39 Avoidance
Lingfu bowed her head slightly, it was undeniable that Cui Yuanting had always been very good to her, and her thoughtfulness and respect in the subtleties made her even more grateful, so she also wanted to be the useful person beside him from the bottom of her heart.
But she also knew that she had hurt Qu's heart today, so it was not good to leave without regard for it.
It's back to what she's not good at.
She seems to be a well-talking, harmless and non-aggressive person, and gets along well with friends, but she is helpless in the face of real intimacy.
Because she was an orphan, she was never properly responded to when she was a child, and she has long been accustomed to hiding her heart in a deep, deep corner. Not easy to ask for people.,Very independent.,Only share some inner things with a limited number of best friends.γ
Because she looks good, she has been pursued by boys since middle school, and she has not met someone who makes her happy.
But she was so reluctant to respond to others that in the end, no suitor could really come to her and get close to her heart.
There was once a boy who had been chasing her for many, many years, and after failing, he said to her in despair: "When I first met you, I thought you were optimistic, cheerful and easy-going; But after a long time of contact, I feel that under your friendly appearance, there is an ice-like inside, and I can't cover it...... No, I don't even know if I've actually 'covered' you......"
In this way, she rejected people in a gentle way, and thus won the title of "Iceberg Beauty" in college.
Later, many new juniors didn't know why, but obviously the senior sister didn't look 'cold' at all?
Gradually, she became aware of her own problems, and after reading many related books, she realized that she might be the person mentioned in the book as "avoidant attachment".
In addition to self-deprecation, she looked back at her not very long life course and felt that there was nothing wrong with this in the future.
At the very least, cutting off the need will no longer have the pain of being isolated and having no one to respond.
There will be no rejection and will never be abandoned.
In modern society, she doesn't seem to be a big problem, she is considered by most people to be independent, sober, and have a sense of boundaries, and she is an independent woman in the new era who can carry it clearly and is not clingy.
But she never expected that one day, she would have an extra mother and face the problem of how to deal with the relationship between mother and daughter.
She knew that Qu really cared about her and loved her, how precious should this love be in this strange world?
But she wanted to run away.
She decided to live in the inner government so quickly, partly because she wanted to be a good "entourage", but more because she didn't know how to get along with Qu's for a long time, and how to face the mother-daughter relationship that should have become increasingly intimate.
She was also afraid that she would hurt the Qu family.
So habitually, she once again chose to avoid it.
Now, it's time for her to take a standβ
"I'll stay here with A-Niang for a while, and when Brother Yuanting finishes transferring, come back and call me."
Cui Yuanting thought for a moment and said, "Okay." β
He raised his feet and walked towards the courtyard, suddenly paused, turned around and asked: "There is a family surnamed Zhao on the second street next to it, I heard that the head of the family and his three sons became monks last year?" β
Qu and Tian Ma looked at each other when they heard this, and their faces were very strange.
Seeing this, Lingfu asked, "Is there something wrong?" β
Qu Shi glanced at Tian Ma, and Tian Ma spoke: "Then where is the Zhao family really a monk, it's just that they spent money to buy a few degrees to avoid forced labor and taxes." β
Lingfu Qi said: "Can it still be like this?" β
Cui Yuanting had long understood this kind of operation, and in the Great Xuan Dynasty, if it was not a nobleman or an official, he had to pay taxes.
To put it simply, every citizen bears these two obligations: first, to pay food; 2. Errand for the country (white dry)
Taking an adult man as an example, each person should pay two stone of grain as the field rent every year, two zhang of silk cloth as yong, and three taels of cotton and linen as the tune.
If they do not pay the transfer, they will have to serve about 20 to 40 days of forced labor every year, and they will be arranged by the government to work in various places where they are needed.
This forced labor is often very hard, such as pulling ships, repairing city walls, escorting grain, and so on.
As a non-monk, they do not have to pay any taxes and do not need to go into service. This special treatment has made many people focus on this special status, wanting to become a monk and escape from servitude.
In this way, the government is bound to control the number of monks. Therefore, if you want to become a monk in the Great Xuan Dynasty, you must have a degree issued by the government as a certificate, which is equivalent to a ordination permit issued by the government. It is a great sin to shave oneself without one's degree.
Cui Yuanting briefly explained a few words to Lingfu, and then asked Tian's mother: "Are there many such things here?" β
Tian Ma glanced at Qu's family, and Qu said: "If you know anything, just say it, you are better informed than me." β
Tian's mother said with a smile: "That's what the old slave heard from the neighbors when he went out to buy vegetables and pour water. β
She thought for a while and said: "There are not many people like Dunyifang, only five or six, but there are more cases in Pingchangfang, which is one square away, because there are many rich landlords there, so there are many people who spend money to escape servitude." β
Cui Yuanting pondered for a moment with a solemn face, and bowed his hand to Tian's mother: "Thank you for telling me." β
Tian's mother hurriedly turned sideways to avoid the salute, and said: "Don't dare to be, the county respects but there is an inquiry, and there is nothing to tell." β
"Okay." Cui Yuanting straightened up, "Then I'll go to Zhao's house first." β
Lingfu was also aroused, and wanted to find out with Cui Yuanting, but when he saw Qu's expression, he still couldn't help it, and could only lightly instruct: "Brother Yuanting be careful." β
Cui Yuanting nodded, and the long figure disappeared behind the door.
Lingfu turned his head to look at Qu's family, and when he saw that Qu didn't look at her, he pursed his lips and walked back to the hall.
Lingfu sighed in his heart, so he had to follow.
Qu didn't close the door when she entered the house, but he didn't turn her away.
"Auntie, listen to me." Lingfu said softly.
There was no impression of "I don't listen" three times, Qu only lowered his eyelids lightly, and said in a low voice: "Then you explain." β
Lingfu straightened his shoulders and back: "I know I'm wrong, I shouldn't fool A-Niang with words, Lingfu makes A-Niang sad." β
Qu Shi looked at her with some anger: "You know everything, you know everything!" But why don't you ever want to think about it, is A-Niang the kind of unreasonable person? β
Qu said, stood up excitedly and flicked his sleeves: "Why don't you want to think about what you don't want to do since you were a child, did A-Niang force you?" β
This...... It's hard for her to talk about things when she was a child.
But judging by the experience after the "crossing", no.
So, the heart was empty again.
"There is no ......," Lingfu said in a low and low manner.
"Then why are you fooling me like that? Or on such a big thing! Qu's voice was genuinely sad.
"I'm sorry......" Lingfu felt that his language was so lacking.
Seeing that she had been bowing her head and admitting her mistakes, Qu's originally straight shoulders were unconsciously slumped, making her even more delicate and helpless.
This look immediately reminded her of many years ago, when her daughter was about the same height as the soft collapse, she did something wrong, and she blindly bowed her head and apologized in a low voice.
My daughter was very weak at that time, so she didn't say a word.
But her daughter is sensitive and can always detect the true emotions hidden by adults under the surface, so she can still find the unhappiness in her heart. Every time she felt that she had done something wrong, she would hang her shoulders and shrink herself a little to apologize to her.
"Alas......"
She couldn't help but sigh, but her heart softened unconsciously.