Dongfang Siyi and Jacky Li chatted for a while on the lawn outside the emergency room, and then the two shook hands and said goodbye. Dongfang Siyi walked along the boulevard for a long time, until he walked out of the gate of the hospital, and the clerk Xu Ming trotted all the way to catch up.

Xu Ming is a native of the north, and he fell in love with the south after finishing college in the south, in his own words: "I fell in love with the south like a girl in the south, and the life in the south made me feel different gentleness and happiness." He feels that the north and the south have completely different life moods, just as the snow country in the north is closer to childhood and fairy tales, while the romance and colors of the south are closer to youth and dreams.

Three years ago, after Xu Ming passed the civil service recruitment examination and was admitted to the court, he has been following Dongfang Siyi as a clerk. The young man's positive and energetic work attitude makes Dongfang Siyi very appreciative, "Well, he is a talent that can be created, and a talent that can be created." Dongfang Siyi often praises his apprentices in this way.

Once, my colleague Da Li asked Xu Ming with concern: "Young man, do you have a partner?" It's time to fall in love, right? If you need my help, I can find one for you. He looked at his colleague Da Li, put on a very serious look and said, "Falling in love? How can it be so easy. Love, this is a spiritual category thing, therefore, it belongs to the category of superstructure. The economic base determines the superstructure, and the most important economic foundation corresponding to the superstructure of love is the house, without the most basic economic foundation of the house, then the beautiful building in the superstructure of love has become a pavilion in the air with nowhere to place. What do you want me to fall in love with? ”

Seeing Da Li's bewildered look, he grinned and tilted his head to the side, and said his own set of theories in a matter-of-fact manner: "Any ideal that is divorced from reality is water without a source and a tree without roots." Therefore, I think that love without a house is not strong, and I am determined to make great efforts to build the economic foundation first, and then consider the superstructure problem, including the love problem you mentioned. Da Li scolded with a smile: "I have now come to a conclusion that Xu Ming is a terrible psychopath. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at this somewhat alternative apprentice from the side and said, "What kind of fallacies are you talking about?" Oh, by the way, I remember, what kind of should be called according to you northerners. Ha, haha, are you in love, or are you talking about political economy? Da Li is right, you seem to be a little crazy. ”

Xu Ming told his master his reasons again: "Love, as one of the highest spiritual activities of human beings, must be guided and practiced by the principles of political economy, otherwise it is easy to fail." Do you still have fewer divorce cases in your old family? Aren't many of those failures related to a weak economic foundation? We have to face the reality in order to solve the problems in reality. ”

Since then, his colleagues have teased him from time to time: "How is the economic infrastructure going?" Is there any plan for the superstructure? He also joked casually: "With the attention and care of the leaders and the strong support of the comrades, the economic infrastructure has achieved certain phased results, and the superstructure work plan is being formulated. ”

In the past few years, marriage and family cases have been on the rise, Dongfang Siyi always feels that he has something to do, and Xu Ming is of course busy with him day and night. Dongfang Siyi was sometimes a little uneasy in his eyes, so he urged this apprentice who was in love to tell a set of theories: "I said Secretary Xiao Xu, you are not too young, you are almost thirty, and you are not a cripple, why is there no progress in this matter?" It won't be because you don't have time, if so, you can ask for leave, you can also take a vacation, or, you leave on time every day after work, and you don't need to work overtime, I firmly support the principle of no overtime, you can move freely after work. ”

Xu Ming said helplessly: "Thank you for your meticulous care, you mean the ones they introduced to me, right?" I'll admit that they're all very good girls, but I have to be honest, I don't feel it, I can't help it, I just can't find the feeling of wanting to be in love. I really can't stand these good leaders and colleagues, as well as those good girls. Master, you can't say that I don't know how to lift, I can only feel very, very sorry, I really don't feel it, and there is really no way to explain this kind of thing. If I don't feel it, I can't pretend to feel it, isn't that a deception to other girls? You can't do that kind of thing. If you don't have a good attitude, you can't do it. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at the apprentice who was constantly busy in front of him suspiciously, and asked in confusion, "Why?" Can you give a reason? Whether it's subjective or objective, or what you think is a reason, I will also agree, I don't want to go into the details of whether your reason is right or wrong, but you can't just give people a conclusion about the three words 'no feeling', right? Xu Ming stopped what he was doing, looked at the master and said helplessly: "I really can't explain the reason, I just don't feel it, and if I don't feel it, I don't have motivation." Without motivation, falling in love becomes a tormenting affair rather than a pleasurable and happy one. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at Xu Ming suspiciously: "No, there must be a reason, or your kid's standards are too high, and the requirements are too high." No one is perfect, you can't be looking for a fairy, right? ”

