"You're married?" Ankang didn't expect that Nan Yanyu's first sentence when he sat down at the bar was this, and he didn't expect Nan Yanyu to get married at a young age.

Of course, from an objective point of view, Nanhua Yu is not too young. But in the city of Shanghai, people who can get married before the age of 30 are either miracles or winners in life.

Nanhuayu should obviously belong to the category of people who are winners in life.

"Hmm." Nan Yanyu nodded, "But it's already gone." ”

"You're divorced?" Ankang felt that his brain was a little insufficient.

Nan Yanyu nodded: "So, this is my situation." What about you? ”

"I'm a young man who has never been married."

"Oh. That's nice. What do you think? ”

"I think it's good, too."

"That's good." Nan Yanyu smiled, "Then let's continue to chat happily." ”

"Okay." Ankang felt that this conversation was very different from what he imagined. Some don't fit in.

Of course, his discomfort with Nanhua rain can be seen. She took a sip of her wine and said, "We're all young. It's okay to make friends, but it's more about getting married, right? I just hope that everyone can be calm, so that they can show their disadvantages openly and honestly, and the other party will be better and better in the future. Wouldn't that be great? ”

"I agree."

"I'm sorry. I'm saying it too bluntly. I'm a little selfish to say that. It's just that I've been too tired of going on a blind date in the past few years, and I don't want to waste each other's time or the feelings at that time. I crave love and family, but I don't want to settle. ”

"Hmm."

"Because, the last marriage I will come down with."

"Oh?" Ankang knew that Nanhua Yu had a desire to talk in the atmosphere of the bar.

The bar is a very magical place, many people come to this place, they will have a feeling of being extremely happy and relaxed, and many people will have a desire to talk here, maybe it is caused by this atmosphere, maybe because of the label of the bar, which is very similar to the constellation, different constellations correspond to different personalities and different personalities, when you believe this, the label of this personality will become more and more profound, and people will slowly become the kind of people shown by their corresponding constellations.

In fact, foreign behavioral psychology experts have made an attempt, he put a variety of children of different constellations together to observe their words and deeds, and finally came to a conclusion, no matter what constellation of children, their words and deeds do not have any personality labels corresponding to their constellation, but when these children grow up and know what kind of person they correspond to, then this will have a subtle influence in their behavioral consciousness. In the end, these people slowly become what the horoscope indicates.

So the label of the bar is not to drink, the label of the bar is to let people talk, you can not speak on other occasions, but it is difficult for you to ensure that in a sentence two people sit facing each other, but do not say a word, the next words open their own easel in this atmosphere.

"I was married when I was very young, don't you think it's strange, the reason for getting married is actually very simple, well, there are actually a lot of people chasing me, but I haven't found the right one, including my ex-husband, and I didn't have the urge to get married between me and him, but something changed our decision."

This incident is that Nanhua Yu's mother who is suffering from cancer has reached an advanced stage. Her ex-husband took good care of Nan Huayu's family, which made Nan Huayu's mother have a very good impression of him.

In the absence of a better choice, without wanting to leave regrets during her mother's lifetime, An Huayu married her ex-husband.

I thought that there was no love at first sight relationship that could finally enter into a long-term relationship, but it backfired. Two people under the same roof are more like roommates living together.

Of course, it's not that two people are completely emotionless, but their feelings are not enough for them to continue living.

After the death of Nan Huayu's mother, the emotional sustenance no longer exists, and the last relationship between Nan Huayu and her ex-husband does not exist. After that, although they lived together for three years, there was far more pain than happiness. This is also one of the reasons why Nanhua Yu has not had children for a long time.

"Since we are going to separate, there is no need to hurt another life." Nan Yanyu played with her rum glass and said, "I thought that in a family of only two people, divorce should be an easy task. Where do you know that it is not only a battle of wits and courage, but also exhaustion. My ex-husband disagreed, and in the end I had to separate de facto. But my ex-husband was searching for him, and I changed jobs and places of residence in order to avoid him, and in the end I felt that there was nothing left but a skin. Can you imagine what it feels like for a person to hide in this city, not to hide from his enemies, but to hide from his own family? ”

Ankang didn't know whether to nod or shake his head at this time. However, he knew now that he only needed to be a quiet listener.

"Sometimes I wonder why I can't be more tolerant and kinder, just like my fathers. It's not good to live together. But seriously, I tried, and it was completely unacceptable. ”

Ankang said: "This life is not about living with a job. Not to mention the sense of mission, at least people are not in this life to eat, drink and lazar. ”

"Correct solution!"

"It makes sense to separate if it's not suitable. Maybe two people who are separated still have a chance to find a more suitable life. ”

This experience made Nan Yanyu also have a fear of marriage, and at the same time a more cautious attitude towards marriage. Of course, his attitude towards his ex-husband is actually still positive, he is a good person, but because everyone is not suitable, but many of the things his ex-husband did in the process of divorce were too extreme, which made him feel hurt psychologically. However, Nan Yanyu thinks that everything can be understood, after all, things have passed, what should have come has come, what should have gone has been gone, and he can finally live a normal life.

"Do you think my experience is too complicated?"

Ankang shook his head and said it's not too complicated, but I think you're too bitter. You have lost your mother, your father is far away, you are working alone in a city, and you have to face the entanglement of someone you don't want to face. ”

"But at least I'm relieved for now, and now I think life is dull, and it's good to be quiet. I have also experienced the days of passion, but it is not that I will not experience passion in the future, but this passion is still based on reason and the long-term future growth of two people, rather than short-term happiness. What do you think? ”

Principal Ankang, when I heard what you said to me, I felt that you were like a psychological counselor. The philosophy of life is very thorough.

Speaking of counselors, I actually went to counseling, and then, I thought it was very meaningful, and I took a few courses myself. However, I am not a psychological counselor, but I just think that some things can be understood from a different angle, or to say my own things, from a different objective point of view, and it is easy to see the truth of the matter.

"I agree with this very much, so can you trouble Lan Banxian to give me a hexagram, what kind of person do you think I am?"