In fact, in Zhang Lan's view, there is only one core problem in this kind of thing, which depends on whether there is enough money.

As for the example of Zhang Lan's mother and the supermarket aunt discussing it hotly now, to put it bluntly, modern society is different from before.

In the past, you recruited a son-in-law, and the son-in-law did not agree to have someone from the clan help you suppress. Now, everything is about the law, and at this time, it is better to take money if you use big reasons to oppress people.

recruited a son-in-law, and the daughter-in-law hid her from letting the child take the man's surname. That's right, you did it right. Now that the test tube technology is so developed, under normal circumstances, unless you are too old, there is always a way to have children if you pay for it.

Nowadays, there are more only children, and there are not a few only children who marry in both aspects, at this time, with the father's surname or the mother's surname, according to traditional customs, it is with the father's surname, and the vast majority of people in the real society also do this.

There are also those who have two children, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname, and there are no hard and fast rules in the relevant laws, and the surname can be anything, it is up to the parents to decide for themselves.

Some of the woman's parents are businessmen, and they care about this face issue, which is understandable, and some also care about the distance from them and the number of times they visit them during the New Year, which is human nature, and it is calculated to the bones.

Now in the economically developed coastal areas, I have heard that some parents who have only one daughter hope to have their own descendants to inherit their own family business and bloodline.

With this surname symbol, it is more energetic, so it gave birth to the so-called "two-headed marriage", the marriage implements the AA system, the man does not pay the bride price and the woman does not pay the dowry, and both men and women do happy events at home when they get married. After getting married, if you live on both sides, you need a house, car, etc., and you need to buy it together! Jointly support the parents of both parties' families, etc. The biggest and most obvious feature is the birth of two children after marriage, one with the man's surname and the other with the woman's surname.

In Zhang Lan's view, this kind of two-headed marriage is actually more suitable than recruitment, and the marriage of the supermarket aunt's daughter Yunyun, rather than asking for this and worrying about that, at the beginning, it shows that the two-headed marriage may be able to find a more suitable one.

At the very least, in this form of marriage, such as buying a house, buying a car, etc., it is purchased by both parties. It avoids the phenomenon of the traditional way of being funded by the man alone, which leads to the huge financial pressure on the man.

In this way, when there is a daily quarrel in the later stage, the man will not cause more conflicts because of his unbalanced heart.

There is also this kind of condition, because it was stated at the beginning that there should be no dowry and no dowry, and the issue of children is attached to this condition, so that the parents of both parties can sit down and talk, and after negotiation, it will not affect the relationship between the husband and wife and the harmony of the families of both parties when talking about this matter after marriage.

But there are also some hidden problems in this, the main one is that the family that can propose this method is generally more or less patriarchal.

According to the custom of two-headed marriage, one child takes the father's surname and the other child takes the mother's surname. But what if the first child is a girl and the second child is a boy?

The traditional thinking that the man wants the boy to be able to carry on the lineage, but the girl cannot, this is the most obvious reaction of the idea of succession in the marriage of two heads. If the boy takes his mother's surname, then in the man's heart, there may be a conflict.

There is also the impact of the reactions of the parents of the two parties on the children, and you don't need to think about it to know that the elderly of the two parties will definitely unconsciously prefer children with the same surname as themselves.

If the family background of both parties is similar, it is fine, but if the economic gap between the two parties is relatively large, it is easy to cause conflicts among the children.

For the same two children, when the economic gap is relatively large, some families will have a child who will grow up and the RV old man will be ready, and there is no need to worry about getting married and having children step by step.

Compared to another child, he may have to do everything by himself. The same two brothers, one of whom didn't have to worry about anything, had everything ready for him at home. Everything requires your own hard work.

The reason is that when two people are born, their surnames are different, so they are treated differently. In this case, can you expect that the child will not complain?

Either way, in the end, it's up to the individual. Those who have three sons will not necessarily support you, and those who have only one daughter will take care of their parents for the rest of their lives.

Is marriage a business? Yes and no. In fact, the reason why everyone chooses another person is reciprocal.

If your conditions are there, who you can match is doomed. The same is true for two-headed marriage, without the inequality of "marrying" and "marrying" at the beginning, what eventually maintains the marriage becomes the synchronous growth of two people later, perhaps closer to the essence of love.

Because the so-called love can never escape the conditions, but the conditions are not necessarily money. Even if it is Qiong Yao's pen, a rich man is matched with a beautiful woman, and the eldest lady who is captivating the country falls in love with a poor boy, and that poor boy is also talented.

In the final analysis, marriage is a game of conditions. In fact, most of the families with two marriages are the original families, the women are strong and the men are weak, even if they are similar, the women will be slightly better.

If the woman's family does not have a certain strength, such a thing as a two-headed marriage cannot be said. However, the man's original family is poor, and if the individual is not good enough, he will not be able to look down on it first, and even if he gets married, he will be recruited.

But on the other hand, if it weren't for the throne to be inherited in the family, in the current era, it would be better to toss less or less.

struggled for the naming rights of the child, maybe in less than two years, the daughter and son-in-law will divorce directly, and when the time comes, the child will be directly brought to her parents' house, and she can have whatever she wants.

The chat between Zhang Lan's mother and the supermarket aunt Xiaoyu ended in a phone call, which was called by Aunt Zhang Lan. is talking about how Grandpa Zhang Lan beat his grandfather with a cane during the day, and at night, his grandfather's son and daughter found out about it.

Although Zhang Lan dealt with it in a timely manner and quickly treated the wound, Zhang Lan's mother specially instructed the aunt who was cooking at the winery to add food to this cousin in the evening.

The old man seemed to be fine, but the old man's son and daughter had not yet spoken, and the daughter-in-law was reluctant to do so.

kept saying that Zhang Lan's grandfather used crutches to beat people, and his head was broken and bleeding, so he bandaged it and finished it, not to mention going to the hospital to see it, she would not give up on this matter, and had already let Zhang Lan, the son of his cousin, drive over overnight.

Grandpa Tang's son couldn't stop anyone, so he quietly sent a WeChat message to Aunt Zhang Lan. He didn't have Zhang Lan's mother's WeChat, so he could only mention it to Aunt Zhang Lan, so that he could be mentally prepared.

After receiving the call, Zhang Lan's mother was very annoyed, and after saying a few words to the supermarket aunt, she broke up and asked Zhang Lan to drive her to the winery.

(End of chapter)