In the next few days, Changsun Sheng took Changsun Wuji to Zhuangnei Square every day, taught him to practice horseback riding and archery, and invited Ding Zhankui to come over for guidance.

When Changsun Wuji was practicing, Changsun Sheng and Ding Zhankui were always on the sidelines to observe carefully, and sometimes they would discuss it based on his performance.

The eldest grandson Wuji didn't seem to be interested in riding a horse, and he didn't have the urge to try it when he watched the eldest grandson Sheng urging the horse to gallop and demonstrate.

Changsun Sheng and Ding Zhankui looked at it and thought about what the problem was.

Changsun Sheng said to Ding Zhankui: "I don't think this kid is suitable for martial arts. ”

Ding Zhankui bowed slightly: "Whether a child learns literature or martial arts depends on talent." ”

"Martial arts training depends on the muscles and bones. It is suitable for children who practice martial arts, and from the physical point of view, the meat is more fat and less. Strong muscles, tight skin, lively and active, born with some strength, adventurous and thrill-seeking. ”

"Suitable for children from the literature, the body fat is more fleshy and less fleshy, the muscles are loose and the flesh is relaxed, the personality is quiet, clever and intelligent, and he is not very interested in adventurous and exciting things."

Changsun Sheng has practiced martial arts since he was a child, and he deeply sympathizes with what Ding Zhankui said.

If a child does not have the talent to practice martial arts, his body will become strong after hard practice, but it is impossible to excel and reach the realm of unstoppable bravery.

If you ignore the child's talent and increase the intensity of the child's training, not only can you not achieve the desired effect, but it will ruin the child's body and cause injuries.

Regarding the physique and character of Changsun Wuji, Changsun Sheng knows best.

He smiled and said to Ding Zhankui: "Wuji is not suitable for martial arts, I have known it for a long time, and they all say that the nephew follows his uncle, and I think he follows Gao Shilian." ”

Ding Zhankui doesn't seem to know that Changsun Sheng and Gao Jian have this relationship: "It turns out that Gao Shilian is Xiao Langjun's uncle?" I heard from the people in the village that he was a great talent, who lived in seclusion in Zhongnan Mountain all the year round to study, full of wealth, and learned to be rich in five cars. This is a good teacher for Xiao Langjun. ”

Changsun Sheng said: "I understand that children should be taught according to their talents, and they should not be forced in everything, and if they are applied against the child's nature, it will harm the child." A few years ago, I wanted Wuji to study with Shilian, and Shilian thought that Wuji was still young, and he had to lay a good foundation first, and he couldn't pull out the seedlings to help him grow. ”

Ding Zhankui nodded: "Gao Langjun is right, many parents want their children to become Jackie Chan and are in a hurry, but they have destroyed their children's nature. ”

Changsun Sheng said: "I think boys should learn both civil and military. But to distinguish priorities, take Wuji as an example, if it is suitable for the study of literature, it is mainly based on literature, supplemented by martial arts. ”

"Mowgli is too gentle, and he follows the rules. If you only let him blindly study, he will lose his cowardice when he grows up, be timid and afraid of things, and be indecisive in foreign affairs. I want him to make up for his physical and character defects through martial arts, increase some heroism and pride, and achieve a balance of rigidity and softness. ”

When the two were talking, Changsun Wuji, accompanied by his entourage, had already ridden a horse and ran around the field, and when he arrived in front of Changsun Sheng and the others, he restrained his mount.

Changsun Sheng walked over, picked him off the horse, patted him on the shoulder and encouraged: "Practice well, in a while, you can gallop like Grandpa." ”

The eldest grandson Wuji will be suspicious: "Grandpa, can I really be like you?"

Changsun Sheng said: "It's really possible, as long as you practice more, practice makes perfect." Look at your mother, a woman can ride so well. ”

The eldest grandson Wuji suddenly doubled his confidence, and said: "Then I will practice more, and when I grow up, I will ride a horse as fast as lightning like my grandfather, and bend a bow and shoot arrows on the horse." ”

Changsun Sheng and Ding Zhankui looked at Changsun Wuji's innocent appearance and smiled at each other.

