Most of the time, women's stories can only be excavated in the middle of the concubine's biography or wild history. Because in all fairness, there are quite a few women in Chinese history, but they are just monotonous, unusually monotonous.

Either Chen Ajiao, who died in Changmen Palace, or Lu Pheasant, who cut off his limbs and threw his rival in the pickle jar, or Wang Zhaojun, who was painted crooked by the painter and didn't have to be a palace concubine, so he had to engage in international relations. You must know that women fighting women are ruthless, especially in such a competition where a group of women take the favor of a man as the ultimate goal, it is the point of no return that has fought for their lives at the beginning and can only win and cannot lose.

Otherwise, it was Master Li who followed the prodigal son Yanqing, the Red Whisk Girl followed Li Jing, Dong Xiaowan followed the frontier, and elopement is the eternal theme. There are many love stories of dog blood, and it is inevitable to be allergic if you watch too much.

Fortunately, there is also a Wei and Jin Dynasty, so I can be pleased that a woman who has lived on this land has lived in her own and free, Mr. Zong Baihua said it well, it is "overbearing". They are smart and gentle, sober as the night moon in late autumn, and worthy of the word "sensitive".

Xie Daoyun was born in the Xie family, which was at its peak at that time, his uncle was the merry prime minister Xie An, and his younger brother was Xie Xuan, a general who won more with less in the Battle of Weishui. She is a writer and a poet. One day when it snowed heavily, Xie An asked the children of the Xie family to sing the snow, and the solid-eyed Xie Lang said that it was "sprinkling salt in the air", and this standard Guo Jing-like answer led to Xie Daoyun's eternal quatrain, "It's better for catkins to rise because of the wind."

In fact, Xie Lang said that it is not bad, if it is a form, salt and snow particles are indeed very similar, but as a poem, he lacks the gentle texture in Xie Daoyun's sentences, and lacks the longing of "winter has come, will spring be far away".

Cao Xueqin must like this story, and his sentence for the most cherished heroine Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions" is, "Pitiful Yongcai". Xie Daoyun has the fantasies that girls share, and the talent for discovering and interpreting beauty that other girls don't have. It's just that the more insight you have, the easier it is to be lonely - Xie Daoyun doesn't have a brother Bao who can be stubborn and stubborn with her and read the West Chamber.

As a woman from a high-ranking family, it is not surprising that Xie Daoyun married into the Wang family and became the wife of Wang Xizhi's eldest son, Wang Ningzhi. Originally, there were other candidates for her future husband: Wang Huizhi, who trekked through mountains and rivers to find friends on a snowy night but turned back in front of the door, planted bamboo everywhere, and declared that "how can there be no such gentleman for a day"; There is a writing "Danxue Phoenix Dance, Qingquan Dragon Leap", and later called "two kings" with his father Wang Xianzhi. Compared with his brothers, Wang Ningzhi has neither special skills nor personality, except for the oldest among the sons (Wang Xizhi's eldest son died early, and the second Wang Ningzhi became the largest), nothing can be called the first.

However, Xie An, who has a deep understanding of life and the political situation, chose Wang Ningzhi for Xie Daoyun.

Xie Daoyun was disappointed, dissatisfied, and complained. "The World Speaks New Words" records that when she went home to save her relatives, she once sighed to Xie An: "An uncle, there are Ah Da and Zhonglang; The group follows the brothers, and there are seals, hu, containment, and ends. Unexpectedly, in the world, there is Wang Lang! "Xie Daoyun's uncle includes Xie Wan, who is full of talent and singing, Xie Shang, who is proficient in music and calligraphy, Xie Shao, who is a scholar and speaker, Xie Xuan, who can write and martial arts, and Xie Lang, who is not as knowledgeable as Xie Daoyun's literary attainments, and Xie Yuan, who is also well-read, and Xie Yuan, who is a literary name.

For a while, the Xie family accounted for most of them, and when listing the talents of his own brothers, Xie Daoyun may not have muttered to the brothers of the Wang family: Huizhi, Xianzhi, are all handsome and talented men, why did you let me marry Wang Ningzhi!

