The Yu family is an old-school family. Yu Jun's father, Yu Jun, was a rare person in the Wei and Jin dynasties, and was a little pedantic. According to Yu Jun's expectations, his son Yu Jun should be a vicious and straightforward person. However, this son, who is less than seven feet long and has a waist circumference of ten inches, is a standard outlier who is an official and does not care about things, and is keen on banquets and salons. What's more interesting is that Yu Jun has lived a long life, Yu Jun is not a child who is a young orphan, his father is in charge of him! However, under his father's teaching that he should study hard, make progress every day, and contribute to the motherland and the people as a big official in the future, Yu Yu basically did not study. He once flipped through two or three pages of the popular "Zhuangzi" at that time, and after a few glances, he said curiously: "Hey, how can this person say the same as what I think?" "I don't read anymore: reading is just a waste of time to reorganize my thoughts!

So Yu Yu, who was not from a bad background and had a bit of personality, formed the "Four Youths of Beijing" with other idle teenagers in the capital at that time, these people were: Yu Yu, Wang Cheng, Wang Yan and Hu Wuyanguo. These people are famous for their exaggerated behavior: Wang Cheng listened to Wei Jue's conversation and continued to fall down, and his body fell to the ground; Wang Yan was excited to talk to people, waving his tail in his hand, and his feathers flew wildly; Hu Wuyanguo is a representative figure who took off his clothes, blowing the wind and drinking, and Yu Yu's living situation can be imagined.

Only if you are smart enough can you have the capital of debauchery, Yu Yu is smart, and he is very sincere to talented people: he once praised He Qiao, saying that He Qiao, like his uncle Xiahou Xuan, is a scarred plane tree—although it has small shortcomings, it must be a pillar. In the later period of the Eight Kings Rebellion, Yu Yu served as the secretary general in Sima Yue's camp, which was the first in the secretary group, and at that time he met Guo Xiang, who later became the grandmaster of the Zhuangzi research generation. Guo Xiang was not a high-ranking official at that time, but Yu Xiang praised his academic level and concluded that Guo Xiang could also sit in his Yu Xiang position.

It's a pity that Yu Yu's sanity is not the absolute leader of behavior. Many times, he knows and pretends not to know, and he still does his own thing. Wang Yan didn't particularly like him, he could only be polite and polite to him, but Yu Yan called Wang Yan a brother and sister, and he couldn't wait to invite Wang Yan to wear a pair of pants. Wang Yan couldn't help but say to him once, can you not be so enthusiastic? It's overwhelming. Yu Yi smiled and replied to him: "It's your business to be polite to me, and it's my business for me to call you a brother and a brother, I'm willing, what's the matter with you?" ”

Therefore, when Yu Yi also began to care about state affairs seriously, his relatives and friends were nervous: he was born in the troubled times of Emperor Hui and Emperor Huai, and saw the domestic warlords fighting and foreign ethnic minorities eyeing each other, Yu Yi wrote a poem "Yifu" to express his concern that the Jin Dynasty would be subverted by the chaos of ethnic minorities and warlords. Just like when Jia Yi was the prince of Changsha in the Han Dynasty, he saw an owl flying next to his seat, thinking that it was a bad omen, and his life was not long, and he wrote "Ostrich Fu".

His nephew Yu Liang was very worried about this uncle he liked very much: a person who was drunk and dreamed of death, regardless of it, suddenly showed concern for the country and the people, was it stimulated by something? Yu Liang is a smart child, and he asks his concerns in a Buddhist way: Is the text you write what you have in mind? If so, then what is written cannot fully express the meaning of the heart, if not, isn't it written in vain?

At that time, it was popular to say that "words cannot be satisfied". But Yu Liang actually just wants to ask, are you really as sad as you show in "Yifu"?

Yu Yu's seriousness flashed like this, and he returned to his usual hanging. When the country was about to be subverted, Xie Kun became serious, Wang Yan became serious, why was Yu Yu still so unserious? Why didn't his serious daddy break his legs? The secret lies in the fact that Yu Yu has a serious elder brother Yu Min, who bears his father's expectations for a good child, is humble and studious, strict with himself, and lenient with others. After Emperor Huai of Jin was captured by Liu Yuan, he was still loyal to his side, and finally lost his head because of an attempt to escape with Liu Kun.

As the third child, Yu Yu fully enjoyed more favor and less responsibility, and the task of ensuring that the family did not fall naturally fell on the eldest Yu Min, and his father's worries and hopes for the future of the family, his father's words and deeds, and the incarnation of whip belts also mostly fell on the eldest son's body. In Yu Min's body, there is basically no personal space, he is stuffed with the responsibilities of a large family, and he follows the rules in order to continue to keep the family on the list of nobles. Yu Min's self-sacrifice was exchanged for Yu Yu getting a ticket to the upper class salon and living freely.

The same thing happened to the Wei family. Wei Jue, who didn't want to be an official, had his brother Wei Qi inherit the title of his grandfather Wei Qian, honestly served as the emperor's secretary, and followed Emperor Huai to be a prisoner of Liu Cong. The responsibility of the eldest son, Wei Jue made it clear before Nandu, when he and Wei Qi said goodbye by the river, he took his hand and said, "Loyalty and righteousness are the virtues that people value, and now it's time for your martyrdom, come on." ”

The duty of the eldest son is to conquer the world, seek survival, and be loyal to the country. Even if it is open-minded like the Wei and Jin dynasties, in the eyes of these celebrities, it is also a matter of course. The eldest son is a compromise between the family and the state: doesn't it mean that loyalty and filial piety cannot be both? Then give the eldest son to the country to contribute to the emperor, and leave the younger son at home to fulfill filial piety in place of the eldest son. In the Wei and Jin dynasties, when the parents died in the family and needed to worry about it, if the young son was at home, the eldest son could go home without resignation, which was an unwritten agreement. Later, parents showed more kindness and love to their young sons, who were often at home, which created the law that children with strange personalities were not likely to be older sons.

A romance of the Wei and Jin dynasties, if not the romance of orphans, is mostly the romance of non-eldest sons. The younger sons are always able to find new ways without worrying about being condemned by their fathers: Xun Yu's youngest son Xun Cang pioneered, Wang Yan's younger brother Wang Cheng, Wei Qi's younger brother Wei Jue, and Shi Bao's youngest son Shi Chong. There is also a person who has already built a villa in the mountains, counting on being an official to do well, and the elder brother of General Anxi and Yuzhou Thorn Shi will cover him for a lifetime. Unexpectedly, people are not as good as heaven, my brother suffered a defeat, the family status suddenly declined, and the responsibility of revitalizing the family fell, so that he suddenly had to shoulder the responsibility of family honor and disgrace after being maverick for half a life.

This person's name is Xie An.