Milton felt that the next time he saw Yan Zixiu, he didn't know when.

It is difficult to meet such a perceptive young person, so he continued to share his experience: "I think that every patient is a unique individual, and there is no second person in this world who is exactly the same. Psychologists need to make good use of a person's uniqueness, and a person often has many unknown qualities. So I don't fight the patient's symptoms. Instead of wasting time on what the case lacks, focus on the resources that the case already has. ”

"Respecting the uniqueness of the patient? Don't fight the symptoms? Supporting the resources that patients already have? Yan Zixiu realized for a moment, "Mr. Milton, this is completely consistent with our Chinese medicine. Our traditional Chinese medicine talks about syndrome differentiation and treatment, one person and one party. Moreover, we pay attention to grasping the essence, and will not treat headaches and head and foot pain, but focus on strengthening the right and dispelling evil. ”

"A headache doesn't necessarily cure the head, and foot pain doesn't necessarily cure the foot. Wonderful, that's wonderful. Milton was unusually happy.

"Go on, Mr. Milton, I love to hear your story." Yan Zixiu said.

"Good. I'll tell you a story from when I was a kid. On my family's farm, sometimes the horses would run outside, and the workers would have to work hard to pull them back. Because horses have a lot of strength, it is usually necessary for several adults to pull a horse together. But then, I could pull a horse back to the stable with a small child. Why? Because I found that the horse is very rebellious, and when people pull it to the west, it will try to go east, so why not pull it towards the east, so it will automatically go west. ”

Yan Zixiu agreed: "Mr. Milton, you are so good at research at such a young age, no wonder you can have such achievements today." You have a point. We have such an idiom in China, if you want to take the first, you want to catch the old and indulge. ”

"Chinese culture is really broad and profound." Milton sighed and continued, "Another time, I treated a schizophrenic patient with delusions of persecution. When I entered the ward, he was driving nails in the window, which he thought would prevent the enemy from attacking him. I hammered the nail with him, and I was more serious than he was. Once the nails were ready, I suggested that he seal the cracks in the floor as well, so that the enemy would have no chance at all. Next, I suggested that he work with the doctors and nurses at the hospital to strengthen the hospital's preparedness so that he can continue to expand his safety coverage. The patient was accepted one by one, and as the work progressed, his range of precautions – and at the same time his range of activities – expanded, and he gradually came out of his isolation and loneliness. ”

"Push the boat with the water, smart." Yan Zixiu praised it from the bottom of his heart, admiring Milton's style very much, dancing with problems, going deeper than confronting problems

Lawrence didn't interject, but listened quietly as he drove.

Milton summed it up: "Everyone has a solution to their own problems, but they don't know how to find them. Since the person did not know how to look for it, the doctor came to help them find it. Just like I found out that Ms. Beth loves violet. ”

Milton's respect and trust in life touched Yan Zixiu a lot.

But he felt that Milton seemed to be too much of an advocate of independence, and said, "Mr. Milton. I feel that there is not only independence between life and life, but also identity. Life loves each other because of its common nature, and life stretches freely because it has its own independence, thus forming a beautiful world in a thousand forms. In our East, this is called non-oneness and non-difference, and it is also called self-otherness. ”

"Oh, that's a profound statement. Between life and life, there is both independence and identity. Neither one nor other, neither one nor other. Yes, too much emphasis on independence, some on the cold, too much on identity, and some on overheating. Milton listened, and said thoughtfully.

"Yes. Only by taking both of these into account can the proper distance be presented. And the right distance is good. Yan Zixiu said.

Lawrence suddenly interjected: "Mr. Yan has a point. Good, is the right distance, great. My aunt was just too far away from the others. ”

"Mr. Lawrence, did your aunt have suffered from being too close before, so she kept her distance from the others?" Yan Zixiu asked.

"Mr. Yan is amazing, your judgment is good." Lawrence replied that he did not go on.

Milton said, "Yes. It's too close, and people love and entangle at the same time, which is a kind of suffering. It's too bitter and I want to cut it apart. But after cutting it, it was too far away, and it was not happy. Mr. Yan, what else do you Eastern say about this proper distance? "He was also an open-minded and studious man.

"Zhuangzi said, obey others without losing yourself. Confucius once said, do what you want from your heart, and never exceed the rules. ”

"Oh, what does that mean?" Both Milton and Lawrence were curious.

"They are all expressing the state of untangling and leaving love. A mentor of mine interprets it this way: care and don't worry, help people without caring for others, appreciate and don't possess, ask for nothing. Yan Zixiu relayed what Wu Wu had said to them.

"Untangle and leave love? Concern or not, help people regardless of people, appreciate not possession, ask for or not? Lawrence, you slow down, I'm going to write it down. ”

……

At lunchtime, everyone talked about Yan Zixiu's journey.

Both Milton and Lawrence strongly recommended that he check out Niagara Falls because they had both been there.

That kind of majestic magnificence cannot be appreciated without being there in person. By car, it's about 1,000 kilometers from Milwaukee, and it's about 20 hours on the road.

Yan Zixiu is very interested in this waterfall. He remembers that there was an introduction in the world geography textbook in middle school. But he didn't have enough time to spend it on the road.

He asked in his heart what to do without worry?

Wu Wu said: "The teleportation method of the light gate can be positioned randomly, it can be located with Xianfu items, or it can be located with known latitude and longitude coordinates. ”

"Yes. I can buy a map and look at the current location and the location of the waterfall, and the portal charm can be located. ”

Maps are easy to buy, restaurants sell them, but he doesn't have dollars in his pocket.

He pulled out a stack of Hong Kong dollars.

"Mr. Milton, may I exchange some dollars with you?"

Milton was grateful to Yan Zixiu for relieving his years of illness, and the two talked very well, and he had long regarded him as a good friend in his heart, and he was willing to accept his Hong Kong dollars: "Yan, you don't have to be polite to me. Lawrence, how much cash do you have? Five thousand. Okay, add mine, it's $10,000, Yan, you take it and use it. He said very firmly and stuffed the money into him.

"Okay." Yan Zixiu took it briskly, and gave Milton and Lawrence a few water spirit peaches and a few tubes of tranquility incense.

The two of them were very happy, especially Milton, who knew that the magic effect of this water spirit peach was really hard to buy.

After lunch, Yan Zixiu said goodbye to Milton and Lawrence and continued his journey of thousands of miles.