Leaders are also mortal, and there are also changes in mood, good and bad. For example, I had an argument with my wife last night; or just learned from the phone that his son's math test turned on the "red light" again; or the original ordering unit suddenly cancels the order; or have just been criticized by their boss; Or nothing, just depressed, inexplicably in a bad mood.

When a leader is in this state of mind, it is easy for subordinates to act impulsively and scold others when they do something wrong or criticize subordinates with a bad attitude. Often in a state of anger, he says a lot of things that should not be said, and regrets it afterwards.

It is not easy to ask someone for forgiveness. People always want others to treat themselves with the virtue of tolerance, but they often refuse to truly forgive others for their mistakes. Even if you say forgiveness, you still think in your heart: "This guy, scolding me for scolding me so ugly, is it so easy for you to ask me to forgive when you are angry?" "Sometimes I want to forgive the other person, but subconsciously I still haunt it. When the right time comes, disgust will come back to my heart. Therefore, leaders should be especially vigilant when they are in trouble or in a bad mood, and do not lose their temper at will, because the results of tantrums are often out of control.

How can leaders effectively control themselves and not lose their temper when they are in a bad mood? In addition to strengthening the strength of the will, there are several ways that can also work:

For the time being, treat all the people around you as crops (without disrespecting people). Anger is all caused by people, and if someone dislikes you, his face and even his mustache will make you very disgusted. So you might as well treat the other person as an object; What is there to be angry about a table, a chair, or a machine? This will allow you to have a buffer before losing your temper and look at the problem with a more objective and fair standard.

Take a deep breath to soothe the uprushing blood. Command yourself to relax, take a deep breath, and slowly exhale. Then say, "I'm not angry." I'm in a peaceful mood. (Voices must be spoken!) Repeating this several times will surely relieve the anger in the chest, or even completely relieve it.

Movement transfer method. You might as well take a few hours off to go for a run or play ball or swim, anything goes. You have to sweat profusely, then take a hot shower, change into clean, loose clothes, and preferably go to the hair salon to get your hair done. Then you will definitely feel less depressed.

When you're in a bad mood, remember not to smoke a lot, drink a lot, or sleep with your head covered. The ancients have long said: "Borrowing wine to eliminate sorrow is more sorrowful". Both tobacco and alcohol have an anesthetic effect on the nerve center, and after anesthesia, self-control is worse. The so-called "drunken spit out the truth", drunken madness, drunken confusion, all mean this. Poor self-control makes it natural to lose your temper. The same goes for sleeping. When I can't sleep, a thousand things come to my heart, and the more I think about it, the more annoyed I become. When you fall asleep, subconscious activity dominates again, and once you wake up, your mind is hazy, your self-control is at a low level, and you are very prone to tantrums. As the saying goes, "being head-struck" refers to this state.