NO.1 (Absolutely analyze and dialectically from the perspective of a third party, please don't delete this kind of work with a strong academic atmosphere, editor, please !!!!!)

Fetishism is an example of a 16-year-old boy who is sexual/impulsive about a woman's flat-heeled shoes, and he collects several pairs of these shoes and secretly treasures them. Pen Fun Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 info was later discovered by my mother and brought to the outpatient clinic.

During the meeting, the boy said that he would have a sexual physical reaction to this type of shoes for women, such as having a "uh-huh" boon. Ask him when he first became impressed with such shoes?

The boy's answer was: Earliest, in the middle of kindergarten, I was about four years old at the time, playing on the ground, the kindergarten aunt was playing the piano, and the boy saw the aunt's high heels, flat-mouthed. At that time, I felt very beautiful and impressed, and I wanted to get close to this aunt, but I didn't dare to really express my closeness, and there was no sexual desire and physical sexual reaction at that time. Later, after the age of thirteen or fourteen, I especially have a sexual desire and physical reaction to such high heels.

During the meeting, I joked: If the old grandmother wore these shoes, would you still have sexual desire?

The boy replied: Then there is none.

I gave him an explanation, and he could accept it: you seem to like high heels, but in fact, you like that aunt in your heart, and you want to be close to your aunt, but from then until now, you have not dared to get close to your aunt.

The boy replied: Yes. I don't dare to talk to girls now.

The boy seemed a little nervous during the conversation, and he didn't even dare to express his closeness to his mother. It can be seen that the relationship between the boy and his mother is also relatively estranged. In a later meeting, the boy said that he had also seen text descriptions of "uh-huh" between men and women on the Internet, and that he could mentally convert words into images, imagining that he would kiss and hug women, and whenever he thought of this, his mind would suddenly turn to high heels.

I jokingly told him: if you were with a girl and you were in love with each other, would you take off her underwear and then see her genitals and make a "uh-huh" with them?

The boy replied, "It's so impactful, I've never dared to think of it like that."

I said, "If a girl takes the initiative to take off her underwear, what will you do next?"

Boy: I'm going to run away, but I feel like I've lost another chance??

I asked, "Why did you run away?"

Boy: Because when I think about it, I feel my neck tight, hairpins, panic, and fear.

I asked: Do you also have a physical sexual response when you feel your neck tightened and your heart is flustered?

Boy: Well, yes.

I explained: It seems that you are not only afraid, but also accompanied by shock and excitement and excitement about sex.

Boy: Hmm.

I said, "Every time you think like that, when you have these reactions, do you decide to keep thinking about it, or don't you want to think about it?"

Boy: I'll try. A brief analysis of the above example, it can be roughly seen that the boy loves "high heels" on the surface, but in fact he loves that "aunt", and high heels are just a partial feature of the overall aunt. Substituting parts for the whole is one of the characteristics of the primary thinking process. Of course, the boy is not limited to the high heels of that aunt, but replaces (and even expands) the high heels of other women. According to Freud, children's sexual drives, when they are not able to continue to develop libido in their mothers or aunts, are fixed on "high heels". With the help of "high heels", the boy was able to unleash his libido. This is the stagnation of its psychological development. The main point of psychotherapy is to continue to develop the stagnant psychology of children. Libido, like a flood, the normal channel is blocked, and it floods into the abnormal channel. Therefore, the treatment method should first let the patient control his abnormality *** and prevent it from flooding and turbulence, so that the sexual energy will accumulate and be uncomfortable. At the same time, unblock his normal channels and let the sexual energy flow out of the normal channels. Let libido move from betting on high heels to betting on women and their ***. This can be achieved by encouraging the patient to engage in free-associative sexual fantasies.

According to the theory of object relations, the boy's interaction with his mother may have been problematic in the first place. Lack of maternal love in childhood, so I suddenly felt intoxicated closeness and happiness to the kindergarten aunt. In the absence of maternal love, boys have a more withdrawn personality, few good friends to exchange ideas and feelings, and no courage and experience in dealing with girls. Personality defects caused by his pre-Oedipus psychological development made it difficult for him to cope with the sexual confusion he encountered when he entered the Oedipus period. Follow-up psychotherapy should encourage boys to socialize more with their peers, make more friends, and explore the mysteries of sexuality with friends. At the same time, he was encouraged to gradually increase his interactions with female classmates. Through such interactions, it helps to enrich their personality and make up for the lag or defect in their personality development.

