"I ......"

Ding Yun is really hard to accept, after the child is born, it is inevitable that someone will take care of it.

There is definitely no way to take care of the people who go to work.

After all, working eight hours a day is not a question of whether there is energy to take care of it, the main thing is that children can't be away from people for eight hours, let alone eight hours away from people.

Even an hour away from someone is risky.

Ding Yun has a job now, and her parents have not yet reached retirement age, so it's okay to take a few days off, but it is impossible to take special leave to take care of the children at home, the only one who has nothing to do is her mother-in-law, and it is precisely because her mother-in-law promised to help her take care of the children that the original body will be born.

But if her mother-in-law defaulted.

In fact, she is helpless, after all, she can't stuff the child back again, even if she specifically asks someone to take care of the child, not to mention that she can't worry about it, even if she is at ease.

Financially, she can't afford it now.

Therefore, once her mother-in-law defaults, there is only one way in the end, and that is to resign herself and go home to take care of the child, which is also a choice that many working women have to make after giving birth.

It's okay if someone brings it, but there's really no way to bring it if no one brings it.

Once you accuse your mother-in-law, some people will say that your mother-in-law has no obligation to help you take care of the child, no obligation, so why did you promise to help in the first place, why did you use almost a coaxing method to trick you into having a child?

It is precisely because of these factors that Ding Yun is really hard to say anything now, after all, she is not willing to compromise like this, just go home to be a housewife, and may even have to be urged by her mother-in-law to have a second and third child.

"Well, I didn't think of that at the time.

If you get pregnant two or three years later, your dad and I are already retired by then, and even if they don't take care of you, we still have time to help you take care of the baby.

Now we still have two or three years to reach the retirement age, occasionally help you take care of it, but there is really no way to help you take care of it every day, your grandmother, she is now too busy to take care of herself, and it is impossible to help you take care of the children.

As for your grandma, she doesn't even like you as a granddaughter, let alone help you take care of the children. ”

Ding Yun was speechless for a while, her mother Huang Pinjuan thought about it, but she couldn't think of any good ideas, the difficulty was that the family was too old, too old to take care of a baby, and those who could take care of the baby were too young to retire.

This is the biggest difficulty and the biggest contradiction.

One thing that no one said is that when the parents and mothers-in-law gave birth, most of them had actually already sacrificed the career of their daughter or daughter-in-law by default and let her take care of the children.

Immediately after, there was no doubt that they were speechless.

After a long time, Huang Pinjuan said helplessly: "The matter has come to this point, how can you still leave, there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain, don't worry about it first, let's talk about it, wait until you are born."

What if your mother-in-law keeps her promise! ”

"Why can't I leave, Mom, I'll tell you the truth, in fact, I'm struggling with whether to leave now, I pay for the food and drink expenses at home, he doesn't pay a penny, and he doesn't do anything, he also helps me share half of the rent every month, and the rest is not a penny, I'm embarrassed to ask for it."

I'm a little worried about whether I'll be able to get money from him if I do quit my job and go home with my children, and crucially, I don't want to live the days when I have to reach out to him every month to ask for money.

It looked as if I was a head down on him. ”

Ding Yun was telling the truth, but she didn't mean to complain when she said this, mainly to test her mother's opinion on her idea of wanting a divorce.

As Ding Yun finished testing like this, her mother immediately couldn't hold back, and the whole person almost jumped up and shouted:

"What? What did you say? ”

"Are you crazy? You, why don't you let him just not share the rent, and simply support him! ”

"Oh my God, I was at the beginning, oops, it really made me not know how to say that you are good, how can you post it upside down like this, other people don't say it, don't you see the situation in our family, our family is still a dual-income worker, isn't your father's salary card also in my hand?

Wait a minute, according to what you say, then don't you have no savings in your hands now, how can you dare to have children without any savings, are you sure that my side will definitely help, or are you sure that your husband Zhou Junyu will definitely be able to save money, or is his mother willing to pay? ”

"Although some words are said to be philistine, it is ugly to say, but it is indeed the truth, you have no deposit at all to resist the risk, your current mode of getting along is really problematic, the most important thing is that you have lost at the beginning, it is difficult to change!"

After the outburst, Huang Pinjuan felt that this matter was quite tricky, she never expected her daughter to be stupid like this, this is simply naïve and brainless.

As for why she finds things tricky.

and difficult to change.

That's mainly because many things are always planned and reversed at the beginning, such as after the two get married, who will cook, who will do the laundry, who will clean and so on, many times it is something that is set at the beginning and difficult to reverse in the future.

Of course, the same is true for money.

This is similar to many policies that were easy to change at the beginning of the founding of the country, but once they have been long ago, they are difficult to reverse.

Once things become a routine, no one is willing to change it anymore, especially the vested ones, who are never willing to change, in Huang Pinjuan's opinion, her daughter is obviously not a vested person, she is a fool!

Knowing this, they shouldn't have compromised in the first place.

They shouldn't think that their daughter is smart and won't suffer any losses in dealing with people, but it turns out that IQ and EQ really have nothing to do with each other, and there is a direct connection with life experience and life experience.

Her daughter, on the contrary, has not suffered much because she has suffered.

I haven't been beaten much by society and am more naïve.

"Mom, so don't I know now?

Next, I plan to stay at home all the time, to see what Zhou Junyu's reaction is, and whether he will compromise or something, and his attitude will determine whether I go back to live with him, or divorce if I want to divorce.

If I get divorced, I want my children to have my last name.

Mom, you won't dislike me......"

Ding Yun was obviously more sober than the original, and she really didn't want to stay in that garbage heap anymore.

So at this time, I immediately explained that I had understood the problem, and made the next plan, and finally I didn't forget to lie and make it clear that I wanted to live at home for a while.

Even in case of divorce, whose surname the child has.

It's all already set in advance.