In the world, things that are decided on the spur of the moment can be born at any time. From food, clothing, housing and transportation, to building a social society, decisive moves, and so on. If you want to get dressed, you have to shop around; If you want to achieve economic take-off, you must seize business opportunities. All this needs to be good at summarizing and judging. All sorts of schemes were born. Plans are born in practice, and will also act on practice, and will be perfected day by day through the test of practice.

□ drowns the one who knows the water and kills the one who has a strong mouth

You can't be too stubborn, too rigid, too rigid, and you can't go too far. Can advance and retreat, can bend and stretch, when forbearance is forbearance, there is the advantage of maneuver.

Some people believe that exposing their shortcomings and mistakes, or openly admitting their shortcomings and mistakes in front of others, is detrimental to their dignity, their identity, and their prestige. Therefore, they hide their illnesses and avoid medical treatment, cover up their mistakes, and even deny their mistakes when others point out their mistakes or criticize them, and even react with revenge against those who criticize them. The result is that mistakes are added to mistakes, and the trust is broken by others, and there is no face in front of others. Many of the negative interactions in life are related to this psychological relationship that disguises mistakes.

It is very sad that some people know that they are wrong, but they are unwilling to take the initiative to admit it, and some even have to argue for themselves, so that the contradictions cannot be resolved, the estrangement between them cannot be eliminated, and the friendship between them cannot be talked about.

People are smart, and there are always times when they are not thoughtful, and sometimes combined with the influence of emotional and physical conditions, they will inevitably make mistakes - miscalculations, misjudgments, and wrong decisions.

When people make mistakes, there are generally two reactions, one is to die and not admit their mistakes, and try their best to defend them, which is understandable, because this is people's instinct to survive, and they can't keep their jobs if they admit their mistakes; Another response is to confess your mistake.

The advantage of the first approach is that you don't have to bear the consequences of the mistake, and even if you do, you will be distracted by dragging other people into the water, which is why some people have evidence in front of them, but they still don't admit their mistakes. In addition, if you can hide from it, you can also avoid suspicion of others' image and ability. However, not admitting one's mistakes is not the best policy, because the disadvantages of not admitting one's mistakes are far greater than the benefits.

If you make a big mistake, then this mistake will be known to everyone, and your sophistry is just "there is no silver three hundred taels here", which makes people disgusted with you. If the evidence of the mistake you have made is conclusive, and you can't escape the responsibility despite your first-class quibbling, then why bother to quibble? If you only make a small mistake, and use quibbles in exchange for other people's dislike of you, it will not be worth it.

Be honest and admit your mistakes, and bad things can become good things.

Regardless of the responsibility for making mistakes, not admitting mistakes and quibbling is very destructive to your own image, because no matter how eloquent you are or how cunning you are, your evasion of mistakes will inevitably be exchanged for comments such as "dare not do it" and "not take responsibility". After that, others dare not trust you, and even "fear" you for three points, and even because you are afraid that one day you will make a mistake again and push the responsibility away, so they boycott you and refuse to cooperate with you. And most importantly, mistakes that you dare not take become a habit and deprive yourself of the opportunity to face them, solve them, and develop their problem-solving skills. Therefore, not admitting mistakes can do more harm than good.

What about honest confession?

You will say, if you admit your mistakes honestly, isn't that an immediate price to pay and swallow the bitter fruit alone? Sometimes when you encounter a boss who is not responsible, it is true, but the vast majority of bosses will "raise your noble hand" - everyone admits that they are wrong, what else? And psychologically, if you admit your mistakes, it has clearly marked the level of your boss and your position, and your boss is respected, no matter what, you have to bear part of the responsibility for you; What's more, if you make a mistake, he also has the responsibility of "poor supervision", so in reality, the consequences of admitting mistakes are not as serious as imagined.

There are also indirect benefits to being honest about mistakes, such as:

(1) For themselves to create a "good man to do good things" image, no matter the leadership colleagues will appreciate and accept your actions, because you take the responsibility down, will not blame them, they feel at ease, naturally respect you, but also willing to cooperate with you, more willing to spread your image for you, this is your priceless asset.

(2) You can use this to hone your courage to face mistakes and your ability to solve them, because you can't do things without shortcomings all your life, and cultivating this ability as soon as possible will be of great benefit to your future.

(3) If your confession of mistakes really attracts the scolding of others, then it can shape your image of the weak, the weak is often sympathetic, but also can attract help, you will gain a lot of people's hearts. And most people can't bear to scold people, even if they want to punish you, they won't be too heavy, people are the same, and they are the same.

□ "weak" are invincible

In order to win in business and competition, of course, you can't show weakness. However, deliberately showing weakness under certain circumstances is a kung fu that must be practiced by practitioners of thick blackness.

Showing weakness can reduce or even eliminate resentment or jealousy. Successful people in their careers, lucky people in life, and being envied by others objectively exists. Until this social psychology cannot be eliminated for the time being, its negative effects can be minimized by appropriate manifestations of weakness.

Showing weakness can help people who are not as good as themselves to maintain psychological balance, and it is conducive to uniting the people around them.

Showing weakness can show a person's style of seeking truth from facts, and objectively encourage the proactive.

In order for the display of weakness to have a positive effect, it is necessary to be good at selecting the content of the weakness. In front of people with high status, people with high status may wish to show that they are not highly educated, have limited experience, lack of knowledge and ability, and have had all kinds of twists and turns and embarrassing experiences, showing that they are really an ordinary person. Successful people should talk more about their failure records and practical troubles in front of others, giving people the feeling that "success is not easy" and "everything is not all right". For those who are not as good as themselves at the moment, they can appropriately complain about their own suffering: such as poor health, poor children's studies, and many difficulties at work, so that the other party feels that "he also has a difficult scripture to read". It is better for certain people who have a skill in the profession to declare that they know nothing about other fields, and reveal how they have made jokes and been embarrassed in their daily lives. As for those who have gained fame and fortune completely because of objective conditions or chances, they should bluntly admit that they are "blind cats and dead mice".

Showing weakness can be a heart-to-heart conversation or humorous self-deprecation during individual contact, or it can be a public opinion, deliberately using one's own shortcomings to set off others' strengths.

Weakness is sometimes manifested in action. He has been in a good position in his career and has achieved a certain degree of success. In the small aspect, even if you are completely qualified to compete with others, you should try to avoid giving in. In other words, outside of the career, you should be less alienated from small names and small profits. Because your success has become the target of some people's envy, you should no longer burn yourself for a little fame and fortune, and you should give a part of your fame and fortune to those who are temporarily weak.

Showing weakness is an effective means for the strong to be emotionally considerate of the weak who are temporarily at a disadvantage in some aspects, which can make the weak around you have some comfort, psychological balance, and reduce or offset the negative factors that may arise on your way forward. The strong in their careers know how to show weakness.