Chen Xingling smiled helplessly: "You really didn't spend it indiscriminately, and it was very hard for you to make money by yourself." But you're not doing it right enough, it's not that you're wrong. ”

Zhao Xiaoxing said a few sporadic words before, she only comforted her and said that she would help her mother's family, after all, she was the parents who gave birth to her, and there was absolutely no reason to ignore it.

But I never expected that she didn't grasp the right proportion, and even her own small family was dragged down into conflicts!

This is obviously not a small problem anymore.

Zhao Xiaoxing was stunned when she heard this, and asked, "What's the matter...... Not enough, right? ”

Chen Xingling lowered his voice: "If you want to take care of your mother's family, you have to do it properly, otherwise you will be in a dilemma after being caught in the middle." If you don't send money home one day, the family will blame you and blame you. If you take care of your mother's family and your own family, Ah Yi will blame you and blame you. When the time comes, it will be a dilemma, and it will not be human inside and out. ”

Zhao Xiaoxing cried aggrievedly: "He...... He wasn't like this before. But now he's starting to blame me. ”

"Can't blame him." Chen Xingling whispered: "He only started working this year, even if he has just started a family independently, he has a lot of difficulties. ”

Gu Yi was originally a carefree teenager, raised by his brother at home, he went to the countryside by himself, went up the mountain to pick birds, went down to the river to catch fish, and was very chic.

Since I started a family, I have worked from 9 to 5 every day, no matter how tired I am, I have to work hard to make money, I have to pay my salary every month, and I have to pay rent and food - it is not easy at all.

If you don't belong to a family, you don't know how easy it is to be a family.

used to rely on his eldest brother to support his family, but now he is raising his own small family, coping with stumbling, the gap in his heart is too big, and the pressure is also great.

Zhao Xiaoxing sobbed lowly: "I followed him, I never thought I could live well." He was so fierce just now, I didn't even know how to talk to him. ”

Chen Xingling saw that she didn't seem to realize what she was wrong, and asked, "How many times has your mother's family asked you for money since you got married?" Have you counted them carefully? How much does it have to be if you do the math? Have you counted? ”

She's only known — at least three times.

She is not a person who loves gossip and likes to probe into other people's privacy, Zhao Xiaoxing took the initiative to say it herself, and she roughly remembers that it should be three times.

The actual number is definitely more than "three times", at least five or six times.

Zhao Xiaoxing thought for a moment and whispered: "I remember that my mother was sick and sent it three times, and there were two or three times before." Later, at the end of the year, there were two more telegrams and letters. ”

Chen Xingling said: "If you say that, you have to do it at least eight times." In other words, since you got married, you have to send money back to your parents' family almost every month on average. ”

“…… Oooh. Zhao Xiaoxing replied: "Almost." ”

Chen Xingling smiled helplessly: "At the beginning, your salary was low, and you had to rent and daily life. Later, you were unemployed for more than a month, and you didn't get any more money until you went to the construction site to help me. That's right, you didn't spend money indiscriminately, but neither did Ah Yi. You make money, he makes money, and the two of you save your life, and the pickles and steamed buns are not a little fishy, but in the end you are so mixed that you are almost kicked out by the landlord - if you continue like this, sooner or later there will be big problems! ”

Both of them have an income and are frugal in their lives, but they can't save even a little money - this lifestyle is very wrong!

"Hmm." Zhao Xiaoxing choked: "He just ...... scolded me, and now he still refuses to deal with me. ”

Chen Xingling couldn't help but ask: "Then do you know why he scolded you?" Why don't you bother with you? ”

“…… Know. Zhao Xiaoxing whispered: "He blamed me for secretly going to remit money, and he blamed me for not bargaining with the landlord, so he agreed to make his own decisions." ”

"None of them are right." Chen Xingling smiled bitterly: "After talking for a long time, you haven't found the key to the problem at all." ”

Zhao Xiaoxing looked at her in a daze, not knowing why.

