Schiller, who was standing in front of the window, closed the curtains, and a hoarse voice came from behind him: "Doctor, what's wrong?"

"It's nothing, it looks like a meteor flew by." Schiller shook his head, turned back, and said to Robert, who was lying on the bed, "Since the appearance of Iron Man, there have been more and more meteors in the sky over New York, and I hope the couples at the academy will never know that the meteor they are looking forward to may just be a failed plane crash."

Robert on the bed seemed to be in much better spirits, and could even smile at the joke, though his expression was still a little stiff, but because he had taken tranquilizers.

"I'm sorry, Robert, because of your great ability, you must take the medicine with a tranquilizer, otherwise, if you go crazy, everything here may be ruined." Schiller sat back down next to his hospital bed with the notebook in his hand.

"Of course, doctor." Robert lowered his head, looked at his hands and said, "Ever since I had this ability, I've been sabotaging, and sometimes, I can't tell if it's intentional or if it's just out of control......

"Actually, when I don't have this ability, I'm always in trouble." Robert looked a little sleepy, but seemed to be unhappy, and he said, "It's almost Christmas, isn't it? I remember the Christmas before I left home, and the atmosphere in the room was not even as good as in the hospital room."

"What's going on?" Schiller asked.

"I don't remember anymore." Robert shook his head and said, "But it's a small thing anyway, maybe I didn't fly to the nearest airport and asked him to pick me up, or maybe I brought back a girlfriend he didn't like......

"Who is he?"

"My dad." Robert wringed the sheets in his hand and said, Schiller looked him in the eye and said, "You never mentioned your family to me, what kind of man was your father?"

"Just like the fathers of the world." Robert gave a general answer, but then he added, "I hope I can do everything he wants, and live the life he thinks is successful, whether I want to live this life or not."

"Judging by your attitude, you should be unwilling?" Schiller poured Robert a glass of water, but Robert shook his head slightly and said, "He is a socially recognized successful person, and there is nothing bad about such a life."

"The only bad thing is that from the time I was three years old, he wanted me to live like him, and every word and deed, every move, should be in line with the childhood behavior of a successful prosecutor."

"Looks like he's putting a lot of pressure on you."

"Actually, I never knew what he wanted me to do." Under the effect of the sedative, Robert's mind was a little dazed, but it made him say what was in his heart: "Probably, he himself doesn't know what he wants me to do......

"He has succeeded, so I feel that as long as I follow the path he has arranged, I will also succeed, but the path he has taken is not arranged for him by others, and there is no pattern in it."

….

So, sometimes, he asked me to do this, and after a while, he asked me to do that, and the tone of the command was exactly the same as the seriousness, except that what he asked me to do was completely different, even the opposite."

"He said that I shouldn't be hippie and smiling, I should be steady and serious, but he also said that I shouldn't be cold to my classmates and teachers, and I should be lively and show myself."

He said I should have a sense of responsibility and justice, but he also said that I should be flexible and have a sense of justice."

"If I can't do it, he says that he did it in the first place, and that he succeeded with this ability, and if I really studied his behavior carefully, I wouldn't be so stupid......

Robert closed his eyes and said in a somewhat dry voice, "He would often get angry for no reason, asking me if I didn't think he was worthy of being my father, if I preferred my mother because my grandfather was richer, and if I looked down on him......

After Robert fell silent, Schiller sighed deeply, if he had to judge, Robert's father

The typology is so typical that it can appear in textbooks, and so are the examples of the failures of his education.

"First things first, it's not your fault." Schiller looked at Robert and set the tone before saying, "Your father is not educating a child, but educating the failed self."

As soon as Robert was about to open his mouth, Schiller nodded and said, "It is true that he has achieved a relatively high position in terms of social class, but that does not mean that he is not a failure."

"Your father is very proud of what he has achieved so far, and he is emphasizing his success when he talks about it to anyone, but what he doesn't say is that he still has too many unfulfilled desires."

These desires may be too great to be satisfied, or they may be too great to be satisfied, or they may be morally ashamed to speak out, but in fact he is not as satisfied with the status quo as he appears."

"But there is another form in which he can express his desires, and that is to 'educate,'" he said.

"Build in you the self-esteem that he has not succeeded in building, and glorify his unspeakable greed into expectations of you."

Robert turned his head to look at Schiller, who crossed the fingers of his hands in front of him, and said, "And he doesn't do this to others, only to you, not because he loves you at all, but because you are a child, you can't resist, you can't even tell."

It was both incorrect and selfish for him to use the perfect life he thought he should have, and what he thought he needed to achieve it, to guide you now."

