"The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker".

What does this mean exactly?

It is said that this phrase originated from a procedure of marriage etiquette in the Spring and Autumn Period, and in the words of the time, it was called "If you marry a wife, you must tell your parents...... If you marry a wife, you can't do it without a matchmaker."

That is to say, marriage requires a matchmaker to introduce the object, and parents need to give an idea of whether to succeed or not.

In ancient times, people believed that children's lives should be arranged by their parents in order to embody filial piety.

So why is it called the words of a matchmaker?

Because there is a difference between a matchmaker and a concubine.

Marriage introducers can be collectively referred to as matchmakers.

But the man's matchmaker is called: matchmaker.

The woman's matchmaker is called: concubine.

In "Mencius", it is said: "If you don't wait for the orders of your parents and the words of the matchmaker, you will be cheaply treated by your parents and people if you look at each other through the holes and follow each other over the wall." ”

So at that time, there were not many opportunities for free love.

The blind sister has half-sleeved heated pants, her white and tender thighs are stacked together, and she tilts her head slightly, "Uncle, you will also catch up with the reform and opening up, otherwise I heard about it, and it was all through the introduction of the matchmaker at first." ”

"At that time, it was important to pay attention to the right family, and the eight characters were compatible, and the family conditions, appearance and character of the young people of the appropriate age were informed to the parents of both parties through the words of the matchmaker, and the parents felt that it was suitable."

"Men and women don't know what each other looks like until they get married, or even before they live in a cave."

"You can only admit the other party's crooked melons and cracked dates, how can you marry a beautiful woman like me?"

Ma Yudongpi twitched his face without smiling, his eyes were full of disgust!

The blind sister was not happy, lying in his arms, stretching out two hands to play with his old face, "You want to marry into my family, you want to smile, come, uncle give Niu a smile~"

A typical villain.

didn't wait for Ma Yudong to speak, and was discussing the engagement ceremony process with Ma Yudong on the side, Mother Liu couldn't stand it.

A mother beating her daughter is definitely a real beating.

Syllable!

The blind sister jumped up from the sofa with a snort, rolled on the ground with her buttocks covered, and kept inhaling the cold air, "Mom, why are you working so hard, my uncle has never beaten me like this." ”

Ahem, ahem... Ma Yudong hurriedly raised his hand, "Auntie, I really haven't hit her, I promise!" ”

This damn girl is still going to pull him into the water?

As the saying goes, "The more the mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the more pleasing it is." ”

Liu's mother is very tolerant of Ma Yudong, the golden beetle son-in-law, which is related to the object of her touting when she goes out shopping with her old sister, "It's okay, you have to fight when you should fight in the future, otherwise you won't hit the house for three days." ”

The blind sister was stunned.

Open her mouth silently: Is this still her mother?

Mother Liu sneered, if it weren't for her daughter, or if Ma Yudong was her son, she would definitely not agree to marry such a daughter-in-law back.

Ma Yudong's face was full of helplessness, and he got up and walked to the kitchen to prepare for cooking.

People say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are contradictory.

Ma Yudong thought that he wouldn't be able to touch this Mao Dun, but he didn't expect that he would have several Mao Duns in the blind sister's house.

Mother-in-law and father-in-law Mao Dun.

The daughter has the little handle of her father-in-law.

The mother-in-law and her daughter don't like each other... Gee.

Life will be exciting in the future, right?

Although it is now an era of cultural exchanges, the Chinese people still have their own set of traditions for the process of marriage.

Especially in the capital, engagement is still an important ritual that many families accept and recognize.

This also reflects people's serious and rigorous attitude towards marriage.

The engagement customs in the capital are influenced by regional culture, with some northern characteristics, which may also be related to the bold and atmospheric character characteristics of northerners.

Generally speaking, northerners are more respectful of the customs of the co-woman when they are engaged, and when they get married, they mainly follow the customs of the man's side.

This situation is not a generalization, and it is now arranged according to the actual situation through mutual consultation.

For example, Ma Yudong's family is a little special, so these old teachers are all responsible for the blind sister's parents, and Liu's mother is also happy.

In her opinion, her daughter has been a good person for several lifetimes, otherwise how could she have found a golden beetle son-in-law with such good results?

But even if Ma Yudong is outstanding, he is still young after all, and some things need to be taught by his family.

For example, the blind sister's family can be regarded as the old capital.

In their engagement customs, the man needs to bring a pre-prepared dowry to the door on the day of the engagement and work with the matchmaker.

The number of people needs to be planned in advance, and even numbers need to be obtained, such as 6 people, 8 people, 10 people, etc.

And the number of dowry gifts is also preferable to even numbers.

Take its double number auspicious, meaning good.

When the distance is 100 meters away from the woman's house, firecrackers can be set off to signal, and the woman also needs to set off firecrackers to greet her.

