"Since you say so, then let me state my opinion."

Li Shulan put down the work in her hand, looked directly into her eyes, and said with a bit of seriousness in her tone, "If it were me, I would definitely not get married in advance, unless there are some special circumstances, and I will never break the contract as a last resort."

You must know that this agreement was decided by the elders of the two of you, and if you change it at will, it seems that this agreement does not matter at all.

The most important point is that I think as a woman should be reserved, you have not yet married, you will completely obey his wishes, I believe that if you get married in the future, he will get used to making his own decisions about everything in your family.

In other words, you will be at his disposal in the future, and if you have a little other ideas and other opinions, it may cause him to resent them.

No matter what problems he encounters in the future, he will get used to thinking about everything from his own standpoint, and you, the person who obeys him, will unconsciously become unimportant in his heart.

Want to get his respect, or he takes your opinion into account and takes care of your ideas, and everything can't come up again. ”

Su Caizhu was stunned.

Apparently she never realized it would have such a serious impact.

Seeing that the person in front of her stopped, she couldn't help but urge, "Sister-in-law Lan, you go on, I'll listen!"

"It seems that you don't think I'm verbose, so I'll talk about it again."

Li Shulan smiled silently, and followed the train of thought just now to pick up the topic just now, "You are very obedient and obedient to his arrangement before you get married, and he is in charge of everything."

If you suddenly put forward your opinion to him, you will feel that you have no respect for him, and you will deliberately rebel against his arrangement, and you will unconsciously develop prejudices against you.

As the number increases, there will be more and more problems between you, and I personally think it is best to let him know that you have your own insistence and ideas before you get married, and let him know that you are not the kind of person who takes him as the main person and obeys all his arrangements.

Then in the future, when you encounter problems between you, he will take the initiative to consider your ideas, and if you have any opinions, he will be accustomed to discussing with you, listening to your opinions, or respecting your ideas.

Of course, if you think that a woman should obey a man's ideas and respect a man's arrangement, and if you are afraid that he will have any opinions about you, you can go back and discuss with your family about your marriage.

Can you understand what I said? Can you accept what I mean? ”

Everything is clearly explained, and it can be regarded as giving her clear instructions.

Su Caizhu was silent for most of the day.

Then she stood up and saluted to the person in front of her, "Sister-in-law Lan, thank you for the reminder."

I know you're saying it so carefully for my own good, so I can understand what's going on.

Now it seems that I am stunned, and I don't realize that agreeing to marry in advance is tantamount to looking down on myself and being looked down upon. ”

"I'm relieved that you can figure this out."

Li Shulan pursed her lips and smiled, "I'm afraid that you will blame me for blocking your good deeds, or that I will scare you by telling you about the matter." ”

"Sister-in-law Lan, I'm not a person who doesn't know what to do, you are for my good, of course I know."

Su Caizhu showed a look of shame, "It's because I'm ignorant, and I don't know if I look down on myself unconsciously."

Fortunately, I haven't promised Brother Ye that he will convince my father, otherwise he will think that I don't know the importance in his heart. ”

"You don't have to take this matter to heart, maybe he himself wanted to marry you home and take care of himself as soon as possible, but he didn't think of this."

"Even if he doesn't notice it now, if I really agree to get married early, he will realize it in the future."

"Don't worry, it's not happening yet!"

"Sister-in-law Lan, if Brother Ye mentions this matter again, what should I do?"

"It's very simple, he didn't ask you about it again, and you treated it as if it hadn't happened, so you can do whatever you want."

Li Shulan gave her advice, "If Young Master Ye takes the initiative to mention this matter to you again, you use the two elders to discuss the agreement as a reason, and whether you need to propose marriage should also be discussed by the two elders."

In a word, the matter of getting married in advance should not be decided by the two of you.

As a woman, it is even more impossible for you to promise anything in private, and everything is subject to your parents' arrangements, so that Young Master Ye will not have any opinions on you, maybe he will respect you more in his heart. ”

Su Caizhu smiled gratefully at her, "Sister-in-law Lan, I understand, thank you." ”

"Silly girl, what do you need to be polite to me!"

Li Shulan shook her head with a smile, "You, it's better to do things well while you haven't gotten married, make more money to buy a shop, buy a good field, your dowry is rich, and the straighter your waist is, even Young Master Ye doesn't dare to despise you." ”

"Sister-in-law Lan, I will!"

……

The first business road after the year is about to start again.

Li Shulan discussed with the steward and Geng Wei for most of the day, and went to the workshop and warehouse to check it in person.

Almost half of the goods in the warehouse were taken out, and ten wagons were filled.

This batch of goods is worth tens of thousands of taels of silver.

If the merchants had returned safely this time, they would have earned back several times as much silver.

For the Su family, this batch of goods is definitely a big deal.

So choose an auspicious day.

The Su family's merchant team of more than 20 people left Hengzhou City.

After a busy few days, Li Shulan finally felt tired after relaxing all of a sudden.

Leaning on the chair and closing his eyes, he talked to Aunt Xiyu, "The goods we lack the most are all kinds of embroidery, not only the embroidery in our shop is more popular, but the goods of the merchants are also mainly embroidery."

It's just that there are only three embroiderers in our family, plus two of us, and the colored beads can also be counted as one, and the embroidery we provide is still far from enough. ”

"Madam, let's call the people from the tooth shop to come to the door."

Aunt Xiyu proposed: "Although embroidery is rare, it is not nothing, as long as the embroidery skills are passed, we can raise a few more embroidery girls, and the lady will no longer worry about the supply of embroidery in the future." ”

"The embroidery girl really needs to be added."

Li Shulan understood that the more goods the merchant carried, the more silver he earned.

Nowadays, the most popular ones are mainly embroidery and all kinds of small jewelry, which need to be made by human hands.

So he nodded, "Go back, you call someone to the tooth store to inform them to come, and we need to buy another remote and larger yard as a workshop." ”

Aunt Xiyu asked with some surprise, "Madame mean to make another workshop?" ”

"Yes, we can't just have one workshop, if something happens to the workshop, it will be equivalent to cutting off our goods."

Li Shulan hooked her lips and smiled, "What if one day, someone really accidentally burns down our workshop?"

It just so happens that we need to add more manpower, just get another workshop, and we can count as one more hole card, don't you say? ”

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