Yesterday at noon I ate in the cafeteria. Somehow, I discussed the difference in treatment of my mother-in-law. Everyone agrees that the uncle, that is, the son-in-law, is still more favored by the mother-in-law than the daughter-in-law.

Xu Xu said that she had dinner at her mother-in-law's house during the Chinese New Year. The mother-in-law carried her grandson outside at the beginning, so that the sister-in-law could eat well. Then the sister-in-law finished eating, and the mother-in-law finally sat down and could eat properly. But after the mother-in-law sat down, she didn't eat first, but stood up and began to pick up vegetables, hot pot, meat slices, simmering, all kinds of dishes into my uncle's bowl, and kept saying, Xiao He, you eat more of this. Xiao He, you eat more. This one you like. That's a little bit more. Xu Xu said that she was sitting next to her uncle, with her little daughter in between. It was a really embarrassing moment. Because her mother-in-law continued to give her uncle all kinds of dishes, but she didn't pay her the slightest attention. She felt sick all over.

Then, she went out to dress her eldest daughter, and when she returned to the table, she was ready to add rice. Because her two daughters, the eldest is five years old and the younger is just over three years old, and they also need to be taken care of, so she has not had time to add rice and eat vegetables before the children have finished eating. However, she found that the rice bowl on the table was empty. After all the rice in it was scooped by my mother-in-law, all the remaining brains were added to my uncle's bowl.

Xu Xu didn't say anything, picked up the empty bowl and walked outside the private room. The person next to her asked her: What are you going to do?

Xu Xu just said, I'm going to cook. I haven't eaten yet.

No one squeaked at the table.

Xu Xu said that with such a table of people, no one paid attention to her, and she also had to take two children. She's so busy that she hasn't even eaten rice.

I feel it deeply. Xu Xu is a person with a better temper and a softer temper. It's the kind of considerate woman who is very popular with men.

I think back to when I first got married. My daughter was two years old at the time. There was a New Year's dinner. My father-in-law, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, uncle, sister-in-law, son, family of three, and my sister-in-law's mother, that is, my mother-in-law's in-laws. She also brought a small child.

The waiter serves a plate of roast duck. It is the Yiliang roast duck in Yunnan. It's still quite famous in the local area. Charred and burnt. Very crispy, with two big golden and fat duck legs!

Then, I saw my mother-in-law holding a duck leg to my uncle, who is the son of my husband's own brother, and said kindly, Haoran, you eat a duck leg. Then, she took a big duck leg to the little child she brought to her in-laws, and said kindly, Come, you can eat a duck leg too.

Then, there is no then.

The family began to eat happily.

I was angry and told my mom. Is she blind? Too much, right? My mom motioned me not to care. I didn't squeak either. But more than that, I didn't eat well. More than ten years have passed since this incident, and when I think about it, I still remember it vividly, and I am angry. I can't scold out loud. I don't want to remember it for the rest of my life, but it doesn't seem like the memory will erase.

After I studied Chinese medicine, I understood a theory, how to be a human being, don't hold things in your heart. Because, you swallow your anger and grievances. Maybe the memory of this will soon pass. There may be some things that you remember and only remember your emotions at that time, it was very painful or angry or very ashamed, but you don't remember what it was. This is the case. Of course, this is not the case with me. I'm so angry. I remember it very clearly. But the point is here, knock on the blackboard, the point is, whether your brain remembers or doesn't remember these past events, your body, the physical medium of your existence in this world, it will faithfully record everything that has happened! And leave scars and marks in your body forever! When you are emotionally impulsive, it is not only the chemical changes and reactions of the brain that are caused, but also the changes in the flow of qi and blood, and the reactions and injuries to the five internal organs! So, the most terrible thing is here, your body will record this moment forever, and such an injury will become a stubborn disease or gangrene in your body. When it adds up, it becomes a serious lesion!

That's why women with uncomfortable liver qi are prone to mammary gland problems!

The reason why I use such a large paragraph to explain it, in fact, I mainly want to say to women who are going to enter married life in the future, if you have any emotions and unhappyness, don't hold back, you have to say it, you must not be stuffy in your heart. However, you have to learn to be emotionally intelligent and speak in a harmless but venting way.

For example, in Xuxu's case, she should have asked with a smile when her mother-in-law kept picking up vegetables, Mom, is it a special day today? Are you so good to Xiao He? It's his birthday, huh? I can't even stand it. Can you also clip me a pair of chopsticks, so can you celebrate the New Year?

Or, she can go directly to her uncle: Xiao He, is it convenient for you, can you add a bowl of rice for me? Thank you. I'm tired of these two kids!

If she keeps being silent like this, in the future, she will be more and more neglected. Don't expect your mother-in-law to love you like a family member. It is the nature of the species to bully the weak and fear the hard.

As for people, sometimes they have to be open-minded and thick-skinned. Of course, if you're pretty, even better. When it is supported, it is a little girlish and charming. What's there?

Like me, I should have stood up and asked, Mom, there are only two duck legs, and our baby didn't get it. Give me a poached egg. Let's listen to the juice.

Etcetera.

Remember, just don't let yourself take it to heart, don't make yourself unhappy. But don't hurt others.

Deal with problems skillfully. Don't let yourself be hurt.

It's going to be hard, but you can always learn. It's just that I didn't learn it until many years later, for example. For example, Xu Xu is now forced to learn to care about himself.

So, if you see these words, you remind yourself to learn them earlier.

There will be a lot less sin. At the very least, leave no unnecessary physical damage to your own body.

Long live Chinese medicine.

Hee-hee.