It should be noted that the matchmaker needs to enter the door first, and the groom-to-be needs to sit at the bottom when he enters and sits down.

Then hand over the bride price and other gifts to the woman's family.

Moreover, in the engagement customs of the old capital, the gift money is also divided into "big set" and "small set".

Normally, the woman will choose to accept "Xiaoding" as the engagement money, indicating that she agrees to the marriage.

Subsequently, at the remarriage ceremony, "Dading" was also used as the wedding gift, which is commonly known as the dowry.

A very cumbersome set of processes, the blind sister had a big head after hearing it for the first time.

But getting married is a very solemn thing, and it is the only time in her life, so she has to endure it.

Even if it ends up being a thread doll standing there...

Compared with the blind sister who gave up on herself, Ma Yudong's attitude is very correct, even if she is cooking in the kitchen, she is also discussing with Liu's mother in the living room, "Auntie, where can I find this matchmaker?" ”

Liu's mother wore a pair of glasses, holding a pen and writing on the paper the relatives and friends to invite, "That's Lao Li'er, now you don't need a matchmaker, Dongzi, you just find a friend you think is good, just bring a gift, let's just go through the process." ”

Friends...

He has a lot of friends, and I heard that he needs help, and those guys still have to fight?

In the end, he didn't choose, he had to take out a sum of money to invite them to dinner and apologize...

The blind sister honestly sat on the sofa with her knees crossed and watched TV, and said: "Uncle, I think it's best to find Wu Jing, the male sister is my best friend." If you have to get married, then you can find Brother Hao, Brother Bo... It's okay, don't look for a bald head, I won't marry him when he comes! ”

No one paid attention to her.

Ma Yudong has been cooking at Liu's mother's house for the past few days, and he has long been familiar with their tastes, "Auntie, how to calculate Lao Li'er's dowry?" I think that the ancients paid attention to three media, six hiring, eight sedan chairs, and ten miles of red makeup. ”

Ten miles of red makeup?

Wow!

！

The blind sister just imagined that scene and felt extremely romantic~

It turns out that our ancients are so romantic, she regrets it, she suddenly wants to go to the Chinese style, "Uncle, why don't we get married twice, once in the Chinese style and one in the Western style, how about it?" Uncle, you can also be the groom's official twice. ”

Mother Liu didn't bother to look at her now, the cap of the pen was on her chin, and she thought for a moment, "I think this process is very good, but this is not in line with your identity." ”

Ma Yudong and Sister Blind are stars, although Sister Blind is a resource coffee, Ma Yudong is a real actor, and his every move will attract the attention of countless people.

If there is such a big move in the engagement, not to mention whether the capital officials will agree, the people who are disturbed to their daily lives alone will be bored with Ma Yudong.

What's more, there is still a group of trolls in this era who are always keeping an eye on the star's every move, and any indecent behavior will be amplified by them without limit.

Mother Liu's words were extremely reasonable, and Ma Yudong also felt that he had not thought it through, "Auntie is right, let's live our lives behind closed doors, don't disturb other people." ”

The blind sister, who was ignored several times in a row, couldn't sit still, and immediately pointed out the mistake in Ma Yudong's words, "Uncle, you should call my mother and my mother now, not some aunt." ”

Forehead... Mother?

Ma Yudong suddenly stood still, and he remembered the familiar and unfamiliar back in his memory.

After all these years, he couldn't remember what she looked like...

Liu's mother is very understanding, she actually intentionally or unintentionally ignored what the man's family should do when she went through this process, for fear of reminding Ma Yudong of something, but her own daughter...

Alas, how did you raise such a daughter? Liu's mother fell into deep self-blame.

The blind sister thought that she had taken advantage of it, and wanted to say something, but was slapped by Liu's mother again, "Go to the kitchen to help with the work, a woman can't even cook, are you embarrassed to yell?" ”

"But, I'm an actor..."

Liu Mufeng's eyes erected, "What?" Celebrities don't cook? Celebrities don't get married? Learn to cook! ”

The blind sister was yelled into the kitchen, and when she passed by Ma Yudong, she kicked him secretly, and said in a low voice: "It's all uncle's fault, I think my mother can't wait for you to be her own child, and I am the daughter-in-law who married in later." ”

The blind sister's dripping coo made Ma Yudong shake his head and laugh.

He is not as fragile as Mother Liu thought, but he really hasn't been back for a long time, especially when he has to get engaged, he can always dream of the two of them, so he will feel it.

Gently took the blind sister's hand and taught carefully: "This dish needs to be pinched and then soaked in salt water." ”

The blind sister pouted, it was really troublesome, "What about this?" ”

"This is going to..."