Xu Ming said with a melancholy expression: "Master, don't force me, if your old man insists on me finding a reason, I think it may be related to the performance of too many parties in divorce cases in recent years." Dealing with these people who are going to die or live all day long, I feel that I have no faith in the so-called love. Many people may have been in love with each other in the days of their first acquaintance, but in the blink of an eye they have become passers-by again, and most of the reasons are trivial things, love is defeated in the face of the trivial things of life, and even defeated to the point of incompleteness, which makes me, a person who has not yet entered the siege, feel a kind of horror, and also feel how ridiculous and pitiful love is intoxicated with false feelings compared to the reality of life. ”

Dongfang Siyi couldn't help laughing: "This is not a reason, it must not be regarded as a reason." If that's a reason, then I'm going to admit that I hurt you, and I shouldn't have let you stay in this place. If you follow your logic, the doctors in the psychiatric hospital will definitely go insane, and the funeral home staff will definitely give up their jobs, their wealth, and everything in the world. I've experienced a lot of special things, and I admit that there must be a certain amount of negative emotional impact, but it doesn't make you doubt life. ”

Xu Ming also laughed: "Whether it is influential or not, when I think of the word marriage now, I have a hairy feeling in my heart." ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at his apprentice and said seriously: "You are an early manifestation of marital phobia, and you must treat it as soon as possible, otherwise it will get worse and worse." Xu Ming deliberately widened his eyes and said, "Master, don't scare me, is the problem so serious?" So what can be done to prevent and treat it? Dongfang Siyi said: "At present, there is only one way I have learned, which is to fall in love as soon as possible, get married as soon as possible, and find a suitable girl to help you overcome your fears with actions, and these early symptoms will generally disappear naturally." ”

Xu Ming grimaced: "I didn't expect the master to have so much cold knowledge, and he also has a home remedy for such an incurable disease." The apprentice really admires and admires the master, thank you for giving me such a good home remedies. However, it may not work for me, so I'd better think of something else. ”

It was a rare day to be a little free, and the master and apprentice opened the topic and talked about the impact of the younger generation's marital phobia on society. If you are in love, you are afraid of getting married, and when you are married, you are afraid of having children. If we have to get to the bottom of it, the main reason for this phenomenon is that the high pace and high cost of modern society have brought invisible life pressure to the younger generation. This has become a social phenomenon that spreads among the younger generation regardless of borders. The biggest social problem is that it is causing the aging of society to become more and more serious, and some scholars even worry that if this phenomenon is not improved, it will lead to the possibility of national destruction. So much so that some countries have actively adopted some encouraging policies, loudly asking the younger generation: "Please have one more child for the country!" ”

Japan is a country with a certain negative typical significance to a certain extent, and some media have compiled a limerick poem in response to Japan's low marriage rate and low fertility rate: "If you don't love, don't get married, don't have children, the people of the island country are wonderful; The Japanese government is heartbroken, and the otaku will not listen; The old age and young children will come in pairs, and the Yamato nation will perish! "National sentiment aside, the fear of extinction of the Japanese is not entirely nonsense, based on the data alone. The problem that the birth rate is far lower than the death rate is an objective reality, and this reality will not change, not only as a question of which nation or country will perish sooner or later, but also that the disappearance of mankind from the face of the earth may one day.

The master and apprentice chatted until the end of work, Xu Ming said quietly: "In the past, my father urged me to find a daughter-in-law quickly, and nagged over and over again, 'There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is the greatest', and the biggest task of completing the inheritance of the old Xu family is to press on me with such a traditional concept, and I only have one sentence to go back to his old man: my son is not filial, and my son is not married now." The master is indeed much more powerful than my father, and this education has greatly improved my consciousness. In the past, I thought that falling in love and getting married was just my business, and this question of whether to get married or not seems to be the same now. It seems that I still have to have a little family and country feelings, the rise and fall of the world, the husband is responsible, right, ha, haha. Besides, falling in love and getting married is not for me to throw my head and spill blood, and it doesn't feel so terrifying, master, don't worry, I will definitely be brave, move forward towards love, move towards marriage, and move forward towards creating new life. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled happily and scolded: "Don't play poor with me, you still follow your father's request, find a way to continue the incense for the old Xu family as soon as possible, let your father see the future generation of the Xu family as soon as possible, in the traditional concept of the Chinese, the old man is the happiest old age." ”

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