Chen Xingling had no choice but to put aside the work at hand and explained: "In the past, you discussed everything with Ah Yi, and he even took the initiative to support you to send money to your mother's family, but if you secretly hide from him to send money, he will feel that you have lost trust and dependence on him." This is one of them. Second, when your mother-in-law is sick, you send money to help with the treatment, which is what you should do as a child. Ah Yi also supports, right? ”

"Hmm." Zhao Xiaoxing nodded vigorously: "Whether it is before or after marriage, he ...... It's good to my mother's family. ”

Chen Xingling asked rhetorically: "Then why are you angry this time?" If there is not enough food to survive the winter, then that's it. But your sister-in-law said to buy more new quilts for the children, how can you agree again. You and Ah Yi can't even afford to buy quilts, and you have to worry about your nephew's lack of new quilts? How stressed are you yourself with such a state of mind? Husband and wife are one, and Ah Yi's pressure is as great as yours. ”

Zhao Xiaoxing was extremely embarrassed, and rubbed the back of her hands at a loss.

"Sister-in-law, I-I'm embarrassed. My sister-in-law spoke to me for the first time, and if I didn't agree, my sister-in-law would be unhappy. ”

Chen Xingling knew that she was honest and honest, but she was too young to be easily manipulated by others.

"Whether it's helping relatives or friends, we have to do what we can. You can't get by yourself, you have to take care of yourself. If you can't get along with Ah Yi, and your small family can't survive, what's the point? Silly girl, you have to prioritize things! ”

Zhao Xiaoxing listened carefully, as if she understood or not.

Chen Xingling lowered his voice: "First of all, you must live your own life first. Only when your life is good can you have the money and ability to take care of other people. Second, you must clearly see the purpose of the mother's family asking for money. Build a house, build a road, buy this, buy that, you can not give it, and directly say that you have no money around you. If it is life-saving money for medical treatment and food, then you can do what you can and send some over. ”

"Do what you can?" Zhao Xiaoxing asked in a daze: "How much is that?" ”

Chen Xingling was stumped by this question and thought about it carefully.

"Well, I'll give you an example. For example, if an elder in the family has any illness, and you have 100 yuan by your side, then you can only send 50 yuan. The remaining 50 yuan will have to pay rent, eat three meals a day, and save some spare. ”

Zhao Xiaoxing seemed to understand whether she understood or not, and seemed to remember something important.

"Sister-in-law, let's ...... We originally planned to save money to buy a house here, but more than half a year has passed, and we can't save any money around us. ”

"That's not right." Chen Xingling said: "Both of you can make money, and you don't have children to raise yet, so you can't save money." Otherwise, when you are pregnant with a doll, you will not be able to make money with the doll at home, your income will be reduced by half, and you will have to raise a child - what will you do then? ”

Zhao Xiaoxing's face turned pale suddenly, and she said: "That-that's not good." Even if we endure hardship, we can't let our children suffer with us in the future. ”

"So, you have to take care of it yourself." Chen Xingling reminded: "When can you give money, when you can't." You have to save some money every month for future use. A family is always unable to make ends meet, and the pressure on men will inevitably be great. When there is a lot of pressure, the temper is easy to follow. Actually, he is quite good to you, and he didn't mean to quarrel with you. ”

Zhao Xiaoxing looked out the window when she heard this, and secretly felt distressed.

"I ...... I really didn't think too much about it, thinking that he was just angry that I was sending money indiscriminately, and blamed me for not stopping the landlord. ”

Chen Xingling whispered: "It's not in essence, you have to recognize the reality clearly." Besides, the landlord can't let him raise the rent—"

"But he said that if he didn't give us two more dollars, he wouldn't let us live." Zhao Xiaoxing interrupted her anxiously and explained: "He also said very fiercely, and even asked us to move out years ago." ”

Chen Xingling said calmly: "Before, I told them the price, and I also agreed that the price would not be raised for two years. I wrote the lease contract at the beginning, and I put this sentence into it. Rest assured, they can't rise randomly, or we can sue them. ”

"Sue?" Zhao Xiaoxing glared in surprise and asked, "What?" Where can I sue you? ”

Chen Xingling shook his head: "Don't worry, I will take out the rental contract, and they won't dare to mess around." If they dare to cheat, we will sue them again. ”