Worship
Early the next morning, my grandfather got up early and asked everyone to leave.
Because most of the relatives in my grandparents' family have come out of the five suits, my grandmother has a cousin, but Su He's parents are juniors to my grandmother's cousin, and they didn't come over because of something. However, there is also a custom in F Village that the worship should be held a few days in advance, so you can receive it in advance for the festival.
Although many people think that this is all superstition, the custom has been maintained for so many years, after all, no one knows if it will be received, anyway, it is only a few days in advance.
Therefore, these things to be prepared can only be purchased by themselves, and everyone is more taboo about these sacrifices, especially those who do business, these things are not allowed to enter the door. You can only get up in advance to buy these things, and these things can only be bought in several places.
Although cremation is now advocated, most people in rural areas still can't accept it and choose burial. Su's father and mother were buried on a hill not far from the village.
From afar, Su He knew the place when he saw the direction of the car. In the previous life, Su He's Qingming worship was this place, and he would run every year, and Su He's impression was very deep.
The road on the mountain is narrow and uneven, and it is impossible for cars to drive up. Su He and his entourage got out of the car and walked, the aunt helped her grandfather to lead the way in front, and Su He helped her grandmother to follow behind.
There are basically no people on the road now, and this is not the time to worship, and this mountain is full of graves, so no one usually goes up the mountain.
At that time, Su He didn't know where the specific location was in the hospital, and he walked behind his grandfather for a long time but still didn't go. On the way, I passed by the location of Su He's worship in the previous life, too, the mountain is not big, and there is still a high probability of passing by, it is exactly the same as in my memory, but unfortunately she is no longer the original her.
In the cranky thoughts along the way, we arrived at the destination.
In the distance, Su He saw a small house next to several tombs, which was a little wider than the usual coffin. When I got closer, I saw the names of two people on the tombstone, and the two were buried together.
Grandparents stepped forward to deal with the weeds on the several graves on the side with the tools they brought, and Su He and his aunt also hurriedly stepped forward to help, and when the weeds were cleaned up, they hung up the color striped paper they bought.
According to the inscription on the tombstone, Su He knew that the tombs on the side were Su He's grandfather's parents and grandfather. However, Su He did not worship in his memory, but every year Su's father and mother would go back to their hometown to worship with their grandparents during the Qingming Festival.
And this year, my grandparents didn't come back to worship, and now I come to see Su's father and Su's mother. After kneeling and burning the paper money, kowtowing one by one, and letting go of the firecrackers, the group arrived at the grave of Su's father and mother.
Seeing the photo of Su's father and mother on the tombstone, Su He's tears flowed uncontrollably and suddenly knelt in front of the grave. Slowly move a little bit to clean up the weeds and branches around it.
Grandparents didn't say anything, just silently handed the remaining paper money in their hands to Su He and helped put the sacrifices in place.
Su He couldn't cry while setting the paper money on fire. Grandfather's parents and grandfather Su He have never seen it, nor have they appeared in his memory, he doesn't feel anything, but Su's father and Su mother are different, in the memory of the original owner, from childhood to adulthood, Su's father and Su mother were everywhere, and finally died to protect her, if it weren't for her, Su's mother might not have died. And her parents in her previous life were also kind to her.
As long as he thought of the face of Su's father and Su's mother, Su He's tears fell even more fiercely.
The sun was getting dim little by little, and the aunt just wanted to persuade her, it was inconvenient to go down the mountain at night, Su He had already sorted out her mood and stood up, no matter what, life must go on, and people who are alive can't indulge in it for the rest of their lives, not to mention that there are grandparents and aunts here, and they can't just fall here for them.
On the 2nd, everyone was not in the mood to go out, so they stayed in the hotel for a day, and even the meal was solved nearby.
The 3rd is the death day, and although we have already worshiped two days ago, we still plan to go over to worship.
Just about to go out, my grandmother's cousin called, saying that she had arrived at the train station, and asked where Su He's family was, waiting for them to go over together.
Hearing that my cousin had come back from out of town, a smile appeared on my grandmother's lips.
The relationship between my cousin and my grandmother was very good when I was young, the two of them were two years apart, and they grew up together, and even my grandmother was not unfamiliar when she went to study in other places, but later my grandmother married my grandfather, and then went to teach in City B, and my cousin married to another village, and then went to work in other places, so there was less contact.
But last year, Su's father and mother died, and my grandmother and cousin immediately rushed over to help, and this year it was a temporary matter at home that was delayed until today, and the obedient meaning was that the family rushed over. This made my grandmother quite pleased, which represented attention.
