Chen Youzhou's status in the family may not be as good as a cat, thinking of cats, he suddenly remembered the fat cake, he has been away for many years.

The days are getting faster and faster, Chen Youzhou cherishes the current time very much, as for the family status, in fact, he found it himself.

Men all have a low family status, which just reflects the pampering of other members of the family, because they care, so they grovel.

It was late at night.

Chen Youzhou and Tao Fushu talked about what Chen Fucha told him during the day that he didn't want to go to the State Administration and wanted to give up the only place to others.

"What did you tell her?" Tao Fushu asked, if her daughter asked her, she would resolutely let her daughter seize the opportunity, many things are not a matter of letting or not letting go, but a matter of her own strength.

People with real strength may be buried for a few years because of opportunities, but there will always be a day when they will shine, and this era will not bury talents.

"I told her to cherish the opportunity." Chen Youzhou said, "She is still young and does not understand the importance of opportunities, but she will understand when she is older." ”

"I think so too, but a child is a child after all, and it's normal for her to have her own ideas." Tao Fushu stretched his waist, "Fucha is still obedient, and shallowness is even more worrying, and now we want another one." ”

Tao Fushu's belly is already a little visible, but fortunately, she has already given birth once, and she is experienced.

But there are a lot of worries for her, and the more lively and intelligent the child, the more worrying it is.

"Isn't that still me?" Chen Youzhou volunteered, "In the future, your responsibility is to educate your children, and I am responsible for making money to support my family." ”

Many women aspire to a family life in which the woman is responsible for being beautiful and the man is responsible for earning money to support the family.

But men are different, men's pursuit is nothing more than that they come home late at night, their wives cook their meals, and their children are obedient and cute.

However, with the rendering of capitalism, the prevalence of consumerism, money worship and hedonism has distorted many women's values that are already easy to assimilate.

A woman who wants to eat and dress at home without worrying about living by a man who works hard outside is simply a bit worrying.

The family model like Chen Youzhou and Tao Fushu is the best, sweet and stable.

Although Chen Youzhou wants to do a big career from time to time, she always chooses to keep to herself under Tao Fushu's advice, her cognition surpasses him, and she can always see more long-term than Chen Youzhou.

Tao Fushu allowed Chen Youzhou to forge ahead, but not now.

A man with a successful career can't afford to lose, because the family needs him, which is why many rich people are unwilling to steal their lives after going bankrupt, but choose to jump off the building.

What Tao Fushu told Chen Youzhou was that when the children got married, it was time for him to show his strength and have a twilight dream.

At this stage, Chen Youzhou must not trap his thoughts and ambitions, married people are like this, even if they are helpless, but if they think about their family, they will always swallow their anger.

Family and career are definitely in conflict.

Especially when you are young, when you have nothing, you must pay no less than anyone else to work hard, and wait until you have the ability to be independent, and then choose the person you like.

In this model, the family is stable and harmonious in all aspects.

Tao Fushu's contribution to the family is far greater than Chen Youzhou's, but fortunately, her profession is more traditional and she can spend more time and energy on her husband and children.

Need to buy anything at home, need to buy any daily necessities, Chen Youzhou almost didn't worry about anything, Tao Fushu is a particularly virtuous person.

Married for so long.

Chen Youzhou felt how naïve his requirements for finding a partner when he was young, the first is good-looking, the second is long-legged, and the third is coquettish, such a girl is only suitable for falling in love, not suitable for living at all.

What is really suitable for life is a girl like Tao Fushu who has a very legitimate career, has a cheerful and lively personality, is emotionally stable, and puts her family first.

The premise is that when she was in her prime, she was young and beautiful, and her eyes were full of you.

"Good work, good husband." Tao Fushu gently sprinkled his head on his shoulder, "Can I ask you a question?" ”

"What's the problem?" Chen Youzhou was puzzled.

"Many people say that marriage is a siege, people inside want to go out, people outside want to come in, whether they get married or not, they will regret it, do you regret getting married?" Tao Fushu took a precautionary shot, "Ideal discussion does not mean that I have any careful thoughts. ”

Chen Youzhou is such a smart person, after so many years, can he not understand Tao Fushu?

