I'm sorry that the update time is getting late these days.

I told you before that during the day, you have to take your child to the institution to intervene, and you only have time to code words at night.

It may be that I have been with him for a long time recently, so Doudou has been particularly sticky to me during this time. Always running to my dad and shouting non-stop, and then playing a game of chair grabbing with me.

He likes to imitate people, watching me sit on a chair and code words, he will also follow along, using his fingers to press randomly on my keyboard, resulting in my writing state is always interrupted, the efficiency is very low and low, until he falls asleep to have time to code words, as a result, the time of the day is dragging on later and later. (laughs and cries)

Let's talk about the situation of Doudou!

Doudou's progress in the past month is still quite large, his emotional control is good, he cries less and talks more.

When I took him to the intervention class to take the subway before, he was very scared, he had to be hugged on the way to the subway station, and he had to cover his ears after taking the subway, and he was very afraid of the sound of the subway when it was running.

When he got off the subway station, he had to be hugged, and he cried all the time when he arrived at the intervention institution, and his parents had to sit in the classroom to accompany him, otherwise he was very insecure, and basically had to look back to see where his parents were after playing for a few minutes.

The first time we went, we weren't inside, he cried and wanted to go out to find us, but the doorknob of the institution was very high, and he couldn't reach it, so he stood at the door and cried for a long time, no matter how the teacher inside coaxed, he couldn't coax it.

Later, when I went in with his mother, he cried tears in his eyes, took us by the hand and kept shouting, "Go home, go home!"

The shouting makes people feel very uncomfortable, both guilty and self-blamed.

Since then, we've kept a person in the classroom so that he can feel safe.

Fortunately, it slowly got better, and if there was no one in the classroom during this time, he could also get along alone with the teachers of the institution.

And now he is willing to leave when he takes the subway, but sometimes he may still be afraid of the security gates and turnstiles of the subway.

In the past, Doudou was a very, very picky eater, and every time he ate something was a big problem, he didn't stick to rice, he didn't eat green vegetables, and he ate heavy foods, such as sour cowpeas, cold vegetables, mustard and other foods in hot dry noodles.

And the snacks are very picky, a lot of snacks don't look at it, every day before going to bed at noon, you have to reward a candy, and then it becomes 2, and then it becomes 3, you don't give it, you cry, you cry all the time.

During that time, he lost weight very quickly, because he lived almost on snacks every day.

During this time, I spent time with his mother and slowly corrected his eating habits.

At first, the food was stained with a little bit of rice, and when he was not looking, it was stuffed into his mouth, and if he was discovered, he would still spit it out.

Later, he slowly ate more, and although he still refused to feed the rice directly, if there was a dish he liked in a small spoonful of rice, he could eat the dish with the rice.

And snacks have basically been quit, and the bad habit of having to eat snacks during the lunch break has been changed.

There is still a problem with delayed gratification, he can't wait, and if he doesn't give him what he wants at the first time, he will be anxious and cry.

We are slowly adjusting to this and learning with the teachers of the institution.

Overall, the improvement in this month is not small, and the extra time and energy that parents spend with their children, coupled with the intervention of institutions, is indeed effective.

The main difficulties now lie in two areas:

First, you can't find a suitable playmate.

My aunt's family came to visit us from Yichang on weekends, and Doudou didn't play with my cousin's children at first.

But when he sees older children playing with things, he will also become interested and imitate them.

And I found that he likes to be crowded and lively.

In a crowded environment, he will be happy and learn things quickly.

When I met my aunt for the first time, I taught him to call my aunt and grandma, and he immediately remembered that the next day he would run over and call my aunt with a smile on his face, which had never happened before.

This proves that he still needs to interact more with people and play with other children.

But the children in our community who are about the same age as Doudou basically go to kindergarten, and the parents of those children are not willing to play with him, he ignores people, does not look at people, and there is a possibility of hurting people, and it is normal for the parents of the other party to have this concern.

The second is that the economic pressure is a bit big, and we signed up for the intervention course of the institution for 3 months, spending more than 48,000, with an average of 16,000 a month.

We are now renting a house, and the loan for the wedding house we bought when we got married is still being repaid, and the monthly mortgage rent plus the cost of Doudou's treatment, plus miscellaneous expenses, add up to more than 20,000, and the pressure is really not small.

After his mother resigned, I was the only source of income for the family, but the income from writing books was extremely unstable, which made me a little anxious.

Fortunately, I made a little money in the outstation in the past few years, and at the current consumption rate, I can probably last until about April next year.

When the time comes, you have to consider selling the house, this house has been on the market for 17 years, and now it has fallen sharply, and if you don't live in it for a day, you will lose more than 100,000 yuan......

I don't know if I can sell it......

I hope Doudou can get better soon!