What does it mean to like someone?

For the original Chen Jiayu, he had already answered this question hundreds of times, and when he wanted to think about it, he just said the same as any previous time: "If you like someone, your heart will beat faster when you look at her, and you can't help but want to get close to her." , but subconsciously shut up.

The words rolled and rolled in his head, and he suddenly realized that for the first time, he began to be unsure.

Is this really the right answer?

Indeed, before he thought about Shen Nianchu, it was a glimpse and heartbeat of his youth, and he was yearning for the perfect girl in his heart.

I guess I like it.

But the feeling Cai Jiayi gave him seemed to be different from Shen Nianchu.

She is not as high and unreachable as Shen Nianchu in his heart, she is by his side, and it seems that she is within reach.

But it's not so complete.

Her body was shrouded in a hazy and impenetrable fog, but Chen Jiayu didn't feel a sense of threat in her, she just felt curious, and couldn't help but want to get closer and explore.

And getting along with her is also comfortable and pleasant.

He didn't seem to need to be very good or strong in front of her, even the truest and most childish side could be presented naturally, just like a cat would only show its fragile belly in front of the most trusted people. The body is also very honest and healthy, his heart beats faster when he is ambiguous with her, he occasionally fantasizes about the feeling of hugging her, and even makes her the heroine of his indescribable dreams.

I guess I like this kind of mood.

So, what does it mean to really like it?

Or is there more than one definition of like, or even no precise definition at all?

"Old Chen, why don't you speak?"

At this time, Hou Zifan asked.

"Whether you like Zhu Shu or not, if you don't even know yourself, it's even more useless to ask others." Chen Jiayu pondered for a while before speaking.

"I ......" Hou Zifan was speechless, and after a while, he said, "I don't know, I just think her puffing up looks funny, so I always can't help but want to tease her and watch her get angry." But if she gets really angry and ignores me all the time, I feel weird and uncomfortable."

"I don't even know why, alas."

Chen Jiayu said vigorously: "One word can sum up your mentality."

Hou Zifan asked, "What words?"

"Cheap."

Xia Yu swallowed the food in his mouth and added, "Two words, cheap."

He Yan: "Three words, you are cheap."

「……」

Hou Zifan's face changed, and his lips moved back and forth for a long time, but in the end he didn't refute, just lowered his head and continued to eat.

But the speed slowed down significantly, and it seemed a little unpalatable.

When he was about to finish eating, he asked again, "Did I really do badly when I played badminton today?"

Chan said, "It's about the purpose of you playing badminton with her. Are you just trying to win her, or are you trying to impress her with you?" ….

Hou Zifan: "I won her, and she saw that I was powerful, wouldn't she be impressed by me?"

「……」

Chen Jiayu looked at Hou Zifan indescribably, and couldn't help but admire his brain circuit.

In the end, I can only make an analogy: "For example, a friend plays a game with you, you are a novice, and he knows it, but instead of taking you to play and not teaching you how to play, he deliberately abused you ten to zero." This is not enough, he also laughed at you in public, saying that you can't play him for another hundred years of practice, how are you feeling?"

Hou Zifan was suddenly angry: "Damn, what kind of friend is this!"

As soon as the words fell, he seemed to understand something, scratched the back of his head, and said stupidly, "As soon as you say that, I kind of understand.

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It's because he didn't take into account her self-esteem, alas, and thinks he's doing pretty well.

……

The discussion about whether Hou Zifan likes Zhu Shu or not has come to an end.

But throughout the evening of self-study, Chen Jiayu was thinking about another question.

Is his love for Shen Nianchu in the past really liked, or is his love for Cai Jiayi now?

If so, why is it different?

At the end of the evening self-study, when he and Cai Jiayi walked out of the school gate together, it was already 9:35.

At this time, it was already completely dark, the street lamps on both sides of the road scattered a dim light, and the shadows of the two falling on the ground were long and dark, but it was still obvious that one was a tall boy and the other was a delicate girl.

After walking out of the road, there were gradually fewer students around, Cai Jiayi turned her head to look at Chen Jiayu, and asked with slightly curved eyes, "Do you have something on your mind?" From the evening till now, nothing has been spoken."

"Oh...... I'm thinking about a question." Chen Jiayu replied.

She was a little curious, "What questions, can you say?"

"Yes." Chen Jiayu replied.

"I'm thinking, what does it mean to like someone? How do you define the word "like"?"

"If love at first sight is considered to be like, then love for a long time, is it counted?"

"Is it the vigorous heartbeat that I like, or the companionship of the long stream?"

"If they're all likes, what's the difference?"

Cai Jiayi listened to his question, and tilted her little head, as if she was in thought.

After a while, she blinked her eyes and whispered, "Would you like to hear my thoughts?"

"Well, you can say it."

"Psychologically, human desires are divided into five levels, physiological, safe, social, respectful, and self-actualized." She spoke more slowly than usual, probably organizing her thoughts as she spoke, "And liking is also a desire. Therefore, different likes can also correspond to these five levels."

"The lowest level is the liking that arises from physiology, such as the sexual impulse, which is born because of ***, and it is also the most transient and unstable liking, once the impulse disappears, it may cease to exist."

"The second is security. The so-called beauty loves heroes, in fact, it means that girls are easy to like powerful men because he can bring her a sense of security. Boys are the same, they will also prefer those of the opposite sex who have excellent conditions, such as beautiful, single-minded, gentle, smart, ......."

Chen Jiayu pondered, "So, what does social representation represent, is there a common language?"

"That's right." Cai Jiayi nodded, "Because of each other's same hobbies and interests, the likes that arise will be less common and more lasting than the first two."

"That's ......."

"Next is respect, when a person can make you feel respected, needed, and loved......" Under the street lamp, a gentle smile appeared on her little face, "So, would you not like such a person?"

Chen Jiayu raised his eyebrows: "No wonder green tea is so popular."

Cai Jiayi covered her mouth and laughed.

Chen Jiayu asked again, "What about the last one?"

"You find the value and meaning of your existence in the other person, and the other person is the same...... It's a pity that there are too few and too few such likes."

Cai Jiayi looked at him with a smile and said softly.

96.

I'm on fire this year