When we discover the mistakes made by others, it is necessary for us, as the leaders, elders, or even colleagues, subordinates or juniors of the person who made the mistakes, to point out his mistakes and criticize his behavior, so as not to add mistakes to his mistakes. If a leader or elder criticizes his subordinates or juniors, this kind of criticism may be easy for the critics to accept, because the leaders and elders have the right to criticize them, if a person is criticized by colleagues, subordinates or juniors, it is difficult for people to accept, willing to accept praise and praise, unwilling to be criticized and trained, this is everyone's nature. When criticizing leaders and elders among colleagues, as well as subordinates and juniors, it is especially necessary to take into account the other party's face, and not let the other party fail to step down, so that they can not only accept the criticism, but also ensure that both parties are in a happy mood, so as to achieve the goal of making the critics happy and convinced. Even when leaders and elders criticize their subordinates and juniors, they should also give full consideration to their face, because criticism is not the goal, the purpose of criticism is to make them correct their mistakes.

In interpersonal communication, it is important to subtly criticize others and play a role in throwing bricks and stones. Napoleon paid great attention to this during his long military career. As the commander of the whole army, criticizing the mistakes of soldiers should be a frequent occurrence, but every time he criticizes soldiers, he is not arrogant and obedient because he is an invincible emperor and is criticized as a nobody, and he takes good care of the soldiers' face every time he criticizes, and the result is that the soldiers not only accept his criticism gladly, but also are full of love and gratitude for him, which greatly enhances the combat effectiveness and cohesion of his army, and becomes a strong force on the European continent.

During one of the battles for the conquest of Italy, the soldiers were hard. Napoleon patrolled the guard at night, and during the patrol, he found a sentry leaning against a tree and falling asleep. After about half an hour, the sentry woke up from his slumber and recognized that it was his own commander-in-chief who was guarding him, and was very frightened and desperate, fearing that Napoleon would deal with him martialally, so he quickly knelt down in front of him and begged Napoleon to forgive him for his dereliction of duty.

But Napoleon was not angry, but said to him kindly:

"Friend, this is your gun, you have fought hard and walked such a long way, it is forgivable for you to doze off, but at present, a moment of negligence may destroy the whole army. I just didn't get sleepy, so I stood for you for a while, so be careful next time! ”

It is well known that when a sentry sleeps on his post, he is to be punished by military discipline, but Napoleon did not do that to the sentry who had traveled long distances, was exhausted and occasionally derelict in his duties, but criticized the sentry from the point of view, which made the officers and soldiers support him from the heart, love him, and carry out his orders to the letter.

Napoleon's approach is worth learning from, and he did not let his soldiers get away with their mistakes. When criticizing the soldiers, he did not put himself on the role of a marshal, but criticized the mistakes made by the soldiers in a serious and gentle manner, so that the soldiers realized their mistakes in a relaxed atmosphere and were very grateful to the marshal for his tolerance, and it was inevitable to fight bravely on this basis. If Napoleon had reprimanded the soldier harshly, the soldier would probably have been full of complaints, and his criticism would have had little effect. It is precisely because Napoleon did not hurt the face of the soldiers when he criticized them that his criticism was particularly effective.

As the saying goes, "Everyone has a love for beauty." In fact, the love of face is also shared by everyone, no matter whether the person is respectful or humble, noble or cheap, there will be a kind of face-loving psychology to varying degrees. Being aware of this and applying it to your life will make many things easier to do. Criticizing others is just that.

Therefore, whether it is a top-down criticism or a bottom-up criticism, it is very necessary to fully consider the face of the person being criticized.

Throwing out a worthless "brick" can be exchanged for a priceless "jade", why not? Good at operators make good use of this way. To gain profit from righteousness, to sacrifice the small for the big, to win the reputation, then it will leave a good impression in the hearts of everyone, and finally obtain huge economic benefits. The key to "throwing bricks and attracting jade" is to be careful in calculating, if it can be calculated accurately, it can be described as a million profits, if it is not accurate, it may be lost.