She was on a business trip, but I felt very uncomfortable and had a very awkward feeling.

And it came to pass that on the evening of the 21st she told me that she had to go on a business trip, and I said I'll send you, and she said she'll talk about it then. On the night of the 22nd, we also talked until we took a shower and went to bed. Yesterday morning on the 23rd, I wanted to say hello to her and say good morning, and found that she sent a circle of friends on the plane half an hour ago, and I couldn't get in touch for 5 hours. At 12:57 she replied, and it was decided to make a decision, let me hurry up. I said, I'm out there, take care of myself, I'm very worried about you. She replied uh-huh.

At 4:20 p.m., I asked if things were going well, and she said it hadn't arrived yet, and she sent a photo. At 6:40, I asked if I had eaten, she sent a photo of entering the highway intersection of Alashankou City, I said that I hadn't arrived yet, had you eaten something on the way, I was hungry, it was too hard, and my heart didn't hurt. Her reply was almost there, and I said I was concerned about you. Then I waited for her to reply, waited and fell asleep, woke up at 11:20, and saw that she posted a circle of friends at half past nine, hoping that everything would go well or something. I felt a little uncomfortable, left a message for her, waited all night and waited for your letter, have a good rest, although you don't have me in your heart, but I still miss you.

Judging from this incident, I feel that she has no me in her heart at all. She was at the airport at 8 o'clock in the morning, and she must have gone out at 6 o'clock, and it was decided that it was the night before, and it was impossible to make a sudden decision in the morning, and I never heard her mention it all night. I left early the next morning, and I didn't see her say to me alone, but I saw it through her circle of friends. I didn't tell me when I arrived at my destination in the evening.

Sometimes I feel that I am a little demonic, too sensitive, but I always can't control myself and will think blindly. This incident can at least show that there is indeed no me in people's hearts now, and the relationship between me and her is in the stage of undetermined relationship, whether it can be regarded as an ambiguous stage, I am not sure now. I don't want to do this, let it be, just think about it yourself, I won't mention this to her, it's all over, what's the use of mentioning this. If you really mention it, people will be annoyed, and I will give you a sentence, who are you, why, I will directly scare you back. It was once thought that we were moving towards a good outcome, but now it seems that the future has been clouded again. But do good deeds, don't ask about the future. Just do your own thing, and it is enough to be worthy of your heart.

On the morning of February 24, she wrote back, saying that she had fallen asleep at night. I suddenly felt that I was a little too sensitive and suspicious, she was tired, I took a 5-hour plane, and I took a day in the car, and I was tired of traveling, and I arrived at the destination at night, and I was already tired.

Last night, I read a book, "Good Love, Have the Confidence to Dare to Want" written by Zhang Defen, and read the chapter "Healing Intimate Relationships", and I felt very enlightened. She wrote, "If you ask me what the biggest secret of intimacy is, all I can say is that apart from the fact that fate is a big factor, the rest is to grit your teeth and stick to it so that you end up with a decent intimacy."

"One of the most important reasons why intimacy has become a problem in our lives is attachment, that is, being very attached to feelings and willing to live and die for love. A person who is obsessed will have a bumpy road to feelings, because he attaches too much importance to love, so in an intimate relationship, he has no way to turn a blind eye to the other half, and will require two people to have a very close relationship. In this case, the friction between the two parties will usually be relatively large, but those who are not very close "gentlemen's friends" type of relationships will have some room for turnaround, and when the intimate relationship encounters conflict, both parties can calm down, mend and recover. Emotional people, whether men or women, can easily take intimacy too seriously, take a magnifying glass to look at each other, to see how two people get along, so that even if there is no problem with intimacy, it will be seen as a problem." When you don't pay so much attention to the other person, and you no longer use the relationship between the other person and you to brush the sense of existence and achievement, you won't pick on the other person. The reason why we have a hard time getting along is because we care too much.

There will be problems in intimate relationships, except that you are destined to go through such difficulties, and meet this person to give you some hardships and be able to learn some lessons, that is, you value the other person too much, and you attach too much importance to feelings. If you can put more of your focus on work, career, joy of life, hobbies, and other family and friends, then your life will be balanced, and your intimate relationships will not carry too much weight and pressure, and it will be easier to maintain.

Why is intimacy so hard to maintain? Because the world is our inner projection, and the other person is our magnifying glass. The reason why there are so many problems in intimate relationships is because the two parties are too close, there is no distance, and they lose the respect they deserve. Seeing that the other party behaves a lot of things that are not pleasing to the eye, but you fail to review yourself, in fact, you can see the other person's problems, and you may have the same problems yourself. Your partner is always lying, and you're upset when you know about it. At this time, you must know that if a person is not a liar, lying is more or less out of that natural habit of protecting himself. Why protect yourself? Because there is no sense of security. Therefore, this lover wants to teach you how to make her feel safe in front of you, to be able to give her a trust, and to make her willing to open her heart and tell you the truth without thinking about the consequences.