Thinking about psychosexual disorder, which used to have a nasty name, was called "sexual perversion". The name "sexual perversion" is inherently discriminatory, reflecting people's moral (value) judgment and rejection of such behavior. Later, it was changed to "sexual deviation", which was more neutral. However, since "sexual deviance" is included in the diagnostic criteria as a group of disorders, it is still a reflection of people's rejection of such behavior. Since it is a "disease", it means that the "patient" must be treated, and the "patient" must accept the transformation of others for them. Not only sexual psychological abnormalities, but in fact, there are many items in the diagnostic criteria for personality disorders that also reflect people's moral judgments.

Homosexuality, for which there is no effective treatment and does not harm others and society, is removed from the diagnostic criteria for mental disorders for these two reasons. Since then, homosexuals have been "normalized". Fetishism, if it does not harm others, is only a kind of "sexual preference" of the individual, and if it does not steal other people's belongings, it can also be accepted, respected, and "normalized".

Nowadays, fetishists, such as women's underwear, are sold online, so fetishists can reasonably and legally get the items they want through online shopping. Of course, if you steal someone's personal belongings, you can be diagnosed with "stealing disorder" or "impulse control disorder". Now there are a lot of sex tools in sex shops, among which there are various models of simulation XXX. Who buys and uses these items? Obviously, it should be used by women to get sexual pleasure in the end. So, if women prefer to get sexual pleasure mainly through analog XXXX or oscillators, should they also be diagnosed with "fetishism"? Many years ago, people only accepted "uh-huh", and other forms were considered "sexual perversion", and only "missionary positions" were accepted as standard positions, while other forms of positions were considered non-standard and abnormal.

Now that society has developed and become more and more open, pluralistic values exist at the same time. Therefore, when judging ***, people's acceptance and tolerance are getting wider and wider, which leads to the narrower and narrower scope of "sexual perversion" behavior. If this continues, many behaviors that were originally considered "sexual statements" in the future may be regarded as normal in the future.

As society progresses, group standards of human behavior become less and less important, and the most important thing is to respect the differences between individuals. When respect and acceptance are put first, there will be more and more "normal people", and there will be fewer and fewer "patients" who need to be treated and transformed. So, I dare to predict that after homosexuality, fetishism may be removed from the diagnostic criteria for mental disorders in the future.

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NO.2 Pandora's thoughts on the above cases at the corner of his mouth:

For modern people living in the era of information explosion, all kinds of good or bad information from all angles continue to pour into the world of young people, the establishment of values is often more off the track than the previous generation, because people have commonality and have uniqueness in their bones, and this uniqueness is often bound by the concept of public morality in group life.

In fact, everyone, including the author, has some dark thoughts in their hearts, and this dark thinking has given birth to many concepts that are unacceptable to ordinary people.

One day, the author picked up a message in the drifting bottle, this is a woman in her fifties, middle-aged widowed, raising her son alone, and living together for nearly twenty years, so that the mother has a peculiar sense of attachment to her son.

I don't know if her son has emotions similar to the mirror of Edipus, but the mother is deeply trapped in it, and the pressure of physical emptiness reminds her that she needs to find a man to comfort her, but when she thinks that her son is in a critical period of his studies (I think that no matter what age her son is, as long as he is still in school, or even working, she feels that it is a critical period and cannot take that step. The idea of dedicating everything to the man closest to her was suppressed again, and such a continuous accumulation made her forced to seek comfort through the Internet.

This has to be said to be the sorrow of a loving mother, if, just to say, if, there is no public morality constraints, what will this mother do, I think I can at least find someone to talk to.

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NO.3 Fetish in the eyes of the corner of the mouth:

Understanding the world of fetishism is simple, literally, people's crazy obsession with something.

The corners of the mouth are mild stockings and heavy heel control, especially the kind of stiletto heels that are more than 12 centimeters, with a platform, which in some cases can make people feel like a kind of magic.

Imagine that you are walking on the main road, and suddenly you see a slender long-haired beauty standing quietly on the corner with her back to you, waiting for the bus, the slender heels look very bewitching in the sun, the kind of calf curves that are forcibly stretched, extending from the joints to the hips, above the waist and up to the neck, showing two extremely attractive arcs, bending the entire back, giving people a strong visual impact, this is the intoxicating thing about high heels.

As long as it doesn't harm others, I personally feel that fetishes are not difficult to talk about......