Since my grandmother's cousin's family is coming, it is natural to wait together, and my grandmother's and cousin's family have no residence here, so they came here specially for their family's affairs. Su He's family naturally has the obligation to settle down for them, and Su He's family doesn't have a place to live here, and they live in a hotel, so they naturally have to be arranged here.
My grandmother's and cousin's family came by train, and there is a train station in the same city, which is less than an hour away, so it was very fast.
Grandma waited outside the hotel early, afraid that her cousin would not be able to find her, so everyone naturally waited together. When they met, my grandmother was very enthusiastic about pulling her cousin's family to mix.
Su He looked at this family, from the tone of the phone just now, all Su He heard was kindness, for this family, Su He's senses were very good.
I saw four people coming, my grandmother's cousin's cousin-in-law and a middle-aged couple, looking at the appearance, the middle-aged man is very similar to my grandmother's cousin, it should be my grandmother's son, and the other is my daughter-in-law.
My grandmother's cousin looked chubby, not tall, with a thick waist and arms, probably because she did a lot of farm work. But with a smile on his face all the time, it looks very kind.
And his cousin-in-law, Su He called him his aunt and grandfather, was a simple, very strong man, he looked very honest, he scratched his head when he spoke, and he felt very compatible with his grandmother and cousin, with a husband and wife face.
And the middle-aged man looks very shrewd, with a pair of eyes that are rolling slightly, but with the simple face inherited from his parents, he doesn't look annoying.
The middle-aged woman looked a little haggard on her face, and she didn't know what the reason was, but she was keeping her head down and not saying a word at this time. However, it seems to have a milder personality.
This is a person with a good personality, although he looks simple, but judging from the shrewd eyes of that uncle, he is not a good person, and he will be flexible. In the end, Su He came to a conclusion, Su He likes to deal with such people very much, because they will not cheat you, nor will they be like a virgin, blindly helping people without asking for anything in return, and losing their appetite in vain.
"This is Yingying, it's so big, this skin is really good" Grandma's cousin saw Su He's eyes lit up, and praised her, "I heard that I won a lot of prizes in piano competitions, and I won the first place in any competition, it's really amazing."
"What's the matter, it's just that children play with each other, nothing powerful," said my grandmother, which is the unique modesty of Chinese people.
"You can't say that, it's not easy for so many children to get first, and you have to reward them well," my grandmother's cousin continued.
While talking, the group had already walked to the pre-booked room to settle down the cousin's family. My grandmother's cousin's family has arranged it, and I must give money to my grandmother.
But Su He's grandmother insisted very much, "You came to help before, we were in too much of a hurry at the time, and we didn't notice this, so it was already embarrassing to let you find a place to live by yourself, and this time you came here because of our business, so you can still spend money again."
"What is it for us to eat and live by ourselves, and we want you to spend money," the uncle immediately objected.
"Yes," my grandmother and cousin also echoed, "Where is there such a thing, everyone laughs when they say it, how can there be a family to eat and drink."
The two sides were at a stalemate, and in the end, the waiter said that it was not good-looking, and seeing that the grandmother was very persistent, the cousin's family gave up.
"What about Gaga" Grandma suddenly thought that Gaga is her cousin's grandson, only 4 years old, very cute, last year my cousin's family brought it over, why didn't I see it this year.
"At my mother's house," said my aunt.
"I'm really bothering you," Grandma was a little upset.
"Where, the child misses his grandmother a little bit and doesn't want to come back," said the grandmother's cousin.
That's what I said, but my grandmother knew in my heart that it must be inconvenient to put it at my grandmother's house. But my grandmother didn't tell me anything, and she was even more moved.
"Let's go over first," said my grandmother's cousin without waiting for her grandmother to speak.
"Okay" grandma didn't say anything else, it's good to know herself, but it's embarrassing to say it.
The three plates of offerings for the first two days have been placed in front of the tombstone, so I don't need to prepare it today, but I bought a lot of paper money and the like, and I also bought a paper house, and then asked someone to help deliver it.
When paying in the middle, my grandmother and my grandmother's cousin's family have been pulling and rushing to pay, which is also a kind of culture, whether they are poor or rich, they have to pull each other down when they pay, in order to show their enthusiasm for each other. This can't be avoided even if you stay in the field for many years, and the customs of the old family are still there. Why can't you let others pay if others rush to pay, to be honest, Su He doesn't like this kind of pulling and pulling posture, and always feels embarrassed, but in such an environment, it can't be changed, and habits have become natural.