Dongfang Siyi understood the story that happened to Chen Wandao, and his love was not just a story of a man and a woman, but a story that permeated two generations of men and women.

In his life, because of the huge traction of Master Zheng Dali, he is like a vehicle running on a track, and unless a major disaster occurs, he cannot have another accident that derails his operation. In his heart, he can only choose to love and not to love, and has no right to choose hate. It can be said that it was the master Zheng Dali who made his life and shaped his tolerant character.

A gentle knock on the door interrupted Dongfang Siyi's musings, first two gentle consecutive taps, then three intermittent tactile taps, and then three successive taps. Dongfang Siyi was already familiar with this kind of personalized knocking on the door, and he could hear that there was a kind of sluggishness and hesitation, a kind of helplessness and confusion, and a kind of persistence and stubbornness in this voice.

"Please come in." Dongfang Siyi knew that it must be Zhao Ermei outside the door, and she was the only one who would knock on the door with both moderation and expectation.

Zhao Ermei is different from some parties, she does everything possible to ask you to listen to her about her demands, but she will not beg you for something. Zhao Ermei always has a sense of deliberately protecting herself, and she needs to retain and protect her little remaining decency and dignity.

"President Dongfang, I didn't bother you." Zhao Ermei gently pushed open the door of the office and stood at the door and asked. Although she and Dongfang Siyi have had more than a dozen long conversations, and she and Dongfang Siyi have become old acquaintances in a sense, she will still maintain this kind of polite greeting, and will not be rude, she needs to use her respect for others to get the same respect from the other party.

Dongfang Siyi glanced up at her, smiled and said, "No, please come in." ”

"President Dongfang, I'm here to withdraw the lawsuit." After Zhao Ermei sat down opposite Dongfang Siyi, she was silent for a while, and finally said her decision.

"Dismissal?" Dongfang Siyi was a little surprised, he knew that Zhao Ermei had specially bought a few law books in order to recover child support, studied some legal knowledge by herself, and went to the law firm many times to consult different lawyers. She believes that she has raised her daughter with He Xiangdong alone for many years, and He Xiangdong should be compensated for the additional child support she bears.

In order to try to file the case as soon as possible, she also had several heated arguments with the reception staff of the case filing court. Xiao Wang, the clerk of the case filing court, asked her to supplement a few pieces of evidence, she thought that this was deliberately making things difficult for herself, and had a big quarrel with the clerk Xiao Wang, which is also what the clerk Xiao Wang always thought Zhao Ermei was unreasonable.

From the beginning of the filing of the case, Zhao Ermei can be said to have exhausted her mind for this case, showing a mood of not giving up until she reaches her goal. No one would believe that before the official trial, she took the initiative to give up the claims that she had repeated to the judge many times, and wanted to withdraw the indictment.

From a legal point of view, the default of child support cannot simply be recognized as a creditor-debtor relationship. The purpose and value of child support is to ensure the growth of minor children. When the child reaches adulthood, the legal rights embodied in child support no longer exist, regardless of whether the child has the ability to live independently. In other words, the child has lost the right to claim maintenance after reaching adulthood.

In terms of the rights and obligations stipulated in the Marriage Law, both husband and wife have the obligation to support their children in the legal sense. Therefore, although the adult child no longer has the right to claim child support, the former spouse who has paid child support not only assumes his own obligations but also bears the obligation of the other party to pay child support when the child grows up. Therefore, one of the former spouses still has the right to demand the return of the additional maintenance expenses borne by the other spouse. Because of this situation, Zhao Ermei sued her ex-husband He Xiangdong to return the child support she should bear, and after review, the case was finally filed.

Dongfang Siyi once asked Zhao Ermei: "Since you think He Xiangdong should bear part of the child support, why don't you ask the child himself when your daughter is in middle school?" That's a legitimate thing that doesn't have any controversy, and it's something that can definitely be upheld by the courts. ”

He Siyan, the daughter born to Zhao Ermei and He Xiangdong, is an adult and is already studying in college. As an adult child who has completed high school, she can no longer sue her biological father, He Xiangdong, for child support.

