336. Yu Hui

"I've been running away from the psychological shadow of my family of origin, I don't want to live like my mother, but in the end, I still live like her. Is this fate? Or is it a spell that can't be escaped? Big girl, you told me before that if a person doesn't work hard, it is difficult to escape the harm left by the original family, I have been studying hard to make money to support my family, and I don't rely on others, why do I still live so badly? Is this a fate that cannot be escaped? ”

"Liu Yuhui, fate is in your own hands, don't be so superstitious, your efforts are not in vain, at least, you have the ability to divorce than your mother back then, and you have the capital to start over."

"Girl, I'm not superstitious, it's true, you see, my mother and my father have a good relationship, but after a long time my father left, and then met Wu Laosan, suffered so many crimes, finally got rid of him, made money to support himself, and later married an old man, I heard that his wife died of illness, he didn't beat his wife, but after my mother was with him, he was still bullied by him...... In her life, no matter who she finds, she can't die well, she is either sinned or bullied. ”

"Myself! has a job and income, and the object he is looking for is also carefully selected, his character is no problem, he is not a bad person, he has no bad habits, but after getting married, he found out that he is also domestic violence, why is my fate the same as my mother, I always meet domestic violence men? ”

Zhang Daniu: "What kind of character, what kind of destiny, your mother, inferiority, pleaser, blind obedience, this kind of character, destined to be bullied no matter who is with him in this life, because she has no assertiveness and does not love herself, she will not resist if she is bullied, she is easy to bully at first glance!"

"Human nature is like this, deception and fear of evil. When people get along with each other, at the beginning, he doesn't dare to act rashly, and when he tests your bottom line a little bit, and sees that your bottom line is very low, or even when there is no bottom line, his courage will become bigger and bigger, and his behavior will become more and more presumptuous. ”

"So, you yourself secretly allow how others treat you, this statement may be unacceptable to you, but it is the truth."

Liu Yuhui: "I really can't accept your statement, men and women are born with a huge disparity in strength, and men have an advantage in physical strength, even if they resist, they will only suffer a stronger blow." Women with kung fu like you are in the minority after all. ”

"Your mother chose Wu Laosan when she was in trouble in life, and she regarded Wu Laosan as a lifesaver, but she met a scoundrel, and the old man she chose later looked good in all aspects on the surface, and there was no trace of beating, but in the end he still beat someone, why didn't he dare to beat his ex-wife?"

"As for you! If the other party is an explosive, irritable and impulsive man, why did you choose to be with him in the first place? On the one hand, it shows that it was his impulsive nature that attracted you in the first place, because you are a passive person who hopes to meet someone who is particularly proactive. On the other hand, you don't take into account people with this kind of personality, because they are emotionally unstable and impulsive, and later in life, you will have a high frequency of arguments. ”

"Yes, yes, big girl, what you said is so right, my ex-husband is such a person, impulsive, emotionally unstable, explosive and irritable, before getting married, I didn't think there was anything, and after I got married, I knew that being with someone with this kind of character is a disaster."

"So! It is your own personality that attracts this kind of person to your side, you have low self-esteem, lack of love since childhood, especially fatherly love, and dare not take the initiative to men, so you like this kind of person who is particularly enthusiastic and can express love warmly, because you lack love, you crave this passionate love in your bones, but you don't understand the shortcomings of people with this character, although they are very active and enthusiastic, but they are short-tempered, a person who is not particularly enthusiastic about others, must be a person with restraint, and the possibility of domestic violence will be much smaller. ”

"He's such a person, but he's not bad in nature, and he's still a good person in front of outsiders! Who knew that this kind of person would also be domestic violence! ”

"People with this kind of personality will inevitably be domestic violence! Because he is not calm about people and things, his actions are not so much impulsive, but a way he is used to dealing with them. ”

"Big girl, although you haven't met my ex-husband, you have analyzed his character too correctly."

This kind of person can be called a person with a flawed character, of course, everyone's character is flawed, they are imperfect, but some people are more obvious, some people are not so obvious, if his essence is not bad, when you get along with him, don't provoke him, in fact, you can live. But it's hard not to provoke him, because of your personality, it's easy to make him angry. ”

Liu Yuhui was very aggrieved.

"I didn't do anything wrong, why is it easy to make him angry?"

"This sentence or two is not clear, some people quarrel when they are together, and they don't quarrel when they change people, that is a personality incompatibility, in the final analysis, it is a mutual character."

"So, he and I are personality restraint, I don't understand, how can personality restraint? What is my problem? ”

"You are a chronic son, he is an acute son, the acute child belongs to fire, the chronic child belongs to water, water and fire are incompatible!"

"On the surface, you didn't provoke him, but your slow motion and procrastination habits often make him angry, your character is his character, from his point of view, he is also a victim, your character is not good, his liver is definitely not good."

Liu Yuhui sighed deeply.

"So, I should find someone who is chronic, so that the two of them can get along?"

"When two people get along, it is important to communicate and understand each other's personalities, and then not to touch each other, otherwise, the same personality may not be able to get along."

"Big girl, what you said has some truth, but it's too complicated, I'm afraid there are few people like you who live transparently."

"The relationship between people is a science, okay! Don't talk about it, there will be an opportunity to discuss it in the future, how old is your daughter? ”

"Five!" Liu Yuhui sighed again.

"Why is it still a girl? Why not the son? ”

"Liu Yuhui, you won't also be patriarchal, right?"

"It's not that I'm patriarchal, it's that I don't want my daughter to follow my mother's fate."

"You didn't carry on your mother's fate, and neither did your daughter. If you want to change your destiny and change the fate of your daughter, change your mentality, believe that you can change your destiny, and believe that your daughter will also have a beautiful and happy marriage. ”

"I used to think I could change, so I deliberately stayed away from my mom and didn't want to be influenced by her...... But fate follows the shadow. ”

"You don't have the courage to face the problem, you can't hide from it."