Marriage and family are like the ships of life, which carry families with dreams to the other side of happiness. Love is the sail of the ship of life, only with love will it not deviate, only with love can it resist the wind and waves, and only with love can it go with the wind. If you lose love, you lose the goal of sailing, you lose your sails, and you lose the motivation to travel far. Without love, the ship will run aground, anchor, or even sink.

Dongfang Siyi recognized a truth from those failed marriages, a loving family is always happy, and a loveless family is destined to decline. This truth is like the trees that stand around us, sometimes we look at them intently and admire them, and sometimes we selectively ignore them and do not see them. When we look at them, there is an oasis in our hearts, and when we turn a blind eye to them, we fall into a desert in our hearts, and our state of mind will change because of this.

When Dongfang Siyi and Xu Ming walked into the mediation room, in the dim light, a pair of men and women sat at both ends of the oval long table, Xu Ming casually pressed the control switch on the side of the door, and several lights in the room were instantly lit up.

"Today, I invite you to come to a mediation work in person, I want to listen to your true thoughts before the trial, to see if you can reconcile, pre-trial mediation is also a procedure that we should go through when trying marriage and family dispute cases, I hope you can be open and honest, open the skylight and speak brightly. As long as mutual understanding and mutual accommodation can be achieved, it will certainly be conducive to the resolution of contradictions. Dongfang Siyi smiled and looked at the plaintiff Jin Xiuyu, and then at the defendant Jin Junchun: "Which of the two of you will talk about it first?" ”

Kim so-ok lowered his head and did not speak, Kim Junchun sat in the dock, his hands crossed to support his forehead, which was still faintly painful, he had been groggily sleeping for several days before coming to the courtroom, looking lethargic and exhausted.

Xu Ming felt that this couple was a little strange, and couples who divorced through litigation generally have more contradictions. It's been hurting each other for too long, and quarreling when they meet has become the norm, and the pair in front of them seem to have nothing to say in the face of strangers, and they seem to have seen through each other's hearts, and they don't feel that anything makes sense.

Dongfang Siyi smiled and looked at Jin Xiuyu again: "Either you talk about it first, your child has just turned one year old, and you choose to sue for divorce, in fact, you have also chosen a family for your child that is about to be incomplete, which will undoubtedly bring a series of problems to the child's future education and growth, have you considered these?" I read your complaint carefully, and it simply says that you often quarrel over trivial matters after marriage, and the relationship between husband and wife has broken down, can you tell me what kind of trivial matters you quarrel about? What kind of trivial matters can be enough to cause a complete breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife? ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at Jin Junchun, who was sitting silently: "Can you also tell me what mistakes Jin Junchun made in your family life?" If there are faults, can those faults be reversed? If you can change it, can you reconcile? I think that you are all highly educated people and have stable careers, since you can come together and become husband and wife, I believe that you must also have an emotional foundation, and you must have carefully considered and chosen. Isn't it unreasonable if the relationship between husband and wife breaks down just because of some trivial things in life? No one is perfect, and no one is perfect. When you enter the marriage hall, you should know that your partner cannot be a perfect person. In marriage and family life, if the other party has no major faults, no unforgivable faults, such as domestic violence, such as cheating, etc., then tolerance and communication should be the best way for both husband and wife to resolve conflicts. Have you ever tried to be tolerant of each other and understand each other from each other's point of view? If you haven't communicated well, why not give it a try? Perhaps you can find another better way to resolve the conflict between your husband and wife. ”

Dongfang Siyi patiently persuaded both parties, and Jin Xiuyu, who had been silent, raised her head and replied indifferently: "I have nothing to say, and he has no fault that I need to forgive, but I have to divorce, this is fate." Before she could finish speaking, two lines of tears unconsciously flowed down her cheeks, and she fell to the table without hesitation and kept sobbing.