The world is so big, there is a man like Wang Ningzhi!

This passage has always been used as Xie Daoyun's testimony to vent his frustration. However, when I took a closer look, I found that when Xie Daoyun said this, he was helpless and coquettish, and coquettishness was the main purpose, which was almost familiar: married women chatted and liked to criticize their husbands. However, when someone really attacks the gentlemen, it will be the ladies who will be the first to rise up.

Xie Daoyun may not be dissatisfied with Wang Ningzhi. Otherwise, with Xie An's favor for her, even if she is in harmony with the Wang family, she will not arbitrarily let her marry a Ning Zhi who she definitely doesn't like.

There are many talented women, but Xie Daoyun, who was trained by the wise Xie An, knows how to be full of enthusiasm and understand the trivialities and helplessness of life. She even understands quite "sophisticatedly" how a woman, a woman destined to take on the mission of "marriage", can spend her life in peace and comfort. Xie Daoyun is such a beautiful woman, and she knows in her heart that marrying Wang Ningzhi is her best choice.

Wang Huizhi is a willful person, although romantic, but changeable, if the Xie family girl runs out of the door in the middle of the night with this romantic talent, and then rushes back at dawn, I am afraid that I am worried that fatigue will have a long time to die; Wang Xianzhi first married the daughter of the Xi family, and then the Xi family lost power and married a princess, the Xi family and the Xie family are the same Eastern Jin Dynasty clan, Wang Xianzhi is either unkind or forced to do so, in short, Wang Xianzhi, who is too dazzling, cannot bring Xie Daoyun a sense of security for a lifetime.

Marrying the merry Hui Zhizhi is raising the case with eyebrows, but it is also a deep life. Later, Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng went from "gambling books to pour the fragrance of tea" to "Xiaoyun Qingqiu is cold", didn't it verify the correctness of Xie Daoyun's choice? The story of Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun from "Phoenix seeking phoenix, there is a beautiful lady in the boudoir" to "Zhu Xian is broken, and the mirror is missing" is a past that smart women can't talk about.

Wang Ningzhi doesn't have any special talent, but it's not too bad, he has a matching family background, no more, no less is a mixed talent, and he can occasionally chant poetry and talk about it. does not have too sharp character and talent, so he can avoid trouble in the troubled times, and steadily go from Jiangzhou to General Zuo all the way to the internal history.

Huiji is today's Shaoxing Shangyu area, which is the most beautiful scenery and the richest place in the entire Eastern Jin Dynasty. As the wife of the local governor there, Xie Daoyun's life should be comfortable.

Marrying Wang Ningzhi is Xie Daoyun's own choice, the present world is stable, and the years are quiet.

This is where this talented woman is really transparent, she finally jumped out of the vicious circle of only hearing the newcomer laugh but not the old crying, punctured the soap bubble that looked beautiful, gave up putting her whole life into a love gamble that was expensive at the time but the result was low, and reaped a marriage in plain love.

Xie always reminds me of Virginia Woolf, who became popular because of Nicole Kidman's film "All the Time". She was also born into a scholarly family, and often attended her father's tea parties, chatting with the best men of the time. Her friends include John Maynard Keynes, an economist who later saved the Great Depression, Russell, a mathematician who wrote A History of Western Philosophy, and Fleming, a novelist who was the father of 007. They later shared a common name, Bloomsbury, which eventually became a dream for the cultural world, making all later cultural people lament that they were born at the wrong time.

If he had been born more than a thousand years later, Xie Daoyun would not have been able to become the Virginia Woolf of China.

Xie Daoyun and Woolf are separated by more than a thousand years, but if you really compare the similarities, they both have the ability to see and appreciate beyond gender, and both have knowledge and talent comparable to men. However, as two women, perhaps the most interesting thing they have in common is that they both have a husband who knows how to appreciate them.

