Li Chen's speed of reading has always been very fast, because he has the ability to never forget, and he has the experience of reading all the classics in the world, but this time he read very slowly.

Because these classics hide everything in the primeval past, all the secrets that have been sealed in the long river of time, Li Chen thinks that he should not let go of any clues, just like a delicious delicacy must not be willing to have a drop of leftovers.

Looking at the past all the way, Li Chen found that no matter how the times change, the ancient, ancient, and today, after a certain period of fermentation, no matter which race, as long as there is the coexistence of reason and animal nature, and the wisdom to distinguish right from wrong and make rules, it seems that they will experience and face the same problems.

He looked at primeval marriages from the texts:

———— "The sunk cost is actually one of the fundamental reasons why you decide whether to start or give up something."

For example, divorce.

Before writing these words, I have tried to contact many couples, regardless of age, whether happy or not, whether they are affectionate and loving, or whether they are lingering or even completely cut off.

It's actually hard to do a double-blind experiment with something like this, but we can try to circumvent other variables to get the data we want.

The same rural couple, the same region, husband and wife A and B, and husband and wife C and D, while controlling these data unchanged, the only difference is the age, A and B are 100 years older than C.

The marriage of husband and wife A and B was extremely unhappy, they were also under the obstacles of their parents, they resolutely got married and had children, and the next few decades of marriage, in their words, had countless impulses to hack each other to death, and such a thing did happen, more than once.

When I asked them why they didn't get divorced, they said the same thing, for them, divorce came at a cost that they couldn't accept: first, the gossip of the neighbors, second, where should the children go, third, they couldn't face both parents, and fourth, after the divorce, they, especially the woman, didn't know where they were going.

The marriage of the husband and wife Bingding is also unhappy, and the reasons for the quarrel are nothing more than the same, and they also said extremely vicious things to the people who were once closest to them during the interview, and the two had just ended their marriage at the time of the interview.

For them, those obstacles that husband and wife A and B cannot overcome, they can easily overcome.

First, the gossip of the people in the village, the woman said it very freely, it is already this era, why should she care about what others think of her own life?

Second, the child has his own life and choices, and both of them want it, but this is a problem that can be solved by finding a solution.

Third, both parents cannot interfere in their lives.

Fourth, the woman said: This world is so big, where can't I go? At least as long as you are willing to do it, there is no one who starves to death.

Those costs that seemed unacceptable to people in the last era are not completely unmanageable in today's view, which is the limitation of the times, and the objective factors that seemed to be irresistible in that era have become psychological barriers or factors that are not difficult to break through.

However, this created a divide between the two eras.

Some time ago, I heard an old man say: "Young people nowadays are too irresponsible for marriage. ”

From their point of view, it seems that this is true, at least in terms of the divorce rate, which is a very certain fact, but from the subjective point of view of young people, it is precisely because they need to be responsible for their own lives that they need to end their marriage.

In the past, some people were not responsible for their lives for the sake of their marriage

Now there are some people who understand the importance of being responsible for their own lives, so they need to terminate their marriage in a legal and compliant way. ”

In the classics, he looked at the bloody stories of the human ancestors in the primeval period that could not be crossed and passed.

———— "It was one of the cleanest, most crisp and most admired girls I've ever seen.

That year, my friend and I went to the largest restaurant in the tribe, and it was a holiday, so the lights were on.

Neither of them was in a good mood, so in a happy atmosphere, we became outliers, and the two big men were relatively silent, just drinking to themselves.

While I was drinking, a young and beautiful girl ran out and asked shyly and tremblingly if I could drink together.

I knew the tribe was open-minded, but it was the first time I had met such a young girl.

She was only 16 years old.

On the night of drinking, she was drunk and talked nonsense, interspersed with some indistinct babble, only one sentence was very clear, and she said that she rarely saw this kind of drinking without a companion, just sitting there drinking glass after glass.

She automatically ignored my friend with this sentence.

I said don't think too well of me, after all, I was born to be more than 3,000 years old, maybe I'm just tired of playing, so I'm too lazy to bring others out.

She said she saw it, and that's why she came to me for a drink.

I laughed out loud and took the initiative to say: I'm not a good thing, a little girl like you is really easy to be eaten and wiped clean.

She said she saw that too.

Two days later, we met for the second time, this time directly in the restaurant and chatted all night.

She asked me about my experience of more than 3,000 years, focusing on what kind of girls she had seen, and I said that I had to talk about this, but if I really wanted to tell them one by one, I might have to talk about them for hundreds of years.

I asked her again how she was doing.

She said that she looked out the window and said that she was born with high hopes, because she was a rare person in the tribe who could practice, but as she got older, the more she found that her talent was average, and she might only be a little better than ordinary people.

I said that many people want to practice, thinking that they are not willing to give up if they can still practice a little, but in fact, giving up is a good thing, there are too many choices in life, you have to throw one and keep one, and the most fearful thing is that you want both of them and the last one is not left.

She said that she knew this better than me, because her parents gave up on her for the sake of her more talented sister, so it was her aunt who raised her so big.

I said don't make the atmosphere so sad, I'll tell you a few worse stories to make you happy.

So I started telling her stories, one all-nighter, two all-nighters, three all-nighters.

It wasn't until the sixth day that we went back to my inn and everything happened.

I said I'm really not a good thing, you have to think about it.

She said she was young, but she knew everything.

On the day of the vernal equinox, but it snowed, so half of the city was white; Whiteheads are not necessarily a bad thing, at least they warm the new shoots of the next spring. But Xinzhiya listened to the story of a city, and most of them were whispered by others.

The next morning, it stopped me and said:

Just last night, someone made a mistake and understood the sorrow of the world; Some people are greedy for joy for a while, and they feel guilty.

I asked who it was.

It won't say.

After that, we stayed together for three days.

Until the last day we parted, because I said at the beginning that I was going to leave.

Soon after I left, her note arrived, and the two of us started talking thousands of miles apart, and I told her, "Some people are born birds, but they don't have legs, so they can only fly and fly all the time." ”

She suddenly interrupted me and said, "You don't have to perfunctory me with these words that I have said to many people, you might as well sing me a joke." ”

I asked her what it was.

She said that it was a makeup and hair mark that has been particularly popular in various cities recently.

I happen to have heard some, so I babble, the words are out of tune, "You don't see, the lady's heart is very hot, and you are three points cold"

In fact, when the first sentence came out, there was already a sobbing sound on the other side.

The last thing she left me was, "Don't worry, I won't pester you." ”

This parting is only three months.

Actually, I rarely go back to the places I've been to in such a short period of time, but I don't know why I came back this time.

However, I did not find her, and I searched the whole city through my friends, but to no avail.

It's like a rapidly speeding silent film, where all the scenes are stretched and quickly left behind, and all you can see and feel is a rushing river-like film connection.

No one expected that when the two met again, it would be more than 30 years apart.

The desert is lonely, the sun sets over the long river, and no one is prepared.

Still starting with wine until drunk,

I said do you regret it?

What did she say she regretted? You once said that there are so many multiple-choice questions in life, and if you want to grasp something, you will always lose something, not to mention, you have been very happy during that time.

I said that's good.

The two were separated again.

She finally left this sentence: I hope that in the days when I will never see you again, you can think of me often, and I don't have to think of you often.

In a word, it is a prophecy.

I still think about her a lot. ”