Dongfang Siyi quietly listened to Lili talk about her married life.

Lily's eyes dimmed again, and she hesitated to speak up about her privacy, the unspeakable privacy. Looking at the judge who calmly listened to her recount of her love past, she felt that she not only needed to end a faded time of love, but she also needed to have an understanding and respect.

Lily thought for a moment, then went on to recount the night that had left her helpless and embarrassed. Some of the pictures seem to be carved into the depths of my heart, and I can never forget them, nor can I erase the traces of that memory.

That night, Lily found that Yang Wei was a little depressed, thinking that he was really a normal reaction after being drunk, so she wanted to tease him: "You have to compensate me." Yang Wei showed a puzzled face: "Compensation? Lily bit her lip and said, "Last night was the night of candles in the cave room, and I watched a drunkard keep an empty room all night, shouldn't you express your love with practical actions?" ”

Yang Wei reacted at this time, smiled and hugged Lily and said: "This must be compensated, I will compensate for my endless love for Miss Lily now, you have to be mentally prepared." ”

However, after Yang Wei's scrambling, Lily did not wait for the real night of the cave house that she had hoped for. "Why is this happening, what's wrong with you?" Lily turned sideways to look at Yang Wei, who was staring at the ceiling in distraction.

The newlywed holiday passed in boredom, and the honeymoon was over, but there was no honey left. After the initial embarrassment, the two sides became calm and silent, Yang Wei seemed to be trying to escape, after the holiday, he neither discussed with Lily, nor explained to Lili, he submitted an application to the head office and took the initiative to ask to work in the branch. Subsequently, he was sent by the head office to a branch in a foreign country to serve as a supervisor, and Lily's dissatisfaction could only be emanated in the air around him, and then he tasted it silently. Every night after returning home from work, whenever night falls, she opens the curtains and looks out the window at the lights in the residential buildings near and far, and can only cry alone.

Lili's parents and Yang Wei's parents often mention the matter of the child in front of her, Yang Wei's mother is more anxious, and she speaks more directly, obviously with a reproachful tone: "You two are too disappointing to us, you can't just be greedy for pleasure, you are not in a hurry to have children, we are still anxious to think about our grandchildren." What's going on with the younger generation now? Don't seem to care about having a child at all? ”

Lily could only smile bitterly, she had no way to give a reason, and there was no way to tell the truth. The parents of the two families have always been good friends, and he and Yang Wei are also childhood sweethearts. Who can blame for such a thing? And what can be done? She felt that she could only bear it silently in her heart.

After a long time, Lili's mother finally knew what happened, and then she mentioned this unspeakable matter to Yang Wei's mother. Yang Wei's mother was reluctant to believe it at first, but later asked her son in person to confirm this somewhat embarrassing fact. The two mothers tried their best to find a doctor everywhere, and Yang Wei was very cooperative at first, and after taking a lot of Western medicine and Chinese medicine without any effect, he finally gave up the treatment in frustration.

"Have you tried psychological therapy?" Dongfang Siyi remembered Ruoyu, a psychological counselor who still kept in touch with her, and she once said that some similar cases were also after seeking medical advice and medicine without any effect, she tried to carry out psychotherapy, and was diagnosed with psychogenic dysfunction, and returned to normal function after active psychological treatment.

Lily said helplessly: "I thought about this problem and wanted him to give it a try, but he was unwilling to cooperate and finally gave up." Later, I accidentally found some clues in his diary, and I had many frank and heart-to-heart conversations with him face to face. I just realized that something was not normal, and he did have psychological problems. ”

Lily had to face his psychological problems: "Although we are childhood sweethearts, he has always treated me as a princess, and whenever we are together, he is always obedient to me." In front of me, he seemed to have an invisible inferiority complex, which I gradually felt after two years of living together. I thought about changing, but to no avail, and since he was frustrated in this area, it deepened his inferiority complex. Later, he changed from inferiority to self-abandonment, and now he has another layer of rebellious psychology, no longer obeying my will, but considering his words and deeds against my will for no reason. ”

Dongfang Siyi asked: "According to you, you are both childhood sweethearts and college classmates, even if you don't have such an intimate relationship between husband and wife, you should be able to communicate well." Have you had the necessary communication about this psychological problem that he is exhibiting? Is there a try to help him get out of this state of mind? ”

Lily smiled helplessly: "We used to communicate easily, and many things were discussed by two people before making decisions, but after encountering this matter, there was no room for in-depth communication." I also learned something from one of his best classmates that I hadn't cared about before. He once had a secret affair with a girl named 'Fen', whom he did not marry because of his parents' opinion and because of his strong self-esteem. He seemed to have more self-esteem among his classmates and colleagues because he was able to marry me. However, he could not get rid of that extreme inferiority complex in front of me. Therefore, his heart refused to communicate with me in this regard after marriage, which was a factor that would hurt his inner self-esteem, and he resolutely refused. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at the very rational plaintiff in front of him, he knew that she had thought about it many times, and he knew very well that she and he would never go back to the past. Two childhood sweethearts, does not mean that they will be able to become the best couple, she is too familiar with him, and there is no mystery and temptation between each other. When they really came together, they rejected each other because they knew each other, which became another kind of negative case among childhood sweetheart-type couples.

Lily stated the real reason for her consultation: "I know that the only thing he thinks about now is divorce, but he doesn't even have the courage to file for divorce. Because he knew that if he took the initiative to file for divorce, it would inevitably involve his privacy, and he was afraid that relatives, friends and familiar colleagues would mention this matter, so that he could not bear the criticism of others. I know his worries, and I understand his worries, he is a person with a lot of self-esteem, and this matter involves his human dignity as a man, so he takes it very seriously. If the situation he was worried about occurred, he would definitely be in pain, and we discussed going to court to sue for divorce. I now wonder what procedures must be followed in order to avoid harm to him, whether it is possible to end the marriage directly by mediation. ”

Dongfang Siyi nodded: "According to the provisions of the Supreme People's Court's "Several Opinions on How the People's Court Determines that the Relationship between the Husband and Wife Has Broken Down in the Trial of Divorce Cases", if one party suffers from a disease that is legally prohibited from marriage, or one party has a physical defect that is difficult to cure, and one party resolutely requests a divorce on this ground, and after mediation is invalid, the people's court may determine that the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down, and thus make a judgment to grant the divorce. Although the judicial interpretation does not clearly stipulate, it can attribute this aspect of sexual disharmony to other reasons that lead to the breakdown of the relationship, and a divorce may also be granted if mediation fails. Except for the dysfunction in this area that I admit, the others must be evaluated by a forensic doctor to find out the cause of the disease and the possibility of cure, and for those that are difficult to cure, they can be used as a reason for divorce. The premise of a divorce judgment is that the party claiming the divorce must be able to adduce complete relevant evidence to prove it. You said that you have negotiated and if he does not deny his sexual problems and agrees to the divorce, then the divorce can be mediated. From the perspective of protecting personal privacy, it is possible to state in the divorce mediation document only that the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down, without mentioning the specific reasons. ”

Love cannot be maintained only by sweet memories, it requires both parties to constantly create, like building a beautiful castle in a fairy tale; It needs to be constantly nourished, like the buds in the garden that look forward to rain and dew; It is a ivy, and it will continue to climb and rise only if it is constantly replenished with nutrients; It is like a fish frolicking in the water, and when it leaves the water, it will be buried in the dry riverbed and gradually stiffened by the silt, or it will be dried and stored by the years; It's like a long answer sheet, and you need to keep filling in warm answers.

For a woman who wants to become a mother, it needs to be respected, just as the land wants its years to be accompanied by beautiful flowers and sweet fruits, this desire is natural and needs to be protected by law.

Sex is an indispensable fountain of love in the life of a couple, and the relationship between a husband and wife without sex will gradually dry up like a stream without a water source. Sex is an indispensable part of the couple's life, is the catalyst of the couple's feelings, in the marital life, if the husband and wife have serious problems in the sexual relationship, it often leads to the breakdown of the couple's relationship, so that the marriage has an irreparable crisis.

(Next Notice: Chapter 45: Opening Another Door)