you say that! It's the first time that someone has dissected human nature so clearly and profoundly." However, I am very popular in the Tang Sect, and I am still a contender for the next patriarch, and many elders in the clan support me. Supposedly, they're not going to support an extreme person as the patriarch, do they?

Gu Tiancheng said: "I have never regarded you as an extreme person, so I told you so much. If I really decided that you were an extreme person, I wouldn't talk nonsense with you, I would stay as far away from you as I could, and I would never offend you.

Because if you offend a normal person, you can still find a way to turn the conflict into a jade silk, but if you offend an extreme person, you can't imagine how the extreme person judges and defines the contradictions and conflicts between you and him, maybe he will think that you are his mortal enemy, and he has to get rid of it as soon as possible.

One of the reasons why human beings have to make so many rules to follow is that they behave predictably, and you can try to think about what would happen next if you were in a completely unfamiliar environment. If it were me, within a day, I would be driven crazy by myself. That's why I stay away from people in extremes and don't offend people in extremism.

You showed extreme meaning just now, and in my opinion, it is a sign that you have not grown up. Your mind is immature and you are easily deceived by some beautiful things, and the most beautiful thing that can easily deceive people is love. Almost everyone has been confused by love and suffered the loss of love in their lives. Only by suffering losses can we grow, which is the price of growth. ”

"You're not older than me, and you're old-fashioned. Tang Wanyan bit her lip and said.

Gu Tiancheng smiled, "It's that you don't know me well enough." Sima Xin has told me more than once that listening to me is like communicating with a middle-aged uncle. I'm too steady in my mind and I know too much. There's no way, this is me, and I can't change it if I want to. ”

"You know so much, you must have a lot of emotional experience?" Tang Wanyan asked.

Gu Tiancheng said: "On the contrary, no. Because I saw it thoroughly, I didn't dare to get involved in it easily. There is no other reason, fear of injury. Physical wounds can be healed, but mental wounds are difficult to heal, and the pain caused to people is incalculable.

I don't think I'm strong, I'm afraid that I won't be able to bear the hurt of love, so I'd rather be conservative in the field of love than love vigorously.

After all, without love, people can still live happily ever after. But if you are hurt by love, you may never believe in love and good things again for the rest of your life.

So, I'm timid, I'm not willing to take risks, I'm not crazy about love. ”

"However, you are madly in love with Sima Xin. Tang Wanyan was a little jealous.

Gu Tiancheng was a little helpless, "I don't want to, and I was even unprepared for it, so I was amazed by her." I thought we could only have unrequited love, but later we became friends and had more opportunities to get to know each other. Coupled with the help of fox friends and dog-like classmates, our relationship naturally became a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. There wasn't any big waves, as if we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend.

Sometimes when I think about it, I think I'm really lucky, it's hard for me to be such a cautious person for love. And girls are generally more reserved, and they are unlikely to chase me, and the trajectory of my life is likely to be that my parents and elders at home set a marriage for me, and I think it's okay, so I did it.

Being able to meet Sima Xin is something I never dreamed of. I didn't dare to pursue love, but I had love, of course I will cherish it extraordinarily, and I can't let happiness slip away from my hands. ”

"I'm so envious, but it's a pity that in your story, the heroine is not me. Tang Wanyan said.

Gu Tiancheng looked at her and said, "I know something about the Tang Sect. As I know you, you are not a little girl immersed in your own little world, you have the same ambitions as boys, and your ambition lies in holding more power, not in the pursuit of sincere love.

So, your performance just now was too unexpected for me. If it were Tang Chuyao from before, I might be able to accept it a little. The strong woman Tang Wanyan in my impression has become like this, which is indeed a bit subversive of my cognition.

You're strong enough yourself, and it's hard to meet a man stronger than you. So, realistically, your current situation is already very good, and you have a boyfriend who doesn't need to worry about much, but always worries about you, and after you get married in the future, he will most likely be able to do a good job of your virtuous help, so that you can charge ahead, chase your dreams, and your ambitions.