"I understand." Nan Sheng sighed: "Your cousin's house is not in the city, right?" There are rural customs in this rural area, and as a public police station, it usually doesn't care about the rotten sesame things in the family, not to mention that the husband beats his wife, or the husband's whole family breaks his wife's head, and when the beating is dying, it is called a family matter, and it should be solved in his own home. ”

"My cousin's family is rural, but my cousin-in-law's family is not, it's a serious city person." The female neighbor held her mobile phone: "This unreasonable person can be found anywhere, and this ugliness is not a rural specialty, but a general national condition." ”

"It's the national condition, the general national condition." Xiaobao in his arms was sleepy, Nan Sheng patted it gently, and his eyes were taken back from the door of his house opposite.

"When I got home from the police station, my cousin's mother-in-law was just like your mother-in-law, with a fierce face, chasing and scolding my cousin. My cousin couldn't bear to be scolded by her, so she wanted to pack a few clothes and go back to her parents' house. As a result, her mother-in-law, not caring that my cousin was still pregnant, rushed forward and snatched my cousin's things from her hand, and deliberately threw my cousin's things all over the ground. ”

Nan Sheng didn't speak, because she had a similar experience. That kind of panic and helplessness is probably only understood by those who are married and have experienced the war between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Her mother-in-law was afraid that she would run out, so she scolded and threw my cousin's clothes, stepped on them with her foot, and shouted that my cousin's father-in-law told him to lock the door, saying that she would not let my cousin go out and be embarrassed. My cousin was so frightened that she locked herself in the toilet with her phone, and when her mother-in-law instigated her son to slam on the door, my cousin let out a shrill roar from the bathroom and called my aunt tremblingly. ”

"At that time, my aunt and my husband happened to be guests at my house, and when I received a phone call, my mother was not at ease, so she accompanied my aunt to my cousin's in-law's house. What I just said was what my mother told me later, and most of it was told to them by my cousin while crying. As for my cousin's husband and in-laws, they didn't even argue from beginning to end, but just accused my cousin of being ignorant, saying that she was ignorant and that she deliberately wanted to break up the family. ”

"And then?" Nan Sheng asked in a low voice.

"Later things were even more infuriating." The female neighbor said helplessly: "But it's not my cousin's husband and in-laws who are angry, but my aunt." My cousin was so wronged and frightened that my aunt only comforted her a few words. In her opinion, my cousin's marriage to my cousin-in-law was chosen by my cousin herself, and she has been pregnant for more than six months. ”

"Your cousin must be sad." Nan Sheng said: "But this is also the inherent idea of people in that life, I always feel that as long as there are no special problems in marriage, we should stick to it, even if it is not for ourselves, it must be for the sake of children." ”

"You're right, that's what my aunt thinks." The female neighbor looked at the photo on her phone again: "My cousin has been beaten like this, and my aunt actually persuaded her to be patient, saying that as long as my cousin-in-law changes, it will be fine." Before leaving, my aunt also asked my cousin to apologize to her in-laws, saying that there are parents in the world, even mothers-in-law, who are daughters-in-law, cannot do anything with them. ”

"Does your aunt owe your cousin-in-law?"

"Owe is not owed, that is, the traditional thinking concept is troublesome, thinking that as long as you give a step, the other party can stop in moderation, and for the sake of your generosity, tolerance and kindness, take the initiative to reflect on your mistakes, and use practical actions to make up for the harm to you. But the truth is the opposite, your generosity will only make the other party think that you have no bottom line. Your tolerance and kindness will also be mistaken by the other party for weakness and deception. Not only do they not reflect on themselves, but they become more intense. ”

"It's not absolute, but most of them are like you say." Nan Sheng smiled bitterly: "I am the best example, but if I am fierce, I will not be so embarrassed to be pressed under just now, looking at my crying son, I can only shout in my heart." ”

"It's the way you just look that reminds me of my cousin." The female neighbor shook Nan Sheng's hand: "Do you know? It was because my cousin-in-law and his parents bullied my cousin for the first time that my aunt and my uncle-in-law did not stand up for her, which caused my cousin's in-laws to think that it was not a big deal for my son to beat his daughter-in-law, which caused my cousin to be beaten into a normal situation in their family, and even intensified, and the more troublesome it became. ”

"Your aunt and your uncle-in-law have never been prominent for your cousin?"

"It's not for nothing, it's late." The female neighbor sighed loudly: "It wasn't until they finally realized the terrible nature of domestic violence and realized that their daughter was very likely to be beaten to death by their son-in-law, that they thought of standing up for my cousin." At that time, my cousin's daughters were already six years old, and my cousin was used to being beaten, while my cousin-in-law was so arrogant that he didn't know what his last name was. ”

"Just put up with it?"

"I divorced once, but I was forced to remarry him again in less than a year."

"Remarriage? Knowing it's a quagmire, how could your cousin ...... Child, because the child is right? ”

The female neighbor suddenly cried, tears in her eyes, and she suddenly frightened Nan Sheng.

"It's okay, I'm fine, but I suddenly feel sad in my heart, for my cousin's confused life." The female neighbor said: "My cousin gave birth to a daughter, and when she divorced, because my cousin-in-law and his parents refused to let go, my cousin could only choose to leave the house alone. ”

"The marriage is divorced, and the person is gone, but the heart stays in that house. Shortly after the divorce, my cousin's daughter called her and said that her cousin-in-law was intimidating when he was drunk. The grandparents said that if my cousin didn't go back, they would find another wife for my cousin-in-law, give birth to a son, and when the grandson was born, they would send my cousin's daughter to an orphanage. ”

"A six-year-old, that's up to such a scare. The little girl cried heartbreakingly, but my cousin couldn't do anything about it. Since marrying her cousin-in-law, she has been a housewife, and when she divorced, she went out of the house for the sake of her children. Not to mention taking care of her daughter, even taking care of herself is a bit difficult. ”

"Then you can't remarry!"

"She has no choice, if she doesn't go back, the daughter she conceived and gave birth to in October may suffer from her previous pain, being bullied by her grandparents, and beaten and scolded by her biological parents." The female neighbor said: "I also suggested that she go to court and fight with her cousin-in-law for the custody of her daughter, but the relevant departments said that according to my cousin's conditions, the chance of winning the child is very small, unless I wait a few more years, when the child grows up, my cousin will sue unilaterally and let the child make a choice in court." My cousin can wait and doesn't mind waiting, but can the child wait? As a mother, how can she be willing to let her daughter live alone in that environment for a few years? ”

"Alas!" Nan Sheng sighed: "Hearing you say this, I don't think I'm the most unlucky and pitiful one." ”