Although she said that she was not careful, if he replied that he regretted it, she would definitely be unhappy, this is human nature.

"I don't regret it at all." Chen Youzhou raised his head and looked at the ceiling, as if he had returned to his youth, and he pushed open the door of the shared house in a depressed mood, preparing to leave the dark city of Jiangdu after a night's sleep.

He spoke, "If I hadn't gotten married, I could have imagined my future life, before I was thirty years old, I was full of energy, and I would find a movie I was interested in every day to help me sleep." ”

Tao Fushu glanced at him, "You are serious." ”

"I'm very serious, it's not false that men are animals who think in the lower half of their bodies, maybe my soul will be very clean and pure, but I will still be swayed by animal instincts, and no one can escape."

"And then?" Tao Fushu asked.

"That's after the age of thirty, if I hadn't gotten married, I would definitely be in my hometown, staying in the house at home every day and not wanting to go out, playing games and watching anime or, life is not good or bad." Chen Youzhou can anticipate many things, "The most anxious thing is your parents, who let you go out to find a partner every day, and ask someone to find a blind date for you to meet." ”

Tao Fushu smiled, "It's hard to meet the right one, and a blind date can only be a good match." ”

"But most people have this fate, and the blind date is not necessarily worse than what you talked about, the main thing is what kind of person you are, what kind of person you can meet, if you don't work hard, the matchmaker will introduce you to a second marriage with two children."

"I'd rather be single than go on a blind date." Tao Fushu was very resolute, "What about later?" ”

"Later?" Chen Youzhou pinched the face of the person in his arms, "In order not to disappoint my parents, I basically went on a blind date every time, the blind date was lukewarm, and I was not lukewarm. ”

Tao Fushu felt very interesting when he listened, blinking his bright eyes, and he should listen to him tell the story, "Keep going." ”

"When I go home, my parents ask me how I talked, I don't care, no matter what the other party is, since my parents want me to start a family, then I will become, just complete the task, but every time I take the initiative to send a message to the blind date, she always likes to ignore it, and I gradually don't want to send it."

"We don't ask her." Tao Fu listened angrily, "The next one is more obedient." ”

"That's what I said, but my parents still ask how the conversation is going every day, and I say she doesn't care about me, but my parents say I'm a boy, I should take the initiative, otherwise how can there be a story."

"Laughing to death." Tao Fushu couldn't help but shake his head, "It's so interesting." ”

"In this way, until I was thirty-five years old, I had dozens of blind dates, not a hundred times, my parents were no longer urging me to find a partner, and the people around me didn't introduce me to a partner, I had a lot of time, and I had some money in my hands, so I bought an RV and went on a trip."

"So cool?" Tao Fushu was shocked.

"The life of not getting married begins at the age of thirty-five, when the body is strong, there is money in hand, there is no burden, and the parents also see it, and they can go wherever they want."

Tao Fushu fell into thinking, they were fine when they were not married, but when they were about thirty years old, they were almost fixed, and they were always swayed by their children.

Now that I think about it, getting married and not getting married really have the pain of giving themselves, but Tao Fushu is a person who can sort out the underlying logic, people, you can't play chic all your life, right?

"And then?" She was curious.

"People are tired of playing, and when you reach the age of forty or so, the people who should get married are basically married, and you can't find anyone to drink if you want to, and you talk about freedom, but your friends are talking about milk powder and diapers, and you will find that you don't fit in with the people around you, and at this time, you find that the circle is different."

"There are more people who live alone without marriage." Tao Fushu said, "Then find someone who lives alone to do something meaningful together." ”

"It's hard to cultivate interest in finding a group of people, but this stage is carefree, eating and drinking alone, sleeping whenever you want, doing whatever you want, it's the happiest time, until one day, your parents are gone."

"What will happen?" Tao Fushu became nervous.

"The most regrettable time is here, get your parents away, at this time your age is not young, because you are used to being chic when you are young, you can stay up as much as you want, your physique will be very poor, and there will be something wrong every once in a while, you can only lie in bed, and there is no one to talk to."

