"Kids, do you have a lot of question marks......

Zhang Lan just turned on the music, and his son Zhang Lekang, who was sitting next to him, was not happy after listening to a few words.

"Dad, I didn't disobey my mother, she didn't say anything, and she obviously said that she would accompany me and my sister to school today."

With her son's rebuttal, Zhang Lan saw that her daughter on the side also had the intention of opening her mouth to complain, and hurriedly said: "It turns out that my mother has promised you before, this is indeed my mother's fault, and when we go back today, we will reason with our mother." ”

Educating children is a hard and painstaking job, and after trying twice, Zhang Lan has given up explaining what happened today to the two children.

In the eyes of the children, the current problem is that Qin Yongjun repented after agreeing, and then his daughter didn't say anything about it for the time being, and the protest from his son's side was that I didn't go to school.

This kind of behavior of not going to school to protest against the parents' words is not enough, which shows that there is a problem with the education of Zhang Lan's two children.

Only when effective communication is not available for a long time, the child's first reaction when facing a problem is to threaten him with his own behavior.

This kind of behavior shows that children have no confidence in normal communication with their parents, which is a very serious matter.

The reason why Zhang Lan chose to take her children to school first was here, first to give them the requirements she had agreed to the children, and then to consider the matter of education.

Otherwise, if you don't go to school to educate your children, the final consequence is that the next time you encounter the same thing, it will be difficult to get real feedback.

If the development of two children is as good as that of their peers, they have done something wrong, and they can slowly correct it back after correcting it in time.

The problem now is that both children are very smart, and they can no longer be treated as children in this way of education.

For children, it is very important for parents to teach by example in the early stage, and some bad impressions should be tried not to be revealed in front of children.

Anyone who has spent time in kindergarten knows that you can tell what your child's home-schooling is like by looking at what he looks like.

Children are the ones who know how to read the eyes, even more carefully than adults.

It was the first time for Zhang Lan to come to the parent-child class, and the previous school activities were all attended by Qin Yongjun with her children, and Zhang Lan was a hands-off shopkeeper most of the time.

However, what is a little surprising is that Zhang Lan has always thought that there should be more female parents in such parent-child classes, but the phenomenon Zhang Lan saw today is that there is not much difference between the two.

In the free time of the game, when chatting, Zhang Lan asked the parents on the side, only to know that most of the children in the kindergarten rarely have parents who simply take their children at home.

The twin children of Zhang Lan's family made the other party's parents very envious, and the words of praise never stopped from the beginning to the end. The same Zhang Lan also praised his child a few words, how to say it, the eldest brother's child who chatted with Zhang Lan spoke and acted like a leader. In the man's words, he learned it all from his grandfather, and the two families are just such a baby bump, and grandpa is not used to grandpa.

Speaking of habitual children, the man sighed, shook his head and said: "Now all the children who play black faces have become parents, and it is impossible to relax a little." The elders on both sides of me often talk about the younger couple having two more children. ”

Zhang Lan didn't have any feelings about this, he had three children of his own, and the third child had just been born, and Qin Yongjun didn't say if he wanted it in the future.

As for spoiling children, Zhang Lan herself is much more pampered than Qin Yongjun, her son is a little better, as long as her daughter speaks here with Zhang Lan, as long as she can do it, Zhang Lan has not discounted her.

Raising a child is a thing that requires long-term investment, and this three-minute heat is the most important. Especially in the four or five years between the child just starting to speak and the age of seven or eight, basically what kind of outlook on life and values you have established for the child in the past few years, and the child will be like this for the rest of his life.

As for the subsequent adolescence or something, what rebellion and the like, it all depends on what foundation the child has laid in the past four or five years.

Those who rebelled against their parents during adolescence will know if they know anything about their childhood, and the impact they received in childhood is the impact of a lifetime.

What other prodigal sons do not change their money, and when they become adults, they can find the trajectory from their childhood life.

After the teachers and children have finished the exercises, and the school and parent representatives have finished their activity speeches, the parent-child activity class in the morning will be over. After the last lunch, Zhang Lan left the school.

As soon as she got out of school, Zhang Lan called Qin Yongjun and asked her to arrange her time and come back early in the afternoon to pick up the two children from school.

Speaking of what happened this morning, Qin Yongjun also realized his problem, and maybe Lu Qian had told her about it afterwards. Regarding Zhang Lan's proposal, Qin Yongjun is now at home, and she will talk about it after Zhang Lan goes back, just to talk about the child's future education.

On the sofa in the living room, Zhang Lan and Qin Yongjun sat together, and Lu Qian and another child education expert who was said to be temporarily invited by Qin Yongjun were giving lectures to the two of them.

The main thing is about the child's education, and for what happened today, Lu Qian thinks that it happened that Zhang Lan went home in time and did not have a deeper impact.

However, in the next time, she suggested that Qin Yongjun should pick up and drop off the children for a period of time and cultivate a relationship with the children.

The main problem of Qin Yongjun and Zhang Lan is that they are often away from home and have not been able to accompany their children all the time.

The current situation is fine, but if it is not corrected in time, after a long time, due to the existence of Lu Qian and others, the first person trusted by the child may change objects in the future.

The world of children is very simple, and whoever accompanies them longer and can better satisfy their emotional value will be closest to them.

Zhang Lan is a little better, the image of the father is generally not easy to change in the hearts of children, but the perspective of the mother is different.

Lu Qian and another education expert's words are mainly aimed at Qin Yongjun, due to national conditions, if Zhang Lan's children grow up according to the current environment, the biggest possibility is to fall out with Qin Yongjun first.

Because since the beginning of the child, Qin Yongjun's role has been absent. The existence of nannies and confinement sisters, if Qin Yongjun can't make changes in time, the consequence is that when the children's feelings with Zhang Lan are the deepest, their feelings for their mothers will also change.

Whether it is a strict father and a loving mother, or a strict mother and a loving father. The stern character will naturally suffer the most incomprehension from the children at the beginning. If the role of the person in charge of compassion is also absent at this time, the child's psychological growth will be problematic.

Hearing this, Qin Yongjun turned his head and said to Zhang Lan, "What do you think?" ”

(End of chapter)