We need to learn to look at a person from multiple perspectives. People's thinking tends to be dichotomy, either good or bad, white or black. For example, a couple in love always presents their best side to each other, so they feel that each other is the most perfect person in the world. And when they live together after getting married, and the other party shows their imperfections, they will have the feeling of waking up from a big dream, as if the spouse who has been chosen by thousands of people is not the person they knew before, because he used to speak so beautifully and work diligently, but now they have changed. When you have this idea of denying the other person, remember that he was like this before, and always has been. It's just that when I first met you, he deliberately showed you the good side to win your favor, and now he just naturally shows the imperfect side.

This is what happens to most people. A friend who has just met, of course, will bring out the best in him. The peacock opens the screen, and when you look at it from the front, it feels very beautiful, but when you look at it from the back, it feels very ugly, which is a natural phenomenon. Therefore, when getting along with people, we must remember that there can be only advantages in people's personalities, there must be shortcomings, and a person's mind has some emotional changes in different time and space. If we can understand this, we will not only have a dichotomy, but will observe from multiple angles in a crystalline way, and have a more tolerant and objective view of others. When his bad emotions appear, you can think about his good side, think about how good he is when he says good things to you, and now he is just temporarily venting his emotions, and after the emotions will show the good side. Therefore, all that is needed is a short period of perseverance. If he shows the negative part of his personality and you confront him with your own negativity, it will only make the relationship worse because there is no good part left to give to each other.

We must learn to think from multiple perspectives on things in the world, whether it is at work, in our career, or in our community or religion. If you use less or no dichotomy, then you will live a happier life. When a relationship or friendship has problems, we should not dwell on the damage that has already been formed in order to let it develop, and it is imperative to think in a positive direction so that the troubles and unpleasantness will stop.

The process of creating karma is to form "troubles" from "causes", then through "attachment to troubles", and finally "suffering". It is this connection of dependent causes that we are constantly suffering from troubles and suffering. When the cause is planted, there will be results, and we are human beings, and it is impossible for us to be without emotions, and we will definitely plant the karmic causes. Even those of us who teach the Dharma also have shortcomings, not to mention you laymen? At the moment when the shortcomings are revealed, we have already allowed the seeds to be planted, so we must repent and not allow the unhealthy causes that have been planted to continue to grow and mature. So, when Buddhism talks about repentance, it means to repent of all these bad thoughts and actions that you have done.

We often compare ourselves to each other for fame, status, power, and wealth in the world. But as human beings, the saddest thing is that we don't compare ourselves with people who are down, miserable, and poor, but we always like to compare with people who are better than us. Of course, if we can compare ourselves with others with good motives in the moment of introspection, and have a reasonable expectation of ourselves, we call it diligence, which is the driving force for progress and success, and it is desirable. It is impossible to be happy if you compare yourself with others in a worldly, greedy, and unsatisfied state of mind, because the norm of comparison is always that the person compares his own shortage with the possession of others, so that there can only be suffering. Today, when I have a stomachache, lack of money, or lack of knowledge, I will compare myself with a rich person or a learned person who has no stomach pain today, and think that other people's good fortune is better than mine, and only I am the least lucky. But how do you know that the optimistic, cheerful, and happy person in front of you has only recently undergone major surgery? When we already have a house, we still compare it to people who have two houses. When we see the happiness of other people's families or the good grades of our children, we compare ourselves to them. At first, it was envy, and then if the ability was comparable to others, it would be very happy. However, if this pursuit and comparison continue endlessly, in the end, it will become resentment if it is not comparable to others. If we keep comparing ourselves to others, we will always be greedy and keep chasing fame and fortune in the world.

Now is the era of high-tech business, and the only place where everyone gathers is competition, so that the early mode of getting along with people is no longer there. Modern people need to cover up themselves for many things in the world, and what they present is a disguised and beautified illusion, and the true goodness of the inner part has been tightly covered and cannot be revealed.

Excessive self-protection leads to emotional detachment and unhappiness. Especially in big cities, even if they live across from each other, they may never talk to each other, but only nod and say hello when they meet, indicating that they know each other. When we got home, the door next door was probably closed; When we went out, the neighbor came back early. People don't have the opportunity to meet, and they don't want to try to get to know each other better, which becomes a habitual self-defense. Accustomed to self-preservation, everyone is outwardly armed and very strong, hiding a vulnerable and unknown side. This kind of concealment makes the most sincere communication channels between people gradually disappear, so that we cannot reveal our true feelings, and because our hearts are far apart, our feelings have become weaker and weaker.

Children feel that their parents are obliged to raise them when they are born, and how they will behave when they grow up is a personal matter and has nothing to do with their parents. This kind of thinking slowly ignores the intimate feelings that blood is thicker than water, and finally the relationship between them becomes more and more distant. If there is no common topic to communicate between parents and children, husband and wife, this sense of alienation continues to expand, and in the end, everyone has no close friends to share or share their inner thoughts—think about it, although you are in the midst of a lively crowd on the surface, how lonely and miserable you will be in the heart, how can you be happy?

In the scriptures, the Buddha often taught us that the amount of merit is determined not by the volume of the outward appearance, but by the strength of the inner mental capacity. So, once you learn to praise others and can share the good parts of your life with others, including all the joy, peace, happiness, etc., your heart will slowly unravel. For example, when parents learn to share with their children, parents and children will be able to communicate with each other, and each other will become very happy. This positive interaction mode is gradually expanding, a boss can share the feelings and gains of the soul with employees, employees can also open their hearts to have fun with colleagues and bosses, and the company will thrive in a harmonious atmosphere.

By cultivating our mindset in this way, we can extend our compassion to all beings in the six realms. Every sentient being in the six realms is like us, hoping for peace, no harm in mind and body, and happiness and happiness. If these blessings are what everyone wants, then we will dedicate our happiness, good fortune, and all our merits to sentient beings and share them with sentient beings.

As ordinary people, we will be more or less imperfect or unsatisfactory in our personality and psychology. Because our innate habit is the manifestation of karma accumulated over many lifetimes, the reason why we suffer in samsara is because of the ego. Therefore, under this effect, everyone will look at problems and deal with people from their own point of view. If we all look at the shortcomings of others according to our own will, then we are judging others under the influence of "self-grasping". In this way, people get along with each other, except for disharmony is contradiction, because no one is willing to compromise for their own "me", so it will be a stalemate. However, in reality, if we put ourselves and others in an impasse at every turn, there is no way for life to continue. Therefore, for a harmonious situation where you can also be happy, you should look at problems from multiple angles and get along with others with more empathy. Then many problems will be easily solved when the role of "me" is diluted.