Ma Yudong almost answered all questions, but the blind sister was more in and out of the left ear, and in the end she didn't remember anything, and she was tired enough, "I'm tired, huhu." ”

She did this on purpose to show Liu's mother, but Liu's mother was no longer in the living room at some point, Ma Yudong filtered the dishes, "Auntie seemed to be sleepy just now, and went back to the second floor." ”

Sleepy?

Back to the second floor?

The blind sister hurriedly squatted down, "Uncle, don't move." ”

Ma Yudong: ?

Mother Liu walked out on the second floor, and she thought of a new one... Hiss!

！

It's still broad daylight, what are these two going to do?

My God, worthy of being a young man, the play is really open, Mother Liu returned to the room with a red face and locked the door.

Full of red ears, it seems that they can't mix in the lives of the young couple at will in the future, in case something strange is found in one room...

By the way, I also called Liu's father, "You eat out tonight, and come back later, there is no reason." ”

Dad: Why is it always me who gets hurt?

………

At dinner, Liu's mother came out of the room, her nose twitched subconsciously, and only the rice was fragrant.

came to the table and sat down, but looking at the delicacies on the table, Liu's mother had no appetite, and she didn't know if Ma Yudong washed her hands...

Wrong.

glared at the blind sister sitting next to him, "Do you eat after brushing your teeth and washing your hands?" ”

“……”

The blind sister was at a loss.

Wash your hands and she can understand, what is the stalk of brushing your teeth?

When I came to the kitchen to wash my hands, I asked the last dish that was cooking: "Uncle, why did my mother let me brush my teeth before eating?" ”

Ma Yudong didn't understand either, "Did you just steal honey and be discovered?" ”

The blind sister suddenly realized, I see!

Mother Liu didn't let her eat sweets, but she couldn't help it, "Mom, why are you so stingy, I just ate a few bites." ”

Mother Liu: What kind of bastard is this?

But the blind sister bared her teeth proudly, "Hehe, but you don't have to worry, I ate it all in my stomach, and I didn't get it everywhere." ”

Belly... Ahem, Liu's mother was suddenly not very hungry.

She stood up earnestly and put down her fast, "I'm not very hungry, so I won't eat." ”

Ma Yudong thought that the dishes he made were not the same as the other party's appetite, and Liu's mother suddenly stopped when she turned on the second floor, "What, it stands to reason that this is the life of your little two, and I, as a mother-in-law, should not be involved." ”

"But Dongzi, some things are better to do less, haven't you been shouting for a child?"

"But the child doesn't come out of his mouth, it's better to follow the right path!"

Click, the door shut.

The blind sister didn't understand it yet, but Ma Yudong's face was completely black, like the bottom of a pot.

The blind sister put a piece of meat into her mouth, "It's delicious, why don't you eat it, uncle?" ”

Ma Yudong looked at the food in front of him and had no appetite...

Night.

The blind sister and Ma Yudong lived on the first floor, and just took a bath, the blind sister walked out of the bathroom wrapped in a bath towel, "Uncle, our family should really install a bathtub, and it is comfortable to take a bath." ”

Ma Yudong was still watching the engagement process, and the blind sister was wrapped in the scent of lemon-flavored shampoo and got into the uncle's arms.

Ride a big horse~

Ma Yudong stopped her and shook his head, "It's really not good today." ”

"Why? Do men have a few days a month? ”

Ma Yudong stroked the peach slowly, "Do you know why your mother said those words at the dinner table today?" ”

The blind sister straightened her waist and let out a low cat sound, "Why?" ”

Ma Yudong said his guess, and then, there was no more.

The blind sister packed her suitcase and fled back to her big flat overnight, and she felt a pang of regret when she remembered her beautiful expression at the dinner table.

No wonder Mother Liu said those words without a beginning or an end, and now that she thinks about it, she means something, but she still admits it stupidly, and she is still proud.

What's so proud of eating that thing?!

！

"Uncle, what do you say?!"

Ma Yudong was driving, and it was very smooth at night, "I won't eat it after that, anyway, I won't let you eat it every time." ”

The blind sister stiffened her neck again, "Isn't it because of you, uncle, I have a few days of discomfort every month, and this is the only way to contain your heart, otherwise uncle, you will be designated to do nonsense in those days!" ”

Ma Yudong wanted to cry without tears.

What kind of monster are you? All day a year?

Fortunately, the phone rang at this time, it was Zhao Yingbao's, and the blind sister stared at him vigilantly.

The corners of Ma Yudong's mouth twitched, and he gave her the mobile phone, "I'm driving, you can pick it up." ”

After the blind sister replied with a look of your acquaintance, she gently raised her voice and answered the phone in her sweetest and most disgusting voice: "Hey? It's my sister-in-law, is there anything to find your brother? ”

Zhao Yingbao stood outside the train station, shivering!

Looking down at the phone, why is it that nasty woman again?

"I'm looking for Brother Dong."

"Your brother Dong has no time to be distracted now, what is the same as what I said."