Whether a child is willing to learn something, the key is to see if he has a hobby.

Children also have pursuits, and they want to be happy and satisfied by doing something.

It is that people like success and do not like setbacks; I like to be liked, I don't like to be criticized and blamed.

Success and praise will form positive feedback in a person's heart, which will motivate him to do more such things and hope for more success and praise.

Frustration, criticism, and accusations can create negative feedback in the human heart. If he does something, he always receives negative feedback, and his self-esteem will be hurt, and he will not want to do such things again in the future.

Changsun Sheng understands the truth, and he knows that encouragement and approval will increase a child's interest in doing something.

Driven by interests and hobbies, children will take the initiative to learn and do.

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Here, Changsun Sheng and Ding Zhankui are teaching Changsun Wuji to practice horseback riding and archery.

In the inner house, Gao Qiuniang also invited Mrs. Ding to her home every day to talk.

There is one thing that makes Gao Qiuniang very entangled.

She wasn't sure how to call Mrs. Ding.

Now Mrs. Ding is no longer a domestic slave.

After a while, when Ding Zhankui took office, Mrs. Ding was also a seven-grade governor's wife, and she was the elder of Guanyin, so she always had to have a title when she met, otherwise it would be too impolite.

Don't look at Guanyin's small person, but she has a high rank in the Changsun General's Mansion.

As the saying goes: Nagato's grandson, the last man's grandfather.

That is to say, Nagato's children, when they see children of the same age as the last door, generally have to call grandpa.

Changsun Sheng and Ding Zhankui are brothers.

The eldest grandson Sheng is older than Ding Zhankui, and it stands to reason that Guanyin should call Mrs. Ding and aunt.

But Gao Qiuniang is younger than Mrs. Ding, and Guanyin calls Mrs. Ding and Auntie, which always feels a little different.

And Ding Niangzi is the nursing mother of Guanyin, as Mrs. Ding shouted, Guanyin should be called Ding Niangzi's sister.

How can a child grow up eating his sister's milk? It's also a bit out of place.

Gao Qiuniang regarded how to call Mrs. Ding and Mrs. Ding very important, and she was afraid of losing her manners.

Mrs. Ding didn't care, isn't it just a title? It's good to get used to it. Several daughters-in-law of the eldest grandson's family are older than Gao Qiuniang, don't they all have to call their mother when they meet?

She thought that she would shout with Ding Zhankui, and Guanyin would call her aunt, and Ding Niangzi would be Ding Niangzi. From Tokyo to Xijing, the lady is the official title, and it is not rude to call Ding Niangzi. Hearing Mrs. Ding say this, Gao Qiuniang also felt reasonable, so she followed Mrs. Ding.

Mrs. Ding is very fond of Guanyin, she also said that this girl is a rich and noble person, and she is not an ordinary person when she grows up, with full eyes, a handsome nose, a wide and high forehead, and a smart and dignified person.

Seeing Mrs. Ding commenting on her daughter who was less than three years old, Gao Qiuniang smiled: "I'm a little worried now, a girl, half-pulled head and no hair, how can she marry when she grows up?" ”

"I read the photo book, and it says that girls with wide and high foreheads are the faces of Wangfu and Kefu. The woman's forehead is a mirror. If a woman marries, the husband can suppress his wife, and this mirror is the appearance of a prosperous husband. If the husband can't hold back, the husband will be restrained in the mirror, and the woman should leave Liuhaier to cover her forehead. ”

Mrs. Ding smiled: "What's so worrying about this? Madame chose a mighty and handsome general for her to be her husband. In this way, they will complement each other, the husband sings and the wife follows, with this wangfu mirror, the Langzi may be waiting to worship the prime minister. ”

Gao Qiuniang just laughed when she heard this, and quipped: "How can a good man be so easy to find?" I don't know if I was born now? Now that the children are hired early, and some of them have decided to be married at a few ages, do I have to pay attention now, don't let the good man let other families rob him. ”

After saying that, he smiled.