Zhao Ermei thought from another angle: "It can be said that this is not a dispensable amount of money, but a large amount." Raising my daughter is not only a lot of money, but also the hard work of me, a mother. Still, I don't want my daughter to go to court and confront her biological father for this money when she is still a minor. ”

Zhao Ermei once repeatedly explained to Dongfang Siyi: "I don't think she should bear the emotional hurt caused by this, and I still want to try my best to maintain the little family affection that the man who does not fulfill his obligations can leave to his daughter." That's why I'd rather not have that money than let my daughter go into court. However, I can't just let go of this kind of man who has no sense of responsibility, so I insist on suing him and seeking justice from him. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at Zhao Ermei suspiciously: "You really want to withdraw the prosecution?" Did I hear me right? Have you decided, are you sure you want to withdraw the indictment? He Xiangdong no longer seeks to recover the part of child support that should be borne by him? Did you really figure it out? Whether you insist on the lawsuit or withdraw the lawsuit, I will respect your decision, and I will be even happier that you have let go of some of your past concerns. ”

Zhao Ermei nodded affirmatively: "Thank you, President Dongfang, you have made me truly understand what tolerance is, what understanding is, what is personal rights, what is the helplessness of the times, and what are the values that I should adhere to." Thank you, this is a truly valuable gain in the course of my lawsuit. If I want to start a new life, I have to choose to let go. Let go of the baggage of the past, let go of the grievances of the past, and let go of the obsessions of the past. ”

A rare smile appeared on Zhao Ermei's face: "If I say that the first half of my life was unconsciously involved in the trend of an era, and finally abandoned on the beach by the times. In the second half of my life, I should be looking for a farm of my own, which can be a small shop or a stall. ”

There was a hint of bitterness in Zhao Ermei's smile: "I have also set up a stall before, and several of my sisters in the past are still insisting on setting up a stall, and they live by setting up a stall, and they are all very happy." I don't need to rely on others, I want to regain myself, my self-esteem and self-confidence as a woman. This is the most important thing for me in the second half of my life. I don't need to run forward with the times anymore, I can't keep up with it, I think I just need to be a free self from my true heart. ”

Zhao Ermei's eyes finally had a kind of confidence, no longer empty and confused, and there was a long-lost heartfelt smile on her face. Dongfang Siyi felt that Zhao Ermei in front of her seemed to be a different person, and her vitality returned to her, and she was no longer the sister-in-law Xianglin that people joked about behind her back.

Zhao Ermei habitually sighed: "Originally, I didn't want to fight this lawsuit with He Xiangdong, and I didn't have any contact with him more than ten years ago. It's just that I am always panicked by some things in my heart, and sometimes I feel out of breath, so I think, why should I shoulder the responsibility that should be borne by two people alone? I have to get justice. I'm not for the money, it's for my children, and it's not for people who have nothing to do with me. It's not like there's anything to suffer or not to suffer, it's the same if you care, it's the same if you don't care, these don't matter anymore. ”

Zhao Ermei figured out a lot of things: "The reason why I want to fight this lawsuit is not only because I am angry in my heart, but also because I can't figure out why these men I meet have no conscience." They are not willing to fulfill their obligations, and they sell well when they get cheap, and they go around saying that mine is not, and they push their responsibilities away. I don't want to be a resentful woman, but they have become a resentful man. Since I can't tell them this, I think I'll have to find a place to talk about it, right? You can't carry the black pot for a lifetime, right? That's why I'm determined to fight these lawsuits with them. For these things, I have come to trouble you and disturb you again and again. I know that sometimes, I will confide in you out of control about my grievances, interfering with your normal work, and now that I think about it, I really can't help it. ”

Dongfang Siyi knew that the resentment in Zhao Ermei's heart was all directed at her ex-husbands.

Two years after Zhao Ermei and Yao Dabao divorced, they fell in love with He Xiangdong, the deputy director of the same factory, due to work contact, and soon decided to get married. Because both of them are married for the second time, they are very calm and rational, and the two parties have verbally agreed on some solutions to some problems before marriage.

In particular, in the case of children, the parties agreed that the issue of their respective children before marriage should be resolved by their own means. When one party is in difficulty with the other party, the party with the conditions can take the initiative to help. If there is no condition to provide assistance, the other party cannot use this as a reason to make other claims. Children born after remarriage are jointly borne by both parties, and neither party can discriminate against the remarried children for any reason, such as living conditions.

When Zhao Ermei talked about the original verbal agreement between her and He Xiangdong, she explained to herself: "Actually, I thought at the time that if one day, I divorced He Xiangdong again, he could not discriminate against me and the children born after his marriage, and he should be the same as his other legitimate children." To put it bluntly, it is to ask He Xiangdong to try his best to find a way for our married children to settle in his hometown of S City. ”

(Next Notice: Chapter 131: The Life of the Selfish)