"It's miserable!"

"This is not miserable, at the end of the year, every family is lit up and begins to welcome the New Year, you hear that the grandson of the old king next door was born, and you find that the old king who looked down on him when he was young makes you extremely envious at this moment."

Just listening to these joys and sorrows made people feel painful, and Tao Fushu hugged Chen Youzhou tightly.

"Do you want to talk about it again?" Chen Youzhou said.

"Speak." Tao Fushu bumped into the guts.

"After a few years, your health is better, you see the outside world is red and willow green, and you want to go out, but your weak body does not allow you to go far at all, at this time you are even more envious of the old king who has grandchildren, and at this age, you also understand the meaning of life."

"What is it?"

"Experience, people live is to experience the flowering and fruiting of all things, and to feel the difference of nature, you find that you have not experienced the taste of being remembered, and there is no one in your heart who is worried about people, like a floating reed, blowing, falling."

"Regarding the pursuit of life, I don't think it's necessary to follow a fixed template, if you don't get married, you have the idea of not getting married, if you get married, you have a typical view of unmarried people after marriage."

Tao Fushu is a kind person, she is much more tolerant than Chen Youzhou, "If everyone doesn't get married, will marriage be an anomaly?" Why do many good people not get married? I think it's good that people think differently, because it's because people are different that the world is colorful. ”

This is an opinion that is unimaginable as a science man, Tao Fushu is really good, and she seems to be extremely tolerant of everyone.

"What's it called?" Chen Youzhou asked.

"Diversity."

Oh, the world is uneven!

“……”

Chen Youzhou feels that there is a greater advantage of getting married, that is, it is good to be able to have someone to talk to, talk about life and ideals.

People are still social animals, and they still have to communicate more, especially after growing up in a fixed circle.

"Mr. Tao, what if you don't get married?" Chen Youzhou became curious.

Men and women are different in terms of physiology and all aspects.

Chen Youzhou's unmarried life is games, travel, barbecue and beer, at least a woman's unmarried life, he doesn't understand.

"I want to think about it." Tao Fushu blinked her eyes and began to think about what she looked like when she was young, "Then I have been a homeroom teacher since I was thirty years old, and I must have become a homeroom teacher at this time, but there is no family reason, seeing other female teachers pick up after work, and the circle of friends is sweet, I will be very jealous, and I will vent my dissatisfaction with life on the students, so the students gave me the nickname, Tao Laohu." ”

"Poof." Chen Youzhou laughed like crazy, and with a smile and a smile, he remembered a female teacher who taught English in junior high school, with a straight face all day long, and a big temper, "I seem to have a substitute female teacher." ”

"From thirty to thirty-five years old, at this time, my parents and people around me introduced me to many objects, but it seems that it is always much worse than Chen Youzhou, whom I liked when I was young.

"Why did you mention me all of a sudden?" Chen Youzhou's eyes opened with a smile, "Not everyone is as good as me, if you miss it, it will be a lifetime." ”

"Anyway, I think that the people I met at the age of 30 are much worse than the people I met at the age of 20, maybe it has something to do with the mentality at the time.

"And then?" Chen Youzhou was also curious.

"There is no family factor, I put all my energy into teaching and educating people, although the students don't like me and think I am strict, but their grades have risen quickly, and I have lived a fulfilling life."

"Looking at it this way, it's still the reason why the profession is good."

"But no matter how much you like a profession, there will always be a day of tiredness and slackness, at the age of forty, it seems that nothing can be lifted, only when you see the little handsome guy, you will wake up the soul when you think of the person you once had, but when you think that you are in your forties, you can only regret that you didn't catch the man you liked when you were young."

"Real!" Chen Youzhou died laughing, "Go on." ”

"When I am fifty years old, I still have a few years to survive until retirement, and I have been gritting my teeth and persevering, in addition to work is work, the most painful thing is to be idle, and when I am idle, my heart will be empty, and there is no spiritual support."

"Can you do something else in your spare time?"

"I can't imagine that you men can play games and watch anime, and it will not change for the rest of your life, but for us women, it is impossible."

“……”