Mrs. Ding and Mrs. Ding also laughed.

There is a way that men and women are matched to be talented, and women are good-looking.

The daughters-in-law of the family not only look at their appearance, but also value their family and talents.

The family is different, and it is impossible to get married.

The wife of a powerful family will have a husband and children in the future, and take care of the middle-aged feed, and it is not a suitable choice if she has no talent.

Therefore, the education of girls is also the top priority.

Gao Qiuniang continued: "Children are the flesh and blood of their parents, and they all look forward to their sons becoming dragons and daughters becoming phoenixes. I want to let Ah Wan learn everything I know now, and I know that I am in a hurry, but I am still a little impatient. ”

Mrs. Ding smiled and said, "This is human nature. The child is still young, and he can't be in a hurry, so he has to take it step by step. ”

"The cultivation of children's temperament depends on edification. Immerse yourself in a good atmosphere, and subtly develop good habits. ”

"If you like learning and take the initiative to learn things if you are interested, your progress can be said to be a rapid progress. You and my daughter often stroke the piano, practice calligraphy, play chess, and then paint, and children will clamoring to learn when they see that they like it, so they will get twice the result with half the effort. ”

Gao Qiuniang agreed with Mrs. Ding's statement very much, and said: "I also think that when the child is young, let her play middle school and be happy in middle school, so that she can have more contact with outside things, see the world more, and open her eyes." Teach her some nursery rhymes, those that have been passed down from generation to generation, are catchy and can also let children learn a lot of things. ”

Mrs. Ding nodded and said, "I think the children's songs "Little Chicken Quack" and "Little Sparrow" are very good, not only smooth, but also interesting, and contain a lot of knowledge in them. ”

Gao Qiu Niangqi said: "You Yangzhou people also know children's songs such as "Little Chicken Quack" and "Little Sparrow"? Listen to it and see if it's the same as what I learned when I was a kid. ”

Mrs. Ding sang in a rhythmic voice:

The chicks quack and want to eat cucumbers;

cucumber running water, to eat chicken legs;

The chicken thighs are hairy, so you have to eat sour peaches;

Sour peaches have a pit and have to eat calves;

The calf sprinkled joy to the edge of the sky;

thunder in the sky, hit the stone hammer;

The stone hammer sued and sued the monk;

The monk recites the scriptures and recites them to the gentleman;

The gentleman made a hexagram and called the toad;

The toad gargles the water and gargles the old ghost;

The old ghost pulls the cart, pulling and pouting.

After listening to Mrs. Ding's singing, Gao Qiuniang clapped her hands and said: "Yangzhou is thousands of miles away from Chang'an, and the children's songs here are exactly the same, and I don't know which life they have been handed down?" You sing "Little Sparrow" again. ”

Mrs. Ding laughed at Mimi, and then sang:

The little sparrow, rolling all over the ground, beating the man to buy powder;

bought powder, didn't know how to rub, and went to buy hemp under the guise of a man;

bought hemp, didn't know how to twist, and went to buy an umbrella with a man;

bought an umbrella, didn't know how to fight, and went to buy a horse with a man;

bought a horse, couldn't ride, and went to buy a donkey with a man;

bought a donkey, didn't know how to hang it, and went to hang himself with a man;

hanged himself and didn't die, so angry that he burned paper;

I can't burn paper, so I am so angry that I hit the gong;

The gong does not sound, and it is so angry that it is tickling;

It doesn't hurt to tickle, and it's so angry that it hums, hums.

Gao Qiuniang exclaimed: "It's still exactly the same, the cultural inheritance of this generation is really admirable, like those myths and legends, these songs are the crystallization of cultural wisdom, and what can be passed down is the essence. ”

Ding Niangzi responded: "I'll collect more and copy it into a book, maybe our Sanniang can still know a lot of words when she is learning." ”

Gao Qiuniang and Mrs. Ding both thought it was a good idea, and several people discussed collecting nursery rhymes and compiling a book.