Woolf has severe obsessive-compulsive disorder and is often suicidal, and her husband, Renard Woolf, who knows how to appreciate her the most, has repeatedly rescued her. At a time when a woman writing had to endure all the criticism of a patriarchal society, it was Mr. Woolf who built a room of her own for Woolf, where she could leave a gift to all mankind. Although Renard's name is destined to be drowned in the crowd, without Mr. Woolf there would be no complete Mrs. Woolf.

Wang Ningzhi is not outstanding in history, he almost disappeared in the dazzling light of the other two brothers of the Wang family, and even Xie Daoyun's reputation at that time was higher than him, some people joked that the Wang family's contribution to history lies in the words of dedication, the birth of Huizhi and Ningzhi's wife. However, Wang Ningzhi did not show impatience, he did not limit Xie Daoyun's footprints and thoughts to the boudoir as a husband, and he did not let Xie Daoyun experience the upheaval that so many talented women have experienced throughout the ages.

It is certainly not easy for a man to tolerate and accept and appreciate his wife's talent and prestige above his own in a gentle and pleasant manner. Maybe he was mediocre, but he embraced her with his heart, protected her, and saved her from being frightened, suffering, displaced, and helpless in the years he could.

As a husband, Wang Ningzhi is outstanding, he fulfilled Xie Daoyun and used his ordinary.

Under his protection, Xie Daoyun is free, she has her own spiritual space and pursuit, no longer hoarding in the boudoir, no longer sad and sad, but intoxicated with philosophical thinking about life and the world. Looking closely at this woman, you often think that if she is not a woman, she should also be a member of the Heaven and Earth and Category Universe at the Lanting Meeting in the ninth year of Yonghe, and she should also be written into the "Yaliang" or "Arrangement" chapter like her uncle Xie An in "Shishuo Xinyu".

There was once a very knowledgeable nun who compared Xie Daoyun with Mrs. Gu, the sister of Zhang Xuan, a talented woman who was as famous as her at that time, and said: "Mrs. Wang is clear and clear, so she has the wind of the forest; Gu's wife is pure and jade, and she has her own boudoir show. "It looks like hello, I'm good, everyone, but the high and low are still separated: the boudoir show, the average woman works hard to study and does less wrong things, but a woman, with the demeanor of a sparse and clear bamboo forest celebrity, has already surpassed academic cultivation, but has a bearing and mind.

The Xie family often had literati gatherings, and the enlightened Xie An allowed the children to participate in them, and he once asked the children which of the verses in the Book of Songs they liked the most. Xie Xuan replied with deep aesthetic meaning: "In the past, I went back, and the willows were still there." Now I think about it, the rain and snow are falling". But what Xie Daoyun likes is "Ji Fu recites, Mu is like a breeze." Zhongshan Fu will always cherish his heart to comfort him". Like Xie An's favorite "Call for Mo to make a fate, tell from afar" from "The Book of Songs, Daya", it is a sentence that the old ministers of the Zhou Dynasty are worried about state affairs.

She is not only worried about state affairs, but also has a thorough view of the affairs of the world, she once reminded Xie Xuan that your talent is limited, and warned him not to be careful. At that time, Xie Xuan won the battle of Huangshui and was a strong minister with high achievements. Xie Daoyun saw the signs of prosperity and decline, and vaguely reminded Xie Xuan that it was time to stop.

She also cares about nature, like many smart people at that time, thinking about the relationship between life and heaven and earth, thinking about the mutual restraint between famous religion and nature, she must not be a woman who is easy to blush like a small jasper, and may have once traveled around the world dressed as a man.

Xie Daoyun once went to Mount Tai to play, and there are poems left:

E'e Dongyue is high, and Xiuji rushes to the sky.

The void in the middle of the rock, lonely and secluded.

Non-workman, non-craftsman, cloud structure is natural.

The weather is so happy that I have moved repeatedly.

Demolishing the house can be used all year long.