"Going deeper, he thinks that he didn't get a perfect life because of bad luck, and he thinks that if he starts all over again, he will be able to make up for his regrets and be more successful."

"He feels that you are his chance to start all over again, and he firmly believes that he has already obtained the answer to the examination paper of life, and he must fill in his answer according to him, if you don't do this, he will think that you don't know what to do."

….

"But actually, if he really had the ability to answer every question correctly, he would have lived the life he wanted."

"The answers he came up with are actually made up of his mediocre life, these experiences are not the correct answers, and if you answer all the answers correctly step by step, you won't get a high score."

"But he won't believe it." Schiller shook his head and said, "He will only become more and more dissatisfied with you, thinking that you are useless, so he will take the correct answer and not answer the wrong question."

"Even if you're a completely emotionless robot who does what he says he does every step of the way, and at the end of the day, when he still doesn't get the success he wants, he'll just say, 'Why didn't you have your own opinions?' ，。」

"He holds a 60-point test paper, not only asks you to answer 60 points, the score is correct, and it is best to be able to correct it to 90 points under the educational background of 60 points, and help him correct it to 90 points, if you can't do it, he will only think that you are useless."

Robert looked at Schiller in a daze, and then, with some embarrassment, wiped his lips, lowered his head and clenched the quilt tightly, and said, "This is magic......

After saying that, he suddenly raised his head again, stared at Schiller with wide eyes, and said, "Doctor, about my father, I often have fragments swirling in my mind, and I can't put them together at all......

"But what you said just now is like a meticulous piece, kneading these pieces together, and even expressing them more concisely and accurately, is this your superpower?"

"It's just psychology." Schiller glanced down at the notebook in his hand and said, "And the second thing I want to tell you is that your home education situation is not a special case, it is even typical enough to be written into a textbook, and there are too many people who are in the same situation as you."

Robert opened his mouth wide and said slowly after a while, "Isn't it really my bad luck?"

"Your luck isn't very good." Schiller pushed his glasses, looked at him and said, "Your father is a little more extreme, but yes

Many parents have this symptom, but not as obvious as your father."

「…… Symptoms?" Robert repeated the word.

That's right, this is actually a typical psychological problem, and it is not something that can be understood by a simple sentence of 'hoping for a child to become a dragon, or 'hoping that the child will take fewer detours.'"

"But now, it's my ...... lying in the hospital."

"It's not that the number of untreated patients is large enough that it doesn't warrant treatment." Schiller shook his head and said, "And the reason why this is not taken seriously is actually because the victims are children, and they have almost no ability to speak."

When your father is moody and pours out his desire for control over you, can you run to the hospital and say to the psychiatrist, 'My father may be sick, please treat him?'

"Even if the doctor believes, everyone around him won't believe it, because he's an adult and you're a child."

"To put it simply, education has a threshold, which requires patience, perseverance, pedagogical knowledge, a certain understanding of child psychology, and a firm point of view, consistency, and the unity of knowledge and action.

….

Robert clenched his fists and said with some excitement, "That's exactly what I wanted to say!"

"When I was young, whenever I was reprimanded by my father for not doing what he said, I didn't even have a place to explain what he asked me to do, or he didn't even explain it clearly, and no one would listen to me......

"Over time, I felt that it was really my fault, and I thought, anyway, I can't be as successful as him, so I'm just going to be a bad person, the kind that is rotten at home, and I will feel happy when I see his angry and disappointed appearance, because I have succeeded in taking revenge on him."

But the people around me turned around me and accused me, saying that I had such a successful father, but he didn't study well, that I didn't know how to cherish it, and how many people didn't have a decent background......

"Alright, don't get excited, Robert." Schiller began to comfort Robert, who was speaking faster and faster, saying, "Remember what I said to you? One, it's not your fault, and second, you're not the only victim."

Hearing Schiller's last words, Robert gradually calmed down, and after a while, he slowly spoke, "What about the others?"

Schiller looked at him quietly, waiting for him to make the point of the question clearer, but to Schiller's surprise, Robert asked, "Did you say this to the others? Do they know both?"

"Unfortunately, no." Schiller shook his head and said, "So far, I've only encountered your one example, but the tragedy of family education abounds."

"So, why don't you let more people know?" Robert asked.

"I just analyzed the causes of your problem, and a good psychologist should give a solution." As he spoke, Schiller stood up, went to his desk, opened the drawer, took out a book, handed it to Robert, and said:

"It's a book I've ever written, and it's not about what's in it, it's the title that matters."

Robert followed his words and looked at the cover of the book, the cover design was very simple, even a little too simple, because, on the beige cover, only a few words were written.

[In view of the general environment,

Robert read the words out loud:

"'Learn to speak well,'"

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