"She has no feelings of her own, just a puppet raised by others, a puppet in the family. Our marriage is a trap that has been calculated by others. Jin Junchun looked at the sobbing Jin Xiuyu and finally released his long-suppressed dissatisfaction and anger: "She has to listen to her adoptive father and adoptive mother for everything, and they are so selfish, they just use her as a tool for childbirth, and only use her as a tool for inheritance." My son-in-law is also their tool, and now that I have been used by them, they want to kick me away, because I have no use value. ”

Jin Junchun looked at Jin Xiuyu, who was still crying, and continued: "Before they achieved their goal, they deliberately showed a harmonious family atmosphere. After she gave birth, they began to insult me in the most unbearable language, and when I got up a little late in the morning, they called me lazier than a pig. The right to rest is also ruthlessly deprived by them. Buy a little food you like, and they say I don't look like a man, don't men have the right to enjoy food? What's more, it's not a delicacy, it's just that I like it. When I got back a little later, they said I must have had an affair outside. I knew that their purpose in doing this was to force me to leave her, to leave this home that did not belong to me in the first place, and that our marriage was a trap they had carefully designed. ”

Jin Xiuyu raised her head, tears were still rolling in her eyes, she wiped it with a napkin, then looked at Jin Junchun and said, "No! You shouldn't count them like that. They are my foster father and mother, and I am willing to listen to any arrangements they have. You shouldn't say that they are so unkind, you touch your conscience, they treat you well, although you are a son-in-law, but you eat and drink with what they provide, you don't take a penny, you live in the villa they provide, and you marry their daughter at no price, what else do you want? They are not as ruthless as you say, and they are not as bad as you think. I am willing to repay them with my life for their nurturing kindness. ”

She picked up another napkin and wiped her tears: "Because my life was originally given by them, if they hadn't taken me home as an outcast, I might not have been in this world a long time ago, I can't betray them, and I won't make that choice at any time." You can't say that they are not, you count them down with resentment like this, it is disrespectful to them, and it also makes me see that you have no feelings for me in the first place, and it also makes me think that I am right to ask for a divorce from you. I'm not wrong, and neither are they, and your performance shows that you are a merciless person. ”

Jin Junchun snorted contemptuously: "Am I unkind? That's what they forced out. Don't forget, you filed a lawsuit for divorce in court, and now you say that I am unkind? The other way around, it's mine, isn't it? Didn't your indictment clearly state that our relationship as husband and wife had completely broken down? Didn't you propose to divorce me? Didn't you say that I didn't do my duty as a husband? Don't you feel that they treat me like a dog? Why don't you say a word of justice for me? If you want me to respect them unprincipledly, shouldn't I have a minimum of dignity? Am I the one who can be insulted whenever and wherever they want? ”

Jin Xiuyu's tears flowed down from her eyes again, and her tear-filled face was full of sadness: "You may never understand my feelings, this is the fundamental reason why we can't communicate and communicate with each other." I used to be an outcast, why did my biological parents abandon me, maybe I will never have the opportunity to know in my life. What I do know is that they took me back from the side of the road and gave me a complete home, and they didn't have their own children, so I became their own children. At the beginning, their economic conditions were not good, their adoptive father was laid off, and their adoptive mother was also unemployed after being disabled by a work-related injury, and it was in such a difficult situation that they were reluctant to eat, but they were willing to give me the best food, and they were not willing to wear it, but they were willing to wear the best clothes for me. Growing up, they never made me feel a little wronged. It wasn't until I was an adult that they told me the truth about my identity. If they hadn't said it, I wouldn't have thought that I had ever been an outcast, because I had never experienced the feeling of being abandoned under their care. ”

Jin Xiuyu looked at Jin Junchun, who seemed indifferent: "You also know that sentence, people are not plants and trees, how can they be ruthless?" Shouldn't I repay them for their nurturing kindness? To err is human? They are also mortals in life, can't you stand their nagging? Can't you bear their reproach? In front of my parents, who have raised me for decades, what choice do you want me to make? You want me to abandon my parents? Do you listen to those opinions? It has only been a few years since you and I fell in love and got married, do you think I should abandon my loving parents and choose this relationship with you? It's impossible, I'll never do it! No matter how you feel for me, with or without affection, in front of my kind parents, I have no choice but to obey whatever they want, whether you accept it or not, I will make this choice, and this is the only choice I can make. You may never understand my choice. Because you don't have the same mental journey as mine, and you don't have the personal feelings I have, after listening to what you just said, I no longer expect your understanding. ”

Listening to Jin Xiuyu's tearful words, Jin Junchun said weakly: "I didn't deny their kindness to you, and I also admitted the fact that they were so kind to you, and I didn't let you betray them." But you have the right to love, and they can't use that as a reason to deprive you of the right to pursue happiness. I think they are morally kidnapping you, and this is also a trap they designed for me! ”

(Next Notice: Chapter 68 - Ways to Cooperate in Marriage)