This was a popular metaphysical poem at that time, which paid attention to the intention beyond words, so the poem itself became obscure and difficult to read. The poems of the Six Dynasties can't be compared with the neat and beautiful poems of the Tang Dynasty, just looking at this sentence "Demolishing the mansion Siyu, you can live all the days", don't you think of the sentence with pride "Take the sky as the cover and the earth as the house"? Later, Tao Yuanming, who wrote "Picking Chrysanthemums under the East Fence", would definitely introduce Xie Daoyun as a kind of person and give her a glass of chrysanthemum wine.

It is common for women to write poems, Zhuo Wenjun wrote "Baitou Yin, Sadness and Parting", and Zuo Fen wrote "When to be a face, entertain the eyes in books and poems." Why complain about hard work, tell the love in the words", it is all well written, but after all, the spirit is not enough. It is a pity that there are no more themes in their lives other than husbands and parents, and it is inevitable that this is not the limitation of talent, but the narrowness of vision: Beauvoir said that the reason why women become a second sex is that they define themselves and identify themselves as women. Limit your focus to trivialities and parents, you are a lady, but you can't become a celebrity.

But Xie Daoyun was different, she attended family gatherings, listened to the conversations of the most talented and powerful men of the time, and even participated in their debates behind the young man. Her brother-in-law Wang Xianzhi once debated with others, and she heard that Wang Xianzhi had already lost the wind at that time and almost lost, but she didn't expect Xie Daoyun to speak out from behind the young man, and extended the original exhausted words step by step, and finally let the guests be poor and win a game for Wang Xianzhi.

You might think that the years are so quiet, and growing old may be the calmness that this wise woman deserves, but before her story finally ends, it is suddenly turned upside down. The last time such a unique woman appeared in the history books was a thrilling battle, but at that time she no longer had Wang Ningzhi's protection.

In the third year of Long An (399 AD), Sun En rebelled and attacked Huiji, and the pious Wudoumi disciple Wang Ningzhi did not organize the defenders, but confidently said that he had informed the gods in the sky that Sun En would be taken away in a short time. Wang Ningzhi didn't necessarily mean that he was so stupid, but Ning Zhi, who had been infected with celebrity and gentleness all his life, didn't believe it in his heart, and he couldn't imagine that Sun En really dared to do anything to him. However, the result was that the sword was ruthless, and Sun En's real sword and gun killed the general, and the blood spattered Ning Zhi's ideal of a celebrity.

Xie Daoyun's same tenacity and calmness as Xie An were reflected at this time: Hearing the news, Xie Daoyun immediately organized a group of women's troops, and he also went out with a sword. Although the flower fist embroidered legs may not work, it sent a strong and brave signal to Sun En: as the daughter of the Xie family and the daughter-in-law of the Wang family, she will resist to the end on behalf of these two high-ranking families. This can't but be said to be a signal that makes Sun En think twice.

Later, when Xie Daoyun's four sons were killed in the rebellion, and Sun En wanted to kill her grandson, the elderly Xie Daoyun angrily reprimanded him, "The matter is in the royal gate, why do you care about other clans?" This child is his grandson Liu Tao, if you want to be punished, you would rather kill me first! ”

Sun En had heard of Xie Daoyun's fame, and had just seen her bravery, and was angrily reprimanded again, and couldn't help but shudder when he thought about it: Wang Xie is a big family in the world, and he just killed five people surnamed Wang, and then killed a woman from the Xie family who is famous in the south of the Yangtze River, I am afraid that there may not be good fruits to eat in the future, so Xie Daoyun's grandson was saved from death.

Every time I see this story, I often unconsciously think that it was Wei Jin's freedom and open-mindedness that fulfilled Xie Daoyun, but it was also this troubled era that buried her carefully chosen life. It made a woman famous in the world, but it also made her bleak at night. Xie Daoyun used all her talents to arrange a lifetime of mediocrity for herself: she knew that a woman's happiness came from her mediocrity, and the ups and downs and misfortunes experienced by those women who left legends in books would be repeated in reality to break a woman's originally sensitive and warm heart.