139. Tutoring

"The mistake that many parents make is to give the carrot they think is good, not the meat and bones that the other person needs, so you can't feel your love for the other person, because you love wrong, but blame the child for not knowing gratitude."

Parents should have compassion for their children, what is kindness? Compassion is to give each other happiness, sadness is to help the other party get rid of pain, life is really hard, as a parent, if you really love your child, you should help the child get rid of pain, let him be happy, for him to go to school, learning knowledge is compassion, let him avoid his shortcomings, play to his strengths is also a kind of compassion...... It is also a kind of compassion to let him choose a way of life that suits him......"

Zhang Yu saw Aunt Qiao bowing her head and pondering, and suddenly realized something.

"Aunt Qiao, look, I'm just a middle school student, and you're a university teacher, am I having some class axes, I'm sorry, I made you laugh."

"No, no, big girl, I said before, whether it is wisdom or knowledge, you are above me, you don't look like a junior high school student who is only seventeen years old, before I met you, I believe that diligence can make up for clumsiness, now I believe that some things are innate, such as my son, he is not a reading material, I have to force him to read, almost forced his life, and you, talented, this is ordinary people no matter how hard they work can not surpass."

Zhang Yu's actual psychological age is already thirty years old, and she is from the later generations, and the amount of knowledge and information in the later generations is far from comparable in the current era, so she will naturally understand many things that people in this era do not understand, this is just a matter of poor information, not that she is talented.

Zhang Yu could only talk nonsense: "No, Aunt Qiao, you have won the award, I just like to read books, especially books on psychology, because I am afraid that the education will not be good and delay my younger brothers and sisters, so I am interested in children's psychology and education, and I have studied some knowledge in this area."

Aunt Qiao believed Zhang Yu's words: "Really? Is there such a book? Can you lend it to me? ”

"I saw it from the library, you can go to the library and have a look!"

She pulled out a pen and paper: "What's the name of the book?"

Zhang Yu didn't expect her to be so serious.

"I read a lot, I can't remember the specific name, it's a book on adolescent psychology."

Aunt Qiao still wrote it down carefully.

Zhang Yu was a little embarrassed, and he didn't know if there were any books in the library at this time, and if there were, I am afraid that they were also some obscure and boring books with strong textbook terminology, unlike later generations, there were so many down-to-earth books on psychology, which were easy to understand and interesting, and very practical.

Seeing that Zhang Yu was silent, Aunt Qiao said, "Say it! Girl, let's talk about what you learned from the book, you educated your younger brothers and sisters so well, it shows that the method you learned is correct and desirable, you can introduce more and let me learn and learn. ”

The knowledge about educating children in later generations is overwhelming, Zhang Yu plans to marry Xia Yunbo, and their days are set, so when she is fine, she will also watch some educational books and videos, combined with her life experience, so she said that big call to Aunt Qiao.

Since she loves to listen, let's popularize it with her, with her understanding of her two contacts, she is the kind of person who is strict with herself and her children.

This kind of person, she herself has experienced the dividends brought to her by self-discipline and diligence, so she feels that as long as the child does like her, he will be as good as her.

"Parents raise their children, just like Confucius said, according to the situation, follow the trend, find advantages, ignore the shortcomings, if your child is an eagle, let him soar in the sky, if he is a fish, let him swim in the water, if you only according to your own preferences, let the fish fly, or let the eagle swim in the water, it can only be a tragedy."

"And my son, what are his strengths?"

"I just came into contact, I don't know, you have raised him for more than ten years, don't you know?"

"Girl, I'm really ashamed, I only saw his shortcomings before, and I didn't think about what other advantages he had."

"Then from now on, you keep your eyes open and look at it with a magnifying glass. Someday, you'll find out where his strengths are. ”

Zhang Yu refilled the tea for Aunt Qiao.

Aunt Qiao took a sip.

"Girl, listening to your words is better than reading a book for ten years! I'm really ashamed to be an educator! I have been teaching and educating people for most of my life, but I have not educated my children well, or rather, my education method is completely wrong, before I met you, I have always felt that I have a clear conscience about my children, why children do not become talents, because God gave me a stupid child. ”

"Every child is an angel and has his own mission. As a parent, it is to send him to his own track, and he can live his own wonderful life. ”

"That's great, big girl, university, would you like to be admitted to our school? We are a normal university, after graduation, you are teaching and educating people, you should be a teacher in the future, if you are a teacher, you will send many children to their own track, live their wonderful life, what a great thing. ”

Zhang Yu was a little confused.

She was admitted to university, just to get a diploma, in order to let Li Jiahui accept her as a daughter-in-law, she couldn't make up her mind about what major to study, let alone what career she wanted to pursue in the future.

Her original intention was to make a lot of money and then lie flat, she didn't want to do a job, she clocked in and went to work every day.

"If you want to go to our school, I can help you get a guaranteed spot."

Zhang Yu waved his hand.

"Don't, I tutor Guodong with homework, Teacher Miao knows, and others will definitely know, so you get me a college guarantee place, so that the two of us will become a deal, which will not have a good impact on your reputation, and it will not be good for your uncle."

"How so! Your academic performance is good, this is a fact, and you have educated your younger siblings so well, which is also obvious to all, this guaranteed place is not mixed with any water, it is well deserved. My proposal is based on cherishing talents, without any personal selfishness. ”

"I know, but no one else thinks so!"

"Don't you want to be a teacher?"

"I didn't think about becoming a teacher, but your proposal made me a little excited, let me think about it, even if I go to your school, I have to take the exam according to my own ability."

(End of chapter)