Chapter 25: Helplessness and Despair
Zhao Ermei took another sip of water, thinking of what happened that day, she seemed to be able to feel the coolness in her heart that could not be dissipated: "It's not wrong for him Yao Dabao to love money and earn money, but in his eyes, money is more important than anything else, more important than my wife." He doesn't even think about my problems, you say, can I have feelings for him? ”
That conflict was the first conflict between Zhao Ermei and Yao Dabao after they got married, and she also saw Yao Dabao's heart clearly from this contradiction. Because of this, she lost trust in Yao Dabao, and from then on, she felt that Yao Dabao was not a man she could rely on.
Zhao Ermei originally thought that even if Yao Dabao didn't understand her need for that town's hukou, he would not object to his choice, and he should understand her and support her. Looking at Yao Dabao, who didn't understand her at all and sneered, she decided to use the money she had earned in the past few years to change her fate.
Yao Dabao froze, he saw Zhao Ermei's tears rolling in her eyes, watched her turn around, and walked away without looking back, he sighed in puzzlement, and continued to be busy with his business, while saying to Zhao Ermei's back: "Of course I want to get rich, if I don't get rich, I Yao Dabao is nothing, only getting rich can solve all problems." What's wrong with me, I can't do anything without money. ”
Zhao Ermei recalled the experience of that day, and there seemed to be a kind of injustice in her heart, she took another sip of water: "Before this, although I knew that Yao Dabao valued money very much, I didn't expect him to value money more than his wife, this must be his fault, and it must be unacceptable to me." I'm not wrong on this issue. As for what he meant in other respects, in retrospect, he may have been right. For example, now the urban hukou is not valuable, but the rural hukou is worthy, and the demolition of houses in the countryside is again this compensation and that compensation, and the people in the city are blushing. However, this was not the case at that time, when the difference between urban and rural areas was so great, who would have thought that so many changes would take place later? Can I see this change at the time? How do I choose? I thought at the time that he Yao Dabao only had money in his eyes, not just a matter of agreeing or disagreeing with me to take money to apply for an account. Therefore, whether or not to apply for an urban hukou is not a matter of right or wrong, but a matter of whether he has feelings for me. President Dongfang, do you think I am not wrong to think so? Wasn't it wrong for me to choose to divorce him? ”
Dongfang Siyi affirmed: "The same thing, looking at it from different angles, will come to different conclusions." You are not wrong when you think about it in terms of your own feelings. Because you used to be husband and wife, the measure of the relationship between husband and wife is, of course, affection. From that point of view, you're right. As for the rights and wrongs of other aspects, due to the influence of the social situation and environment at the time, it is not possible to make a simple evaluation of an individual's choice. ”
Dongfang Siyi has flipped through the case files of Zhao Ermei's two divorces, and knows that when she divorced, she was opposed by her own family and abused by Yao Dabao's family, and the two sides almost had a fierce conflict. In order to put the responsibility for the divorce on Zhao Ermei, in order to achieve the goal of making Zhao Ermei give up her requirements for children and property at the time of divorce, Yao Dabao did not hesitate to spread rumors that Zhao Ermei had a city hukou and found a man in the city, and she was an immoral woman. So much so that Zhao Ermei left too much resentment towards Yao Dabao, although they have been divorced for more than ten years, Zhao Ermei will still not forget his insults to her.
Zhao Ermei's face showed a kind of relaxation and happiness after being understood: "President Dongfang, I agree with your words very much, it was the situation and environment at that time that made me make that choice, and the people who have the same idea as me are not one, not two, but a considerable number of people." At that time, everyone felt all kinds of difficulties encountered in work and life, and everyone was also a person who had hope for life and pursued their dreams. I'm not wrong, they're not wrong, the times aren't wrong, no one is wrong, it's just looking at the past with the eyes of the present. This is what I can't bear the most, and what I hate the most is that others always look at my past with the eyes of the present, to treat my past, and they not only can't understand my past, but also sneer at me, which is unfair. ”
Dongfang Siyi nodded in agreement: "We can't treat the past with the eyes of the present, we can think about the past, but we can't evaluate everything in our past with this, otherwise, it will either seek truth from facts or misinterpret the past." This is especially true for treating a person, if we evaluate our past with the eyes of the present, we may all have one or another flaw. ”
Human society is always moving forward in the interweaving of various contradictions, and the social attributes of human beings are also destined to make their own choices in the conflicts of various contradictions. There will be many times in our life when we go the wrong way, and there will be many times when we get lost, and these are not terrible. Whether we are on the wrong path or lost in the wrong way, as long as we make the right choices and judgments in time, we can find the right direction again. The terrible thing is to be obsessed with the wrong road, stubbornly go all the way to the black, and carry out the mistakes to the end, then you will lose the best time of your life.
Zhao Ermei recalled that time in the past, she confided in Dongfang Siyi about her past pursuits and dreams, she once had her own goals and pursuits for life, those goals and pursuits are achievable and should belong to her. Zhao Ermei's mood gradually calmed down, and she had a deeper understanding of everything that happened back then, and she no longer had the feeling of resentment she had before.
The ambivalence that had been stuffed in her heart was entangled with her and suppressed her, making her feel breathless, she wanted to find someone to say it, just to prove that she had done nothing wrong. She just wanted to tell the judge sitting in front of her that she wasn't a difficult person, she just wanted to ask for his help, and she didn't really know what kind of help she needed. The purpose of her lawsuit against her ex-husband for child support is only to require defendants who have intersected with her own lives to assume and pay the obligations that should be fulfilled by them in accordance with the provisions of the law and the promises she has made.
"Di, Didi, Didi......" A rapid phone ringing interrupted Zhao Ermei's narration.
Dongfang Siyi looked at the phone on the table, the caller ID was the number of Vice Dean Wen's office, and immediately picked up the receiver: "It's me, um, what emergency?" Wang Jing committed suicide by taking sleeping pills, which hospital was she rescued? County People's Hospital! Well, okay, got it, I'll rush over to find out the situation right away, and I'll report back to you if there is any exact information. Okay, okay. ”
Dongfang Siyi put down the phone, turned around and informed the clerk Xiao Wang and the driver Xiao Wu to set off immediately and rushed to the county people's hospital, and at the same time called Xu Ming, who served as the clerk in this case, and asked him to go to the county hospital first to understand the situation.
After doing all this, Dongfang Siyi turned around and said to Zhao Ermei with an apologetic face: "I'm really sorry, there is a new emergency, and it seems that it will be delayed for some time." Well, I'll call you next week when I have time. ”
Zhao Ermei vaguely felt that something was urgent, nodded very understandingly, and said, "Okay, I'll wait for President Dongfang's call." After talking to you so much, I have thought about a lot of things, but there are some situations that I would like to consult with you before making a decision, and please arrange a time. Dongfang Siyi hurriedly walked out of the office and gestured to Zhao Ermei: "Don't worry, I will definitely arrange time to exchange opinions with you." ”
When Dongfang Siyi rushed to the emergency department of the county people's hospital, Xu Ming was already waiting in the nurse's room of the emergency department, and Han Shuai was sitting on the bench in the corridor with his head in his hands anxiously, staring at the tightly closed door of the emergency department rescue room with his eyes a little lost. Dongfang Siyi walked over and patted Han Shuai on the shoulder, he turned his head and moved his blank eyes to the hand in front of him, looked up suspiciously, and found that it was Dongfang Siyi and hurriedly stood up: "President Dongfang, you are here." ”
Dongfang Siyi said "um", first glanced at the emergency department, and didn't find any major movements, so he felt a little uneasy in his heart, and turned around and asked Han Shuai: "When did you find out that Wang Jing had an accident, when did you send her to the hospital, what is the situation now, is there any danger to your life?" ”
Han Shuai said with a tired face: "The discovery is still timely, when I sent her to the hospital, although she was already a little delirious, I don't think it should be life-threatening." However, I am still very worried now, I have been in the emergency room for more than an hour, and I don't know what the situation is, I just asked the nurse who came out, she seems to be unwilling to deal with me, as if the doctors and nurses in the emergency department are not willing to deal with people, it is useless for you to ask anything. ”
Han Shuai glanced at the emergency department again, and then told Dongfang Siyi: "It's a little weird, I don't know what the reason is, I was a little restless doing anything in the office this morning, and I was always panicked inexplicably, always feeling that something was going to happen." Maybe Wang Jing and I haven't been in touch for a week, so there's always some peace of mind in my heart, right? Because an Internet fraud case involved several criminal offenders from other places, I went on a business trip with the captain and didn't come back until last night, and I slept in the office all night. ”
The nurse from the emergency department walked over with a few bottles of potion, and after Han Shuai glanced at it, he continued: "This afternoon, the team was holding a case analysis meeting, and she suddenly sent me more than a dozen messages and said a lot of inexplicable things. At first, I didn't pay much attention to it, but when she said that I still want to find you in the next life, I suddenly panicked very much, and I was afraid that something was going to happen, so I quickly explained the situation to the captain briefly and asked for leave. After I came out of the police station, I called a taxi, and when I hurried to Wang Jing's house, I saw that the door was locked, because I still had a key in my hand, so I opened the door directly, entered the bedroom room, and found Wang Jing lying quietly on the bed, with an empty medicine bottle on the bedside table. I hurriedly called 120 and called an ambulance to bring it here. In less than half an hour, after being admitted to the emergency department, I called your phone, but no one answered, and after thinking for a while, I called the dean's reception room again. ”
Dongfang Siyi then remembered that the court had been held continuously for a few days, in order not to affect the order of the trial, the mobile phone was either turned off or on mute, he was also used to this setting mode, and he often forgot to adjust it in time afterwards, and then he was busy with other things, and because Zhao Ermei came, he casually put the mobile phone in the cabinet in the office.
Dongfang Siyi looked at Han Shuai, who looked depressed: "Fortunately, you came back in time, and you reacted in time to see the information, otherwise an irreparable tragedy might have happened." I know that you have been investigating several major and important cases recently, and the comrades of the criminal police team have worked very hard, and the last time I was at a meeting of the Political and Legal Committee, I met your Captain Liu, and he said that he was either on a business trip or working overtime, and he had not returned home for more than ten days. His wife is also a police officer, and she must understand him very well, and she knows the hard work of you people, but the families of other police officers may not be able to understand it. Therefore, we need to communicate more with each other, otherwise, over time, there will inevitably be all kinds of contradictions. If it is only a conflict between husband and wife, it is still easy to resolve, but if it involves family members other than the wife, it is more necessary to patiently and meticulously explain and communicate in all aspects. If we do not pay attention to these problems, there will be more and more contradictions, and the estrangement will become deeper and deeper. ”
Because of staying up late and working overtime, Han Shuai's eyes were a little red: "Actually, I still love Wang Jing very much, but I just feel that I can't give her a good life, and I don't even have time to take care of her for such and such small things, I don't have time to do it for her, and I always feel that I owe her too much." But my current job is my own choice, and it is my choice as a lifelong career. As you know, the nature of our work made it impossible for me to take care of my family, and I thought twice about leaving her, which may be a relief for me and for her. When I sued for divorce, I was conflicted, but I felt I had to make up my mind. Because in addition to feeling sorry for Wang Jing, I also feel sorry for her mother, I often feel guilty in my heart, and I always feel that my usual performance has disappointed her old man, and I feel shameless to stay in this family anymore. ”
Dongfang Siyi looked at the emergency room again, but there was still no movement, he turned to look at Han Shuai and said, "I understand your inner contradiction very well, and I also invited Wang Jing's mother to have a long talk for this reason, and I talked with her for a whole morning." Han Shuai opened his mouth in some surprise: